ItsAllGoodAgain Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 We haven't talked for over 6 months yet she still sends me these retarded forwarding e-mails. The ones where you have to send it to 10 people or your wish won't come true or "receive a free laptop" kind of e-mails. I'm pretty sure she just sends these as a mass e-mail. However, every time I receive one I get that little pit in my chest for a second or two and start thinking about her. I still wonder how she's doing and every now and then wish one of these e-mails were an actuall conversation starter. Should I e-mail her and ask her to stop sending these? Tell her if she has something to say then get a hold of me? Do you think she knows I'm on there and is just trying to make sure I don't forget about her? Maybe trying to see if I'll respond? I know I can block her address but... Another thing, I'm always the last e-mail address on her list. Everyone else is in alphabetical order and then mine.
Ilovecake Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 (edited) Her email account has been hacked by some spyware. She's not sending those messages they just automatically get sent to everyone in her contact list. She probably doesn't realize it's even happening. If it bothers you block her email address. You are the last email on the list because you're seeing "your email address" if she sent me one I would also show up as the last email on her list. The receiver will always see their name as the last one. Edited May 7, 2010 by Ilovecake
jlr Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 I don't know if she's been hacked. Maybe she sends those out. But yeah, it's just going out to people on her list, and you're obviously still on there. My ex did this. There were a few that could have been hacks, but mostly they were about like art events in our area, so those were legit. She just obviously didn't remove me from her contacts for those. The only thing that was weird was that sometimes she'd send out ones specifically to like me, and a couple other people she thought would be interested. So it wasn't like a mass thing, but to a group of people she thought was into it. Maybe a political thing, or sometimes about a music event or something. A couple of them seemed like she was trying to get my attention. She has stopped this, obviously removed me from the contacts or the lists. The major point though - if they wanted to REALLY talk to you, they'd do it. Even if these are ways to keep your attention, they're lousy. And if they're unintentional, they're still ****ty reminders about them that you don't need. I'd say just block her emails. If you have to contact her, it just shows her that you're making more out of it. But you don't need to see them, no matter if they are intentional or accidental.
sean1970 Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 You are the last email on the list because you're seeing "your email address" if she sent me one I would also show up as the last email on her list. The receiver will always see their name as the last one. Um, not true (says the guy that has worked for an Internet company for 14 years). The order of the address is as they were selected. And the to the eMails, it is unlikely that she has a virus. If this has been happening for some time unbeknown to her, someone would have told her she was spamming. I don't think three is any doubt she is sending them to you on purpose and to get your attention... A low cal breadcrumb if you will. How committed you are to NC will dictate how you deal with this.
txsilkysmoothe Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 My ex did this also. He had his contacts in "groups" and would send emails that would be of interest to the group. I would see all of the names alphabetically. Other times, he would send a fwd only to me. I definitely think your exes emails are deliberate. I agree that if she really wanted to talk to you she would. But, I also wonder if she thinks she doesn't have the right to contact you, is too scared, and is hoping you'll throw her a bone. I never took the bait. I decided if he wasn't mature enough to "say" something, he wasn't a man I could have a relationship with. The sad thing is that I would have responded favorably if he would have just said something - anything. Maybe you should forward them back to her and see if she speaks up or stops.
Author ItsAllGoodAgain Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 Breadcrumbs indeed. Part of me wants to block her but there is still that small part that is a little intrigued by her antics. I for sure will not respond to any of these. These weak moments of hers makes me wonder what she's thinking and why? I'll never find out and I honestly don't care to. Like jlr said, if she really wanted to talk to me she would. She'll eventually stop or move on to other antics. My vindictive side would like for her to go through a little anguish and frustration. A little pay back if you will.
Ilovecake Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 Um, not true (says the guy that has worked for an Internet company for 14 years). The order of the address is as they were selected. And the to the eMails, it is unlikely that she has a virus. If this has been happening for some time unbeknown to her, someone would have told her she was spamming. I don't think three is any doubt she is sending them to you on purpose and to get your attention... A low cal breadcrumb if you will. How committed you are to NC will dictate how you deal with this. Why would anybody in their right mind forward generic "receive a free laptop" advertisements to people? I would think since the author of this thread is saying that she's sending them to a group of people not just him, somebody would tell her to stop it by now. A friend of mine has had a problem for over a year with her email account forwarding spam to her entire contact list and she’s done everything to fix it yet the problem keeps coming back. I now know at least a dozen or more people that this has happened to and yes somehow my email address is always listed as the last. I’ve even received 'free laptop' spam from my boss who I really don’t think is trying to get my attention.
TaraMaiden Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 I actually replied to one of these. Please stop sending me these stupid "send this to 20 friends or you'll turn into a gherkin by midnight" crap. I don't appreciate them, and I don't have a list of friends I'd subject to this. I have too much respect for the people in my address book to bother them with this kind of voluntary spam. I think they're tedious, stupid and tiresome, and you won't be getting anything back from me, if they include the line "send this to all your friends including the person who sent it to you," because as far as I'm concerned, if you fall for this kind of moronic idiotic waste of time, then you don't deserve to be my friend." It had the desired effect. I've never received another one since, and guess what? Moron isn't my friend any more! Two birds with one stone! SORTED!!
sean1970 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Why would anybody in their right mind forward generic "receive a free laptop" advertisements to people?. She's an ex... are they ever in their right mind?
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