LostMe Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 How would one explain to their spouse that they are going away to an OW/OM Conference??? That would be an interesting conversation! But definitely a fun trip!! Yeah- we could all turn up and practice NC!!! But that would not be fun! (apologies to stopthedrama who is trying to keep this thread on track!)
Author secretlady76 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 How would one explain to their spouse that they are going away to an OW/OM Conference??? That would be an interesting conversation! But definitely a fun trip!! Could be a tele-conference I guess.. Anyway, wow, I've never thought about what you people would look like, although I have decided that any OW/OM would be drop dead georgous of course, I mean, what other reason would anyone have married people chasing after them (well apart from great personality and all that other b*****)....!!
Author secretlady76 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Yeah- we could all turn up and practice NC!!! But that would not be fun! (apologies to stopthedrama who is trying to keep this thread on track!) Practice NC; not speak or look at eachother, wow that would be a fun packed conference....!
hopeless4u Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Yeah, LD - the Land of Sunshine really could mean a lot of things but had you pegged as american but very cool and HOT! Maybe because Designing Women was one of my favorite shows years back.... I just didn't know if sunshine was Cali or Southern... Didn't want to "Stereotype"!! I picture Joey as a really sweet, dark-haired guy with cool glasses. Nice smile too. Yep I agree, anyone from anywhere with sunshine I can assure will not be the UK....As soon as I see sunshine I think US....Lucky, lucky people...I'll be there on Tuesday, anyone near Vegas and fancies a party with some good old(young) British girls then let me know;)
Just a stone's throw Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 H4U - Wish I could join you! Sounds like lots of fun, not so much where I am.... work, work, work (and Love Shacking - which sounds dirtier than it is).
joey66 Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I don't know if this will help you but, when I finally realized that the man I cared for was not the man xMM really is, I mourned the loss as though it was an actual death. To me, that man did indeed die (if he ever truly existed). This helped me to separate that person from the one I still have to deal with at work. It was a difficult process but I no longer think back to the good times in the A after I see him/correspond with him. He isn't that person. The man I cared for does not exist. The problem is that the person I thought MW was, and the person she really is, share the same body. They could be twins. And I think they're hot! whilst loo humour and behaviour SL - Du hast unrecht. Ich bin nicht Engländer.
ladydesigner Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 H4U - Wish I could join you! Sounds like lots of fun' date=' not so much where I am.... work, work, work (and Love Shacking - which sounds dirtier than it is).[/quote'] Ha ha ha I Shack at work too. Keeps me busy when the work is slow.
hopeless4u Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 H4U - Wish I could join you! Sounds like lots of fun' date=' not so much where I am.... work, work, work (and Love Shacking - which sounds dirtier than it is).[/quote'] I'll be work, work, work when I get back if that makes you feel better....need to actually put food in the fridge (another British thing) not the food but the 'refridgerator' (can't spell, can I??) :-/
ladydesigner Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Yep I agree, anyone from anywhere with sunshine I can assure will not be the UK....As soon as I see sunshine I think US....Lucky, lucky people...I'll be there on Tuesday, anyone near Vegas and fancies a party with some good old(young) British girls then let me know;) Wooo Vegas on Tuesday. Have a blast. I am only a matter of hours away but unfortunately would not be able to make it.
hopeless4u Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 The problem is that the person I thought MW was, and the person she really is, share the same body. They could be twins. And I think they're hot! whilst loo humour and behaviour SL - Du hast unrecht. Ich bin nicht Engländer. Ohhhh Joey you're are smart toooo;)
hopeless4u Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Wooo Vegas on Tuesday. Have a blast. I am only a matter of hours away but unfortunately would not be able to make it. we are there over the weekend LD......go onnnn, you know you want tooooo;)
Just a stone's throw Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 The problem is that the person I thought MW was, and the person she really is, share the same body. They could be twins. And I think they're hot! whilst loo humour and behaviour SL - Du hast unrecht. Ich bin nicht Engländer. Ooh and I had you pegged for US... Well, now you've messed up your whole personna! Uggghhh... I guess I'll just have to let cute, sweet US Joey go..... (just trying to cheer you up too Joey66)!
