Im Bitter than you Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Hey.. what's up everyone. This is a subject that really gives me the heebeejeebees. Everone has a certain type.. is attracted to a type.. etc. I know I have a type. I am a type. My type attracts certains types. Blah blah you know where I'm going with this... That the 'type' I'm attracted to aren't usually attracted back at me. I guess I like that bad girl type.. you know the deal. "But they don't like me booo hooo" Well.. it's not always the case.. my first couple of loves were like that, which is why I think I always felt like this. I always saw myself as the sorta nice guy but who bad girls loved. Well, I guess I *hoped* that was how it was. I didn't really know. But since it happened a few times, I just went on with my attraction toward that type of girl. In my mind.. there was no choice.. that was the kind of girl I'm gonna marry. Girls who aren't like them just do nothing for me. No attraction at all. But I feel like I should. I should be attracted to, what I guess in reality is more of my type. Otherwise I'll turn into one of those old bitter lonely men. So few years ago, a girl I met liked me, we started dating and all. She kinda looked like a bad girl type, but soon after she sorta unmasked herself and revealed she's a sweet, tender, nice person.. and under all the makeup and tight clothes, her true face was that of a nice, nice innocent nice person. And she wants to be that all the time.. and I feel like crap because once she revealed her true self I was no longer attracted. But I'm sticking it out cause I know I need to. I ain't a bad boy and I ain't gonna be happy with a bad girl cause I'm just not really that kind of person. It's just the plain ol' stupid "physical" attraction, and comfort with being all ghetto and sexual like every single day. It's hard to budge. How can you make yourself tone down all this stuff... I'm not quite wording this whole post right so I sound like a superficial douchebag...
LondonS Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Hey.. what's up everyone. This is a subject that really gives me the heebeejeebees. Everone has a certain type.. is attracted to a type.. etc. I know I have a type. I am a type. My type attracts certains types. Blah blah you know where I'm going with this... That the 'type' I'm attracted to aren't usually attracted back at me. I guess I like that bad girl type.. you know the deal. "But they don't like me booo hooo" Well.. it's not always the case.. my first couple of loves were like that, which is why I think I always felt like this. I always saw myself as the sorta nice guy but who bad girls loved. Well, I guess I *hoped* that was how it was. I didn't really know. But since it happened a few times, I just went on with my attraction toward that type of girl. In my mind.. there was no choice.. that was the kind of girl I'm gonna marry. Girls who aren't like them just do nothing for me. No attraction at all. But I feel like I should. I should be attracted to, what I guess in reality is more of my type. Otherwise I'll turn into one of those old bitter lonely men. So few years ago, a girl I met liked me, we started dating and all. She kinda looked like a bad girl type, but soon after she sorta unmasked herself and revealed she's a sweet, tender, nice person.. and under all the makeup and tight clothes, her true face was that of a nice, nice innocent nice person. And she wants to be that all the time.. and I feel like crap because once she revealed her true self I was no longer attracted. But I'm sticking it out cause I know I need to. I ain't a bad boy and I ain't gonna be happy with a bad girl cause I'm just not really that kind of person. It's just the plain ol' stupid "physical" attraction, and comfort with being all ghetto and sexual like every single day. It's hard to budge. How can you make yourself tone down all this stuff... I'm not quite wording this whole post right so I sound like a superficial douchebag... we all go on and on about our "types" but when we find someone attractive, whole thing goes out of the window. My cousin always ever dated blondes.. He would never even consider dating a girl who is not blonde... Lo and Behold.. He fell in love with a brunette with dark eyes and now married to her since 2005. I recently asked a guy out who is sooo not the type of guy I would normally like.. I think our generation need to losen up a bit and go with the flow of life, discovering all the possibilities that life throws at us. I think in this new time and era, why there are more single people then ever, because we somehow create an ideal image in our heads and spend our youth trying to match the possible partners with that image... I do like certain type of men but totally cool and open to who I meet and who I end up with...
OpenGL Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Men have types Women have requirements (and they are always the same).
