eric82 Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 yeah true. but why the shear number of rejections? are all of them because of there preferences? is there something wrong with me? yeh when i spoke to her on fb i did feel a bit weird doing so, in person is better. when i see her i will apologize for fb chat and see how the convo goes. I don't even know you but I can tell just by the way you're describing your rejections that your attitude has a lot to do with why it keeps happening. You're taking things wayyyyy too personally. No girl stays attracted to a guy who feels sorry for himself. When you get turned down, it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you or that girls think they're better than you, it means the way that you are thinking about and acting around girls is preventing you from being the kind of guy that they want to be with. If you want to succeed more, change your attitude and behavior, and learn the fundamentals of attraction. Feeling sorry for yourself and blaming girls for your lack of dating success isn't the answer. Own up to the fact that your behavior and attitude play major parts in how other people perceive and treat you. Once you doubt yourself less and know what you want and what you have to offer, more people (not just girls, everyone) will instinctively want to be around you more because they'll see more value in you. That's why self-confidence and resilience are so crucial. Yes it's important to be yourself, but if the 'you' that you have been showing others isn't working, obviously you need to rethink your perceptions, beliefs, and actions, and make the improvements necessary to get what you want. Start by learning from where you are going wrong. Rather than getting all butt hurt about being rejected and blaming the girls as stuck up, realize that their honesty is actually doing you a favor. Life is short. Be glad that she isn't stringing you along pretending she's into you or using you until someone better comes along. She's allowing you to go for other attractive girls who might be into you. Oh, one more thing. Why would you apologize for facebook chatting? That's not even a thing to apologize for. Let me guess, you want her to see that you're nice and considerate, so hopefully she'll start to like you? Or are you just so used to being nice that it's working against you with females. Word of advise, don't apologize to girl unless it's something worth apologizing for... fb chatting isn't.
phineas Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Why is it that when a girl knows there hot or physically attractive ( not like super hot but you know the deal ), they automatically assume you want them?.. ( for me yes just like most guys i may fancy you, but i still value personality, and if they dont want to meet you how will you get to know anyone to give them a chance? you might look like a model but be as boring as watching paint dry) LOL! I know how the OP feels in this respect. sometimes I feel like I know a womans clevage better than I know her because they say so damn little & make it seem like all they gotta do to get my interest is let their boobs do the talking for them.
Malenfant Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 its not an answer, but I recommend you listen to a track called 'Fit But You Know It' by a group called The Streets.
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