youaretheone Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 I met this girl in a group of friends in a festival at our college. We clicked on really well, had some alone time the first time we met, took a walk in campus, ate icecreams, flirted and got to know each other. I am not sure if this was a date or not. It came to me more like a "get to know each other" hang out but we have spent some alone time together so that the first date will not be between two people who doesn't know anything about each other. Anyway, I invited her on a date for tomorrow and she accepted willingly, after a funny and flirty texting and phone conversation. I am planning to take her to dinner in a nice and quiet restaurant with a live band playing and then a walk in the park nearby might follow up. However, I am worried if this would come on too strong for this date and a short coffee session would be more appropriate? What are your opinions on this? One more question is, we both don't have a car so would it be too clingy of me if I took the bus with her to her house as a gentleman? Thank you for reading!
Pyro Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 For the first question, that sounds like a great date. Not bad at all. For the second question, I would ask her or say that you would like to take her home to make sure she arrives safe. Maybe that sounds cheesy but I would do it if it were me. Sounds like you two are clicking well. Good luck.
befreckled Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 I am planning to take her to dinner in a nice and quiet restaurant with a live band playing and then a walk in the park nearby might follow up. However, I am worried if this would come on too strong for this date and a short coffee session would be more appropriate? What are your opinions on this? One more question is, we both don't have a car so would it be too clingy of me if I took the bus with her to her house as a gentleman? dinner with a live band seems interesting, a walk in a park sounds very sweet. there's no harm in making your interest clear from the get go. and a somewhat romantic dinner will do the trick. my first bf lived an hour from me by bus yet he would send me home all the time so we could have more time to chat/catch up. I think it's a very good way to spend more time with her. It would definitely be a gentlemanly act and there's no shame in that. milk it while you gotta chance!
Author youaretheone Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 Thank you for great advice. Any other opinions?
DustySaltus Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 The date sounds good. Women appreciate the thought of planning out a date, whatever it might entail. You won't look clingy if you pick her up. That's being a gentleman. Let us know how it goes.
Author youaretheone Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 I am just out of the date now and I think it went well. I offered to bus her home and she seemed eager to spend some more time with me. We did not kiss but she sent me a text message right after the date, saying she had a great time and didn't recognize how fast time has passed and we flirted like a couple over a few messages back and forth. We were very physical throughout the date but I did not want to make the kiss unnatural and premature so I decided to wait for the right moment. Do you think kissing is a neccessity for the first date to keep the attraction high?
Sivok Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 No not at all. It sounds like this is going places though. Goodluck!
alphamale Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 I am planning to take her to dinner in a nice and quiet restaurant with a live band playing and then a walk in the park nearby might follow up. However, I am worried if this would come on too strong for this date and a short coffee session would be more appropriate? What are your opinions on this? coffee dates are lame, go with the dinner One more question is, we both don't have a car so would it be too clingy of me if I took the bus with her to her house as a gentleman? only if she invites you
Arasae Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 Oh yeah, you did the right thing taking her to dinner. I'm always wary of guys who want to invite me out "for coffee" (unless I've JUST met them, as in, they walk up and ask for my phone number--then it's acceptable), just because it usually means they want to have a reason to ditch out early if they decide the date isn't going well. And frankly, I don't like wasting my time! It sounds like it went very well! No, you don't have to kiss on the first date for attraction to stay high! Several of my close friends flat out refuse to kiss on a first date, soooo you did a good thing. Don't wait longer than the third date, though; my current dating person waited to the third, and if he hadn't kissed me, I was going to kiss him (thanks to the encouragement of the people on this forum, haha!), but not all girls are that bold. =) Good luck and have fun!
Author youaretheone Posted May 8, 2010 Author Posted May 8, 2010 coffee dates are lame, go with the dinner only if she invites you Well, I am trying to avoid over-analyzing this small "busing her to home" part since the overall date went well but I think it made her happy. At least, we did have 20 more minutes to know about each other on her way home.
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