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Yeah you do sound like a douchebag... That type crap is like so high school, Sometimes the people we really need to be with are the ones we least expect. Why is someone who your type more important than a woman that really wants to love you? That type crap alot of females fall into. Bad boy's crap, and all. I thought that was all in high school and as women matured they desired a real man who gave them real love but it's disheartening to see they still make stupid decisions in men that leave good guys such as myself standing in the dust. You need to grow up and realize that there is more to life. If you cannot control yourself and see this gift then let her go and let her find someone who will embrace that, go get the bad girl and get someone who is only gonna use you and do bad stuff to you in life. Because that's what's gonna happen, what man in his right mind is willing to be with a woman who's a bad girl. You know what kind of connotation does that say about the man himself that picks women who he knows is not good for him? WTf is wrong with you?
eric82 Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 What specifically did your girlfriend reveal about herself that made you see her as so nice, sweet, and innocent? What does she say/do that's different from before your perception of her changed?
blind_otter Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I don't believe in types. People who have "types" are in love with an idea inside their head, not a real person who actually exists.
Achellin Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I don't believe in types. People who have "types" are in love with an idea inside their head, not a real person who actually exists. So you would date both a Biker and a theoretical scientist, with no disreguard. Or do you have, requirements the have to meet. Or even more basic. good hygeen, bad? You just have a more flexible type. You have a list, even if its just personality. don't kid us plz. For me, I love upbeat women with a bit of spunk. If I am to be shallow I really really want to date a red head, then a brunet. My current girlfriend is a blond, so it shows you I'm not strict on it. Freckles are awesome. I love the nerdy girls. Not the gross or zombie like ones. The people with substance, that add excitement to my life. Have me go where I have never been and support me in my extremely stressfilled life.
harmfulsweetz Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Yeah you do sound like a douchebag... That type crap is like so high school, Sometimes the people we really need to be with are the ones we least expect. Why is someone who your type more important than a woman that really wants to love you? That type crap alot of females fall into. Bad boy's crap, and all. I thought that was all in high school and as women matured they desired a real man who gave them real love but it's disheartening to see they still make stupid decisions in men that leave good guys such as myself standing in the dust. You need to grow up and realize that there is more to life. If you cannot control yourself and see this gift then let her go and let her find someone who will embrace that, go get the bad girl and get someone who is only gonna use you and do bad stuff to you in life. Because that's what's gonna happen, what man in his right mind is willing to be with a woman who's a bad girl. You know what kind of connotation does that say about the man himself that picks women who he knows is not good for him? WTf is wrong with you? I have to say I agree. You see, type is a load of bull. Seriously. I think it's something more like a habit, we habitually choose the same type of people, and sometimes, those types of people are completely wrong for us. When we fall out of that trap, and choose someone that is completely right for us, we don't see it until it is too late because we spent all the time thinking 'they're not my type.' She may not be the sort of girl you normally go for, but how did those relationships work out? I'm guessing not well. Sometimes we all have to stop thinking in terms of types, and think in terms of individual people. I don't have a type. I honestly don't. I have habits of guys I go for, but those things never work out, and I'm not entirely convinced it's because I'm oh so attracted to them, I think it is just a habit. Better the devil you know so to speak.
USMCHokie Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 So you would date both a Biker and a theoretical scientist, with no disreguard. Or do you have, requirements the have to meet. Or even more basic. good hygeen, bad? You just have a more flexible type. You have a list, even if its just personality. don't kid us plz. I hope you aren't saying that you can accurately characterize a person simply based on their job or their hobbies... And seriously...hygeen...? Really...? And yes, you do sound like a superficial douchebag. I love upbeat women with a bit of spunk. If I am to be shallow I really really want to date a red head, then a brunet. My current girlfriend is a blond, so it shows you I'm not strict on it. Freckles are awesome. I love the nerdy girls. Not the gross or zombie like ones. The people with substance, that add excitement to my life. Have me go where I have never been and support me in my extremely stressfilled life. And are you sure that you'd have substance to offer them...?
blind_otter Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 So you would date both a Biker and a theoretical scientist, with no disreguard. Or do you have, requirements the have to meet. Or even more basic. good hygeen, bad? You just have a more flexible type. You have a list, even if its just personality. don't kid us plz. I'm not kidding you. I've dated college grads, ex convicts, guys in grad school, guys still in college, professional men, with heights ranging from 5'1 to 6'4. I've dated high school drop outs, men in the military, bald men, hairy men, men of various ethnicities, men with varying levels of personal hygiene, even. Boy was that a mistake. I used to enjoy all flavors of men, for the same reason some men just love all kinds of women. Now, I like none of the flavors.
