wayfaerer1 Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I can't believe how long it's been since I've been on here, but I'm glad this place still exists. It helped me through so much pain in the past. (I'm 25 years old now) I've been seeing this girl for about 4 months now. Long story short, after 2 months, I sat down with her and talked to her about getting serious. I asked her if she had any interest in getting more serious. She didn't say yes, but didn't say no. She basically hinted towards it was heading in that direction and she liked how things were progressing. So, although I wasn't quite happy with that answer, I accepted it and just went with the flow. Then I started to second guess my time spent with her - whether I really liked her or if I was just happy because for the first time in a long time, an attractive girl seemed to like me back. About 3 weeks ago, one of my friends said she wanted to introduce me to a friend of hers. I thought, well, I'm not in an exclusive relationship, so why not? I should have the right to explore my options. Well, things have now been progressing with this girl. We've seen each other the last 2 weekends - had a great time hanging out. She's more down to earth and I just feel like I could picture myself with her more so than the girl I've been seeing for 4 months. After this past weekend, I knew that I should probably end things with the girl I've been seeing all this time to pursue this new catch. I mean, like I said before, we aren't exclusive, so I see nothing wrong with me exploring what else is out there. Problem is that now girl A (the one I've been seeing for 4 months) is all of sudden becoming more and more into me it seems. The girl I met a couple weeks ago - I just feel more comfortable around her. What should I do? I suppose the best thing to do here is to take the high road and be honest with Girl A and tell her things aren't going to work. I'm just really upset about this because I've been the one in the past who's gotten hurt a lot. Now, it seems I'll be the bringer of bad news for a girl who really seems to care about me. I see no other way though. To those of you I met who are still on here - I hope things are going well for you all.
PrettyinInk Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 that is a tough position; four months is not a insanely long time, but still long enough to make a real emotional connection with someone, i suppose it all depends on how much time you have spent together in those for months. maybe girl one is showing more interest in you now because you are backing away to spend more time with girl two? at any rate, if you like girl two more then you should end things with girl one, don't mention that you found someone else, it is unecessary. doing this sooner rather than later and in person is the best option. good luck, no one likes to be broken up with, and i would like to believe that most people do not like breaking up with someone either. rejection sucks!
Philetus Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Sounds to me like you've already made a decision and are just looking for permission to follow your heart. I mean that will all respect and I'm not slagging you at all. I've done the same thing on occasion. Follow your heart. Be honest with girl A and let her go. If it doesn't work out with this new girl, know that you made the right choice for you at the time. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't mean it was the wrong choice, it just means it didn't work out. All the best.
Sivok Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Break up with A and pursue B. If you don't, you're not giving yourself completely to either of these girls and may lose both. You're stringing them along if you dont make a decision
malala7 Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 If you accepted meeting a new girl while dating A, that simply means that althoug you enjoyed A's company she wasn't the one. Don't make her waste her time. Go ahead and give this new girl a try if it doesn't work out at least you know you were honest with your self. Best of luck !)
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