Kristy19 Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 So I started talking to this guy back in November and around December we had lost connection. Around the start of April we started talking again and we had constantly made plans to hang out but never got to because I'm going through family issues, now today we had planned to hang out but this morning I got a phone call from this girl on a withheld number and she asked me if I knew this guy and what kind of relationship we had. I told her I did know him and we had just a friendship. Come to my surprise she tells me that she's his fiance. At that point I was pissed and wanted to get off the phone and call this guy. I did call him but we didn't talk for that long because he was at work. I had asked straight up if he was engaged or not and told him to be honest. He told me no and that he just got a divorce from his ex-wife that cheated on him. A part of me wants to believe him but the other part doesn't. So I sent him a text to let him know how upset/pissed I was. No response yet. I'm now at the point where I want to call him after he gets off of work or just not call him at all. The only thing thats running through my mind is if he is telling the truth that this girl was either his ex wife or some girl he was telling me about that was stalking him but she lives in Ohio. I just don't know what to do.
Author Kristy19 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Did you confront him about the other woman calling? Once I got off the phone with her I called him and asked and he said no and what was this girl's name. I sent him text saying how pissed off I was and that's when he sent one back saying that he did have a fiance and that he ****ed up and lied to everyone.
Arasae Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Hmm.. my experience has been that, when a girl calls you and tells you she's seeing someone, she means it. The instances where there's a crazy psychotic woman bent on revenge are usually the exception rather than the rule.. so.. I'd believe the woman over him. And yes, I'd be livid, especially if you two were supposed to date. But, lividness aside, methinks you should just move on.. he simply isn't worth your time, energy, or anger. I mean, even giving him a piece of your mind isn't worth it; he still has to live with himself. You, however, do not. =)
Author Kristy19 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Hmm.. my experience has been that, when a girl calls you and tells you she's seeing someone, she means it. The instances where there's a crazy psychotic woman bent on revenge are usually the exception rather than the rule.. so.. I'd believe the woman over him. And yes, I'd be livid, especially if you two were supposed to date. But, lividness aside, methinks you should just move on.. he simply isn't worth your time, energy, or anger. I mean, even giving him a piece of your mind isn't worth it; he still has to live with himself. You, however, do not. =) That's so true but I'm just upset because I've told this guy things that my family doesn't know about and I guess biggest thing that's going through my head is that how long has him and this girl been together.
Arasae Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Does it really matter how long he's been with her? Fact: He lied to her. Fact: He lied to you. Fact: He was planning on betraying BOTH of you ladies' trust. Fact: It took skanky the homewrecker to tell you--not him. Ergo, Fact..: You are better off losing 170 lbs. in the form of your loser boyfriend, regardless of how close you were with him. He's a jerk and he's not worth any of your energy.
jthorne Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Once I got off the phone with her I called him and asked and he said no and what was this girl's name. I sent him text saying how pissed off I was and that's when he sent one back saying that he did have a fiance and that he ****ed up and lied to everyone.You have EVERY right to be mad. I'm sorry this happened, but be glad that it never got that far with him. I'd expect some time to pass and him to contact you telling you his fiance dumped him. Which may or may not be true, since he's proven himself to be totally untrustworthy. Just be ready.
jthorne Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 (edited) Fact: It took skanky the homewrecker to tell you--not him. Where are you getting that his financee is a skanky homewrecker? So this guy has an ex wife (if that's true), and he's already cheating on his new fiancee? Run far away from this guy. Edited May 5, 2010 by jthorne
Author Kristy19 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 You have EVERY right to be mad. I'm sorry this happened, but be glad that it never got that far with him. I'd expect some time to pass and him to contact you telling you his fiance dumped him. Which may or may not be true, since he's proven himself to be totally untrustworthy. Just be ready. I'm glad to. Hurt but glad. I just know if he ever tries to contact me again I'm just going to tell him I lost all faith and trust him and I can't deal with someone like that.
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