Author Im Bitter than you Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Chrome.. actually, it's not so high school. Your in NY you should know that.. LA and NY is an eternal high school. I know that ain't IDEAL, and you're missing the whole point of my post. That some guys have internal "douchebag" feelings, yet have to act "un-douchey" outside, all the time. Okay "bad girl" and everything "bad" was wrong choice of word. The girls I'm picturing actually are pretty damn nice. But bad in the sense that they've grown up with, and are used to, bad elements in life, like they grew up in the hood and so on. But they're the "good ones".. it's just that they are used to interacting in that type of environment. And when they meet a guy who's all from the burbs, educated, upper middle class.. maybe they connect and are attracted but it's like... That really is a unique situation. Now if you go on, say a dating website, where it's all about looking at a picture and judging in 5 seconds... That same guy they might of connected with, on there they just pass. Cause the assumption is not my type... *Okay, i'll admit.. I'm just having one of those moments... because of stupid online dating sites. Those sites make me examine this stuff under a microscope and I hate it.
blind_otter Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Cheese and crackers, dude, get off the dating websites. I tried that route before I met my last ex, and I just ran into a series of choads and asshats.
harmfulsweetz Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I'm not kidding you. I've dated college grads, ex convicts, guys in grad school, guys still in college, professional men, with heights ranging from 5'1 to 6'4. I've dated high school drop outs, men in the military, bald men, hairy men, men of various ethnicities, men with varying levels of personal hygiene, even. Boy was that a mistake. I used to enjoy all flavors of men, for the same reason some men just love all kinds of women. Now, I like none of the flavors. Know the feeling! I seriously don't look at guys and think to myself 'not my type', or something like that. I like men, well, I did, and it depends on the individual.
Author Im Bitter than you Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Okay... about "TYPES"... Here's the deal. Let's use the Biker and theoretical scientist as examples.... Let's say the Biker is Jesse James, since we all know him. Let's use the Intel guy, that Indian dude from the commercial as the scientist. Those two guys could actually be considered a girl's "type" in her head, because what she defines as "type" is up to her. Maybe to her, her "type" are men who appear on TV. Well, both Jesse James and Indian dude appeared on TV. Therefore, they're both her "type" My "type" is.. well... I can't quite say, she is such and such type because of xyz... It's just... she's a type. I mean.. go on a dating site. Look at the girls who's pictures are of themselves and their girlfriends holding a martini in some posh club. You don't think that's a "type"? Seems like a "type" to me...
Author Im Bitter than you Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Cheese and crackers, dude, get off the dating websites. I tried that route before I met my last ex, and I just ran into a series of choads and asshats. Yah that's the thing. I been off for years. Gave it up. Dating sites USED to be good.. like in the 90's hehe. It wasn't a business back then. But I mean... you know, things change. You yourself may very well go back one of these days. You never know... things don't work out with your current... long time away, your confidence levels change... etc. I made the mistake of giving another try. People like me, those sites are seriously unhealthy.
Author Im Bitter than you Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Sorry I keep posting.. I'm on a manic 'high' right now... Few more and I'll stop What I'm talking about here is the by and large. Say for example.... some skater dude really loves working class career women. And by skater dude, I mean 5'6", bright colored tshirt, freaky hair. Career woman.. business casual, walks in the park, whatever. Could these two hook up? Of course. But would he probably have a much higher rate of success if he were to say, be attracted to little indie girls who go to art school?? anyway, this is getting dumb.
