Sivok Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 Hey everyone So I recently got out of a relationship a few weeks ago, went on a date with a new girl twice, and have been back to the drawing board since. I feel like I'm a good conversationalist and have a knack to make people laugh, sprinkled with a little bit of humored cockiness. However, the one problem I really have is physical escalation and building up that attraction. I'll go over these two dates I mentioned and say where I felt I went wrong. Date One I took her out for a lunch date where we had sushi to get to know each other better. It was brief -about an hour - and we both enjoyed each other's company so planned for another date. We greeted and parted with a hug. Date Two Dinner night. We met at a classy and romantic restaurant after work. It had dimmed lighting and a calm atmosphere. The chairs were lounge seating so we sat next to each other, had a few drinks along with hookah. She arrived dressed with a classy yet sexy dress showing off a bit of cleavage; much less conservative than our lunch date (jeans and a nice shirt). She had her hair straightened out, and appeared to light up when she saw me. The indicators of interest were there. However, as the night progressed, the conversation dulled down and the energy had gone. That was the last date we went on. Some hindsight notes: 1) I never complimented her on her looks or dress. In hindsight, I can see that she did make an effort to look great, but I never really commented on it. I guess I've never really been too great at compliments 2) Given the lounge setting, I feel like I could have made an effort to get a little more intimate. Maybe after making her laugh, putting my arm around her, hugging her, and saying she's adorable or something . 3) I feel like I wasn't being flirty enough, more so taking the 'safe' route. Basically, I feel like if I let her know I was attracted to her, we could've exited the restaurant holding hands to the car walk after, and possibly ended it with a kiss with more to come in our future. Maybe I'm being too hard on myself, but I think I chickened out. Part of me didn't want her to get the vibe that I might be desperate or too aggressive... Any input on this? Girls?
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