supersub Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Well I split with my girl in December. I went NC, and she recently contacted me saying she wanted to try again. We had some moments after this where we both a little hesitant, but we saw each other last week which went well, and now have a date planned for this Sunday. Now I'm not saying that this is clear cut and we are back together, but I am saying that I have a shot at it, and will be taking this as slow as possible. I just want you all to know that if you can go NC, work on yourself a little and change some things, you can get a shot at a second chance. Which is where I am at. I know my ex said I looked tanned, bright eyed and fit, (she still thinks I'm gorgeous. LOL!) so she knows I have been working on myself. Good luck to everyone who's having a tough time of it, there is always hope, keep improving yourself, and please wish me luck too for Sunday!
lullaby Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Hey!!!! so happy to hear that!!! I kinda know how it feels. Read my post and you'll see. Yeah, NC is for oneself, and to improve and get better and then you'll feel like you're stronger than before. Don't you feel that? Like you see everything clearer now???? Hope it works well for both of us!!!
Author supersub Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Hey!!!! so happy to hear that!!! I kinda know how it feels. Read my post and you'll see. Yeah, NC is for oneself, and to improve and get better and then you'll feel like you're stronger than before. Don't you feel that? Like you see everything clearer now???? Hope it works well for both of us!!! I do see things clearer lullaby. I'm certainly not emotional about this now, but I am weary that just because I have a shot, it doesn't mean that its fully healed or resolved. There will be a time to talk serious, but not yet, just have to go slow. It will take some time, and time will tell. Best of luck to you too!!!
missfrenchie Posted May 6, 2010 Posted May 6, 2010 Good luck to both of you.... It must be a really wonderful feeling
Author supersub Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 All went very well. Felt like a great first date. Just be indifferent and don't expect anything. Peace out. L.S'ers.
wingman2 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Glad to hear that man. Hopefully one day I will post a thread on here talking about my first date with my ex. Wish you the best of luck and hope you continue to make progress. I'm still not completely over, I need to be doing more for myself and regardless of it being 2 months since the breakup I still have tough days and days where I just miss her to death and then somedays where I feel anger towards her but I do feel as if I can manage a bit easier from here on.
Tim The Enchanter Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 All went very well. Felt like a great first date. Just be indifferent and don't expect anything. Peace out. L.S'ers. I really hope it works out for you. I'm in a similar situation where I've started talking to my ex again. I agree with you about being indifferent and not trying to force anything, it's the best way. I asked my ex if she wanted to meet for a drink, and I was surprised at how readily she accepted. Of course, I'm playing it cool for now. I also agree about using the NC time to take stock of yourself and make changes, if need be. I had an anger problem that was the primary cause of my relationship failing, and have made huge steps in addressing it since I went NC.
Author supersub Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 Thanks Tim, I just wish people would stop following the blog thinking that I am about to get married and have kids on the way! LOL! Its just a good start that's all. It could all go pear shaped tomorrow, but even if it does I will be smiling still! Good luck to you too my friend.
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