ilovevictoria Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Hey... I wasn't sure where to post my situation because it covers so many things but... I met the love of my life two years ago... she lives in Canada and I live in the UK. It was all going really well... We were really in love and we met last year and it was perfect. Then at the start of 2010 she got attacked repeatedly and she started to cheat on me... She then started a relationship with him and finally gradually broke up with me. But not much changed we still talked just as much. But the thing is she couldn't tell him we were talking, he didn't know we were dating and thought I was just a friend so she created this fake persona of Sem... And that went al right for a while except that... well Jordan started to get feelings for Sem (Jordan being her boyfriend) and so I'm now in the bizarre situation that I'm some how cheating on my ex girlfriend with her boyfriend... She says she loves me, but she can't leave him as well she has no one else in Canada other than him, her mum kicked her out and so all she has is me and him. But he treats her like crap... I mean she knows that he has feelings for the fake persona, and he lied about it and I instinctively told her everything he said and she impulsively confronted him and somehow he managed to turn it round on both of us and broke up with her... And now he has come back and made me promise not to tell her, and I want to obviously but idk if she can control herself and not confront him... They are kinda back together... I just don't know why she won't leave him... well I do, she has no one else and she loves him and she has night terrors and I'm 4000 miles away and I can't touch or hug her or anything... and I guess with her mental problems from the attacks she needs that... I'm stuck on what to do. I don't have anyone else here socially but her. I'm already suicidal and depressed and I'm pretty sure if I broke off contact with her I would be more likely to kill myself than move on due to how attached I am to her. If they break up she promises that she will come back to me and never do this again... but idk its also understandably killing me inside... I know the easy answer is "dump her shes not worth it shes using you..." But I honestly don't believe I would survive the process... Sometimes I feel so much hate I just want to rat her out to Jordan, tell him about the massive lie shes given and just damn us all to hell... but my love for her always stops her... I'm just stuck...
