scoopy Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 (edited) My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago and I can't get over him and move on at all! I am exactly like the day we broke up, all crying and thinking is killing me We were friends for 3.5 years and it was a wonderful friendship. He really loved me and me too, we were a match. Then he moved to Canada and we were still like the first day but after 6 months of long distance relation one day out of no where he broke up with!! he said he can't take this any more. he is breaking! inside and he is ruining my life and my chances of marriage and if he breaks up now he will have chance to come back 3-4 years later but of he keeps this relation he will ruin any future of us said he wants to move on with his life without thinking about a girl thousand miles away from him ( I know he loves me or loved me but How could he loved me and broke up like that He keeps asking my friend if I’m alright or not I can't imagine he is moving on with his life without me Now he is happy?????? How can he be Why he ruined that relation (???? How can I get over him??? Everyday I want to send him an email but my friends don't let me. I want to tell him I won’t forgive him at all and I will never wish him good life he will never find some one that loves him as much as I do I just want him to say he made mistake I want him to realize he ruined his future I can’t convince myself I’m better off and he didn't love me the way i love him i would have never done this to him Omg what should I do??? I don’t know what I want ( I’m even not sure if I want him back now (After all these hell he put me through) Help me how can i come out of this hell of mine and move on??? Edited May 6, 2010 by scoopy
Cantcope Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Just keep NO Contact, and try to let go of some of the anger if you can. It's hard to give great advice when I'm still so "new" at this, but what can you do? You can't FORCE someone to be with you...unfortunately. Just do what I'm doing....when you don't have other stuff to occupy your time, read through old posts on here. Some of the advice is truly amazing! Sorry you are hurt!
t0ri Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 TIME is your best friend right now. It has only been 2 months for you, and when my ex broke up with me, I also felt the same the day he broke up with me as any day 2 months later. It took me 8 or 9 months to get over him, and we were together 2 years. You will learn to let go, and you will heal, and you will move on. You will have to learn to let go of the "why's," "what if's," but the sooner you do, the quicker you'll heal. It's a hard thing to do, I know. It sounds like he just didn't have the desire to make any effort in keeping a long distance relationship with you. Nobody will ever be able to explain why he felt that way, including yourself. Try and put your focus and energy on other things. Focus on YOU, not him and how he's feeling. Posting here helped me. I read books, exercising REALLY helped, I bought myself new clothes and such, I kept a journal, and I made a list of things I did not like about him and our relationship and would read it to remind myself of the negatives when all I could think of was the good. I went out with friends, but most importantly, I went and REMAINED in NO CONTACT! It will get easier and you'll eventually be able to see things in perspective and let go. I'm sorry you're hurting ((hugs)). Stay no contact!
burningheart Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 Sounds to me like he might of made some promises to you?.... did he ever tell you he loved you?....I think if you really want 2 1/2 months is okay to right a letter/email.... but don't tell him how much you hate him. Tell him about all the great things you have done(....crying and agonizing over him does not count!!!)....tell him you miss him and ask him what he has accomplished......the sooner you start to forgive the hurt he has cost you the quicker you can heal..... Stay strong, your broken heart will soon heal:rolleyes:
Author scoopy Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 thank you all i feel much better after reading your posts i try my best not to contact him although its really hard for me, if one day i couldn't hold myself what do you thing is the best to tell him in email??? and to burningheart: yes he made promises he told me he loves me thousands time and i'm the one for him and for marrying i'm his first choice thats why i'm really confused, i can't figure out what had happened and why suddenly he felt like this! i know he is not in a new relation i don't think i will ever forgive and forget him he was the one for me , we didn't even had quarrel at all we were planning for summer holiday the week before break up oh god it is really hard and unbelievable how am i supposed to forget all these stuff and believe its over
burningheart Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Why is no contact so important?..... I think this would really help if we knew the answer?..... They do say it works though..... so do stay strong and hold tight,.... But I'm right there along with you in sending the email . Just I'll wait two more weeks to do, Put first I need to post my story and see what everyone says...... ~Hold tight and be strong.
sean1970 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I think this would really help if we knew the answer?...... What 'answer' would be satisfying? What answer, that still had you apart, would make the pain hurt less?
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