Author secretlady76 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 The problem is that the person I thought MW was, and the person she really is, share the same body. They could be twins. And I think they're hot! whilst loo humour and behaviour SL - Du hast unrecht. Ich bin nicht Engländer. Joey - Sie sind Amerikaner? Yeah, yeah, I don't see the difference in the language as much as you guys do. Do you not use 'whilst'? I 'shack' every moment I can get, passes the time....
Just a stone's throw Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Whilst - too proper; While - American version
Author secretlady76 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Ooh and I had you pegged for US... Well' date=' now you've messed up your whole personna! Uggghhh... I guess I'll just have to let cute, sweet US Joey go..... (just trying to cheer you up too Joey66)![/quote'] JAST, there is hope for you, he said (in German) that he was NOT English....
ladydesigner Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 SecretLady - First, you're not bonkers. You're trying to reconcile the person you care for with the person that actually exists. Given the situaton, I think it's pretty normal. I don't know if this will help you but, when I finally realized that the man I cared for was not the man xMM really is, I mourned the loss as though it was an actual death. To me, that man did indeed die (if he ever truly existed). This helped me to separate that person from the one I still have to deal with at work. It was a difficult process but I no longer think back to the good times in the A after I see him/correspond with him. He isn't that person. The man I cared for does not exist. This kind of thinking has kept me from being sucked back in and I see xMM for the shyt he really is. Good luck & be strong... ((hugs)) Wow just read this. A very profound post indeed and I share your views almost exactly to a "T", especially the bolded part. I believe I too built my XOM to be someone who he wasn't. He really showed his true colors upon ending with me. Rather than just be a mature human being and just end it by communicating like an adult, he had to insult me upon ending. I will never ever forget his words to me upon ending...never.
Just a stone's throw Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Ohhhh! Thanks for that, I thought he was saying he was German. Okay, back to my regularly scheduled visual!!! LOL!!
Author secretlady76 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Ohhhh! Thanks for that' date=' I thought he was saying he was German. Okay, back to my regularly scheduled visual!!! LOL!![/quote'] You crack me up!
ladydesigner Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 we are there over the weekend LD......go onnnn, you know you want tooooo;) You know me too well:laugh: I love Vegas. Wish I was single I'd be there for sure.
hopeless4u Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 haha I googled it!!!! Still, just because he speaks german doesn't mean he is from Germany, he didn't answer the question of if he is American?? Joey????
Just a stone's throw Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Oh, I pegged him as shy too, now he's just living up to my visual.
Author secretlady76 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 haha I googled it!!!! Still, just because he speaks german doesn't mean he is from Germany, he didn't answer the question of if he is American?? Joey???? I guessed that, hence why I asked him (in German) if he was American....
hopeless4u Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 You know me too well:laugh: I love Vegas. Wish I was single I'd be there for sure. It doesn't matter about being single, bring H, tell him you both need a night out....my lips are sealed and my friends don't know you from adam...me and my friends talk to everyone, you'll love it;) do it, do it, do it...you know you want to;)
Author secretlady76 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Oh' date=' I pegged him as shy too, now he's just living up to my visual.[/quote'] JAST, mate, you haven't got a virtual crush have you?!
Author secretlady76 Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 It doesn't matter about being single, bring H, tell him you both need a night out....my lips are sealed and my friends don't know you from adam...me and my friends talk to everyone, you'll love it;) do it, do it, do it...you know you want to;) Awww, I want to go. Can you imagine; "Er sorry husband, just off to Vegas to meet some people who I have never met but who I talk to over the net about an EA you know nothing about" mmmmmm that would go down well.....
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