coolgirl123 Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 (edited) My mistake the title was suppose to be " Could use some help" Hi, I am new to this forum. And was hoping to get advice because really I dont know how to handel this anymore. I dont know whether I have this in the right section or not. I met a guy on POF a dating website. We talked about a day or 2 and agreed to met up. Now, let me know he does have children but teenager children with one women only. And they were never married. At first he seemed so understanding, mature for his age and our conversations are going well for the very first time and I'm glad it was. So i met up with this man ( note he is 7 years older than me) he did not look like the guy in his pics which I understand its different when you see someone face to face. Also I tend to screw up anything that goes right for me and I cant stop for any reason. It was night time I could had barley see and he was to tierd. So out of my stupidy I txtd him and told him I just see a chemistry or connection between us and wished him the best. When I saw his myspace pictures he's a hot guy. Anyhow, i thanked him for taking the time and meeting me and said he enjoyed my company as well. This guy told me he was never married before and that was in a 2 year relationship and I beleived him at first. I googled his name and I found a site that pulled up his information. And on the status it wrote MARRIED. I was stunned at first and did confirm it with him. Did not accuse him of anything just asked a simple question. And I sent him the site as well. He goes of telling the me the information is not true I said look that your name your phone number your address and your telling me that's not true. Then he goes of telling me that its a paid site and how I got access to it. i said look to access this site you would have to pay but a part of the profile was on there. And he think's i'm lying to him. And now anytime we get into any conversation he told me he was upset with me at first that I pulled up the info. But then say's it cool and lets move on then goes of BS'ing me on why i did that. And then just stops the conversation. Not only that I had found out about his status. I also found a divorce record on online. He told me he was never MARRIED before but to find a divorce record. I mean how much of a dishonest person can he be. Not only that I found these 2 records of him. And I told him that was not my intention I just wanted to know who I was dealing with thats why I did some research so later on I wouldn't get hurt. When I found that site of him that had his martial status he goes of telling me that if any women left any feedback from him and I got ticked off. i said why in the world would he ask me this. And said look thats your profile why dont u go and take a look at it yourself. Then goes off trying to explain things to me. Yes, if he had been honest with me in the first place none of this would had happened but it did. I dont like the fact that when someone lies to me. Simply, I just drop this person competely. But I want to understand why ? And I told him I dont like to get into these nonsense situations and he knows it. Please dont tell me let it go and leave him alone and dont talk to him. I just want some sort of explanation as to why someone would do this? And he tells me if we didnt hit it off then at least I made a friend. that's fine he wants to be a friend but not like this. I dont. If someone that basically keeps doing what he's doing. i rather have no friends than to have anyone in my life if this is the way its going to go and causing nothing but problems. I cant and dont want to deal with someone else's problems. Edited May 6, 2010 by coolgirl123
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