iloveyouuu56 Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 (edited) ive known this guy for awhile now, and ibumped into him in a job orientation 2 months ago and ill admit ive always been attracted to him.. and i have a boyfriend and he&my boyfriend know eachother but are enemies.. And i decided one day to call him from his friends phone [because he was fired] and ask him to hang out and if i could have his number.. And i called and he said it was fine and gave me his number.. i really was interested in him so i texted him two days later and was talking to him and he would ask me what i was doing and where do i live and stuff like that.. and i thought he was trying to get to know me.. and then one day i was by the job place i ran into him at and he happens to live a few blocks away so i told him to come meet me.. he came unannounced and i was talking to him for awhile and he was smiling and we were talking and then he asked me "werent you with your boyfriend the other day because thats what my friend told me" and i didnt understand why he brought that up but anyway.. the next day i was asking him things and at first he was flirting like saying "hahaha" and stuff and being flirtacious and out of nowhere he texted me saying "dont take this the wrong way but i have a girlfriend and i dont wanna give you the wrong idea but we can still be friends" and i told him that i didnt like him i was just trying to meet new ppl and stuff.. and i just stopped talking to him period.. and then i couldnt get him off my mind i dont know why i just couldnt stop thinking of him.. but this whole time i was rocky with my boyfriend we were on and off.. so my job moved to a new location and i keep seeing him.. i always bump into him out of nowhere.. and he seemed quite nervous when i saw him. he was with a girl so i figured it was his girlfriend so i didnt say anything to him..but i really wanted too, and it looked like they were arguing.. im not sure but i cant get him off of my mind and i wonder if he liked me too.. i dont know what to do :[ im with my boyfriend but i really want to know why im feeling this way if maybe he liked me too! please..give me your honest opinions Edited May 7, 2010 by iloveyouuu56
whichwayisup Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 ive known this guy for awhile now, and ibumped into him in a job orientation 2 months ago and ill admit ive always been attracted to him.. and i have a boyfriend and he&my boyfriend know eachother but are enemies.. Break up with your boyfriend, then go pursue "the enemy". Why are you willing to cheat and betray, hurt your boyfriend with someone he considers an enemy?? All because you find that other guy hot and you're attracted to him?
Author iloveyouuu56 Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 so you think i should break up with him and pursue the "enemy" ? i was rocky with my boyfriend at that time and we got back together but things with trust were an issue i caught him talking to other girls saying perverted things.. so i still dont trust him and thats why i went behind his back because i really wanted to get to know the enemy.. it sounds so wrong but i didnt know they were enemies until my boyfriend told me.
whichwayisup Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 You'd rather CHEAT and go behind your boyfriends back? Is it payback because you don't trust him? You two have some serious issues. Why play games? It doesn't matter if they are enemies, point is, two wrongs don't make a right and just because you have trust issues with your boyfriend isn't an excuse to go get to know this other guy that you're interested in. Work it out with your boyfriend, or break up with him. To stay with him and intentionally go behind his back is wrong.
Author iloveyouuu56 Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 i havent talked to the enemy in 2 months what im trying to say is i cant get him out of my mind and ill get over him and stop thinking of him and then all of a sudden ill bump into him, or ill hear his name and see his name everywhere.. and i dont know what to do.. i havent talked to him in awhile but im still stuck on him.. and i dont know why.. i just want to know if he liked me.. i dont know if the enemy did or not.
whichwayisup Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 That's your ego taking over. It doesn't matter if he likes you or not.. You have a boyfriend. Make yourself NOT think of him. Don't let yourself fantasize or wonder. Focus on your bf. Be active in helping yourself get over this guy. If you can't, then ask yourself if the boyfriend is the right one for you.
Author iloveyouuu56 Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 yes i know this, but everytime i do stop thinking of him i either see him out of nowhere or someone brings him up.. i got over it and i saw him yesterday and i was really over it..but he just had to pop up out of nowhere again.. i dont understand why i have to keep having these akward situations with him..
jthorne Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 No, he doesn't like you "like that". He made that clear when he told you he had a girlfriend. He said he wasn't interested in anything more than friendship- you should respect that. Perhaps the reason you cant get him off you mind if because he was a decent guy with character and intergrity, who did not wish to cheat on his girlfriend- unlike your boyfriend. Break up with your boyfriend. He's untrustworthy. If he was "the one", you wouldn't give another man a second's thought.
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