califnan Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Ok good. I'm sorry if I jumped the gun and was hard on you. But I still think he needs to give Grandma's quilt back. (as long as you don't have to see him) ------------------- Yes, puleeze get the quilt back ..
califnan Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 And did you tell him that he's no longer allowed to call you Peanut? Awfully presumptive of him to continue to call you that. It disrespects you and your space. ------------------- I'll go for that too ... No "peanut" - and get the quilt back ..
califnan Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 who cares about a dumb quilt -------------------- Glad you asked Jeff. Relationships come and go .. (this has been a destructive and time consuming one).. But a quilt inherited from her grandmother - to me is to be more cherished, and held onto than the relationship of a user. I think there are even other quilts from her grandmother - and Still, the quilt should Come Back....
whichwayisup Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Let me ask, what was the point of you contacting (emailing) exMM to let him know his wife emailed you on fb? He's playing with your emotions and getting a kick out of it, hense calling you "peanut." How disrespectful is that seeing as you two have broken up. Don't respond to her and block her. And, don't email exMM anymore, there is no point in having LC with him at all! Do full on NC. And whatever the status of their marriage is or isn't, you shouldn't care .. Unless deep down you're hoping when/if he does D, he'll come find you?
Samantha0905 Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Apology accepted I DO want that darn quilt! The one time we did talk, he brought that up: "Oh ya, Peanut... I do still use the quilt. I love it.. I snuggle with it... it reminds me of you." BLECH Glad you have had a date! I say keep dating. Definitely get the quilt back from him. The sentimental attachment you have to it (your grandmother) is way more valuable.
Confused4Now Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Let me ask, what was the point of you contacting (emailing) exMM to let him know his wife emailed you on fb? He's playing with your emotions and getting a kick out of it, hense calling you "peanut." How disrespectful is that seeing as you two have broken up. Don't respond to her and block her. And, don't email exMM anymore, there is no point in having LC with him at all! Do full on NC. And whatever the status of their marriage is or isn't, you shouldn't care .. Unless deep down you're hoping when/if he does D, he'll come find you?I'm with WWIU on this...all I see here is Drama, Drama and Drama.....Deactivate your FB or block it...it's obvious you are cyber stalking this man and he does not respect you.... its obvious to him that you want something more from him than what he wants from you. Do full on NC....let the punk figure out what he wants to do without you there. What a loser.....ugh
RedDevil66 Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Drama is the fuel to any addiction. There seems to be a very DEEP bottom here. Sad as he*ll
bittersweet memories Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 This Facebook message didn't indicate at all that they were back together. Quite the contrary, actually. It was clear that they still are not together. It was merely the BS venting her anger, which of course is her right. So my "little friend" as you call them wasn't wrong, although it really doesn't matter now anyway. xMM's story and the message I received thru Facebook match perfectly, believe it or not. Her intention in the message was not to warn me away but to vent about what has already happened (again, I expect this and it is her right to vent and insult). The facebook message doesn't have to indicate anything. He, himself told you a couple of weeks ago "I can't do this. I'm going back to try to make my marriage work. I'm sorry. Go love someone who deserves you. Goodbye." Leave the man alone and stop finding any excuse to reach out to him. Maybe that has something to do with the wife getting in touch with you. Stay away from her husband and the drama will go away.. Period.
torranceshipman Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 I'd just delete it and forget about it. Take the higher ground on this one - the BS will be hurting badly, her friends are obviously good friends that want to protect her, and this is normal stuff. It is understandable. It is only a FB message - you can delete that. Remember that she had to learn about another woman having sex with her H and losing her H too...that's tough and she obviously needs to express herself a bit. To be fair she has every right to hate you AND her H.
jthorne Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Maybe the FB message gave you a reason to contact him? Which is weird since you said you didn't have a way to contact him, other than calling his work or his wife (something like that). This is sad to me, because if you were done with him, you wouldn't have contacted him over it. You'd have deleted it, been miffed that a stranger critiqued your parenting skills, but gone about your day without drama. I do hope that I'm wrong, but I think that if he showed up on your doorstep today with divorce papers in hand, you would take him back. After all that he's done to you, I think that is very very sad. I know you think you are taking what steps you can take, and feel like we are all jumping on you, and not seeing that you are trying. I imagine what you see as great leaps, we are seeing as baby steps. We've just all seen you be sucked back in by his drama time and time again, and hurt needlessly. Read my last word: Needlessly. Here's another thing: It's HIS drama now, not yours. It's up to you to completely walk away. You don't owe him anything. (But he still owes you your quilt.)
torranceshipman Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Nice move on the date with the new guy btw - keep us posted! It is cool to just turn your back on all this crap MM / OW drama, and start afresh, re-define yourself as young, single and dating Lets face it, A's are always full of drama and stress and upset - close the door on it and move on!
twinsmom Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 I hate to say it, but I think she would take him back withOUT divorce papers in hand.
Dexter Morgan Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 but the rest of it I expect and understand (although it was worded in a very immature way). don't know why you are worried about the maturity of the message you got seeing as its not very mature to sleep with another woman's husband.
RedDevil66 Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Nice move on the date with the new guy btw - keep us posted! It is cool to just turn your back on all this crap MM / OW drama, and start afresh, re-define yourself as young, single and dating Lets face it, A's are always full of drama and stress and upset - close the door on it and move on! reall? do you think a woman who's drowing in mental anguish and illness should really be out there trying to date other men? Don't you think a healthier alternative would be to focus on her mental health and her children who are going to suffer terribly from having a obsessed/addictive mother? Please, date! Come on people! Am I the only one who sees how deep IMTK is?
RedDevil66 Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 I hate to say it, but I think she would take him back withOUT divorce papers in hand. Of couse she would, just like an addict needs their next hit. this women is suffering pretty bad!
fooled once Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Since IMTK hasn't come back, makes me wonder if maybe we hit the nail on the head with some things. Regarding the quilt...let it go. Maybe in 2 years you will be strong enough to face him regarding stuff. I think the reason you potentially didn't ask him about the quilt because it gives you a reason to contact him again, it gives you a reason to see him. It ties you to him in some way. Just my thoughts........
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