processing Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 Boyfriend began a emotional affair, got busted by me, we broke up, two weeks later he contacted me and we spoke. Had a pretty nice conversation, kept it away from our previous relationship and yeah it was nice. I have discovered (mutual friends and from things he's said) that she wasn't exactly what he built her up to be in his mind (they hadn't even met yet when we broke up! just internet and phone) he met her last week after about six weeks and then after that, that's when he contacted me to say hello. He's kind of depressed, things in his life not going so well, misses me but hasn't said those magic words (I screwed up can we try it again) so I'm feeling like at the moment I'm his emotional crutch. The problem I have is that he removed her from fb awhile ago, met her through a friend of a friend on there - he's in his early thirties! - and removed her promptly when I put up a HUGE fuss because I didn't like their new 'friendship'. She felt like more than just a friend. Turns out I was right. But he readded her this past weekend two which means that they are still in communication online and most likely off. Things did not really work out between them the way he thought so they really are just friends now. Anyways... I don't mind LC with him again but I just can't deal with the fact that she's still his friends as he basically chose this woman over me. Is it unreasonable for me to let him know that I can't be his friend or etc while she is? He's known this woman six weeks, me two years. It just amazes me. Anyways... I guess that's it. Do you think it's unreasonable for me to ask this of him to continue communication from me? I really feel strongly about this. I can't be in his life in any capacity as long as she is. She was after all the nail in our relationship coffin. What do you think?
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