SilentVoice Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Sorry I keep posting.. I'm on a manic 'high' right now... Few more and I'll stop What I'm talking about here is the by and large. Say for example.... some skater dude really loves working class career women. And by skater dude, I mean 5'6", bright colored tshirt, freaky hair. Career woman.. business casual, walks in the park, whatever. Could these two hook up? Of course. But would he probably have a much higher rate of success if he were to say, be attracted to little indie girls who go to art school?? anyway, this is getting dumb. i think i understand what you are saying but i think type may just be the wrong word.. but i understand what you are getting at... i don't agree but i do understand.. or at least i think i understand
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I get what your saying and i agree nyc is eternal high school, especially for the in crowd if you run in those circles. But im just a man, and i deserve a good woman, not an immature bitch who cant get her head on straight. I'm almost 30 for godsakes. isnt it time we grew up?
You'reasian Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Hey.. what's up everyone. This is a subject that really gives me the heebeejeebees. Everone has a certain type.. is attracted to a type.. etc. I know I have a type. I am a type. My type attracts certains types. Blah blah you know where I'm going with this... That the 'type' I'm attracted to aren't usually attracted back at me. I guess I like that bad girl type.. you know the deal. "But they don't like me booo hooo" Well.. it's not always the case.. my first couple of loves were like that, which is why I think I always felt like this. I always saw myself as the sorta nice guy but who bad girls loved. Well, I guess I *hoped* that was how it was. I didn't really know. But since it happened a few times, I just went on with my attraction toward that type of girl. In my mind.. there was no choice.. that was the kind of girl I'm gonna marry. Girls who aren't like them just do nothing for me. No attraction at all. I'm not quite wording this whole post right so I sound like a superficial douchebag... Some people have types - but people also change and try different types, so I don't think there's only one type that someone is attracted to.
spookie Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 I get the type of "type" you're referring to. I also have a pretty clear pic in my mind of the kind of girls you're referring to. The hot girls with street smarts who look like they'd fight dirty. Intelligent, but anti-academic. Sexy, but capable of using that sexuality as a means to some other end. I think you've got it all backwards tho. We have "types" to help us identify the kind of PERSON we want. Some guys think, I want a career woman, because career women tend to be __, __, and __. A little indie girl who goes to art school might have all these qualities, while the randomly picked career woman might lack them, but stereotypes exist for a reason, and we use them to help predict who a person will be, when we date. IMO if your gf isn't doing it for you, what your referring to actually goes deeper than you seem to think. You were hoping she'd have those qualities you associate with "bad" girls, but she doesn't. However, it may be that you shouldn't be attracted to those girls anyway, for your own good. Do you think that's the case?
Toki Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 The only "type" I don't date, are the one's really hard into drugs, or can't take good basic care of themselves, other than that I don't discriminate, age plays a factor but I use the min/max age calculator Age divided in half plus seven for minimum age... Age x 1.5 for max age, although I'm not by the book.
gypsy_nicky Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 I'm not kidding you. I've dated college grads, ex convicts, guys in grad school, guys still in college, professional men, with heights ranging from 5'1 to 6'4. I've dated high school drop outs, men in the military, bald men, hairy men, men of various ethnicities, men with varying levels of personal hygiene, even. Boy was that a mistake. I used to enjoy all flavors of men, for the same reason some men just love all kinds of women. Now, I like none of the flavors. is that why they call you the 'blind otter'?
phineas Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 When I hear a woman in her 30's say anything about "type" It's a huge turn-off & I loose interest. I loose interest because I KNOW if I'm not their "type" they will drop me like a hot potato the second their "type" walks by.
sally4sara Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Types. But there is types and there is packaging. Like with the OP, he talks of a girl who was the nice type, but was packaged to look different. I like smart, sarcastic, geeks with a sense of honor, who look urban punk. Not all who look my type have the qualities I like. Not all who have those qualities look appealing.
phineas Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 I find dark haired women with olive skin very beutiful. They catch my eye for sure. But I married a pale redhead so go figure. i'm divorcing now & coincidently talking to a dark haired woman with olive skin. I'm also talking to a blond & a woman with brown hair. The thing that would make one more attractive than the other would be the amount of interest they show in me.
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