Pink Cupcakes Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 go to your apartment for a glass of wine on a second date? I have no plans on sleeping with him on the 2nd date....this isn't happening yet....but it seems like something nice to do at the end of a date? Or will a guy see this as an invitation to get intimate (which it is not.) Ages: Me, 42, Him 44 (if that makes a difference)
USMCHokie Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 The guy will certainly think that the two of you will get physical...but if he's a quality gent, he should be able to exercise restraint if you elect to hold off on sex... Otherwise, there's nothing wrong with that idea...
green apples Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 It's a nice idea though even if he's able to restrain himself, he might think of you as a tease. I would suggest to leave that for a later date to avoid confusion or misunderstandings.
D-Lish Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 Maybe you could do it before the date? Have a drink at your place and then go out? There is nothing wrong with inviting him back, but he may see it as an invitation to at least fool around a bit. If you're fine with some kissing, go for it.
ADF Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 He would almost certainly see it as an invitation to get intimate. He would see it that way because if a man made such an offer to a woman, that would almost certainly be the man's intension. I would avoid confusing him so early in your relationship.
Pfiend101 Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 I would definitely think you want to get it on. The idea about before the date may be best.
Author Pink Cupcakes Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 Thank you, I think I'll just make it a night out. He is picking me up, so maybe a glass of wine before but I know we'll drink something with dinner and don't want to over do it.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 Is it appropriate to ask a guy to go to your apartment for a glass of wine on a second date? Generally speaking, "If a woman invites you back to her place, she wants something intimate to happen". Of course you can Do whatever you like, and you can go on claiming that you have every right to share the kind of company and activities of your choosing in your own home. BUT the above quote is what men have long been fed, and it is yours to modify your behavior with as you see fit.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 Depends on his feelings for you. I as a man have hung out a bit for some conversation at a girl's place after a night out. One said I didn't have to drive home because it was raining. She was fun to talk to but I really had no interst in her except as a platonic companion. If he's devloped desires, he'll definitely take it as a green light for knocking boots. It's hard to gauge so if you're sure you don't want to make out or more, I'd advise against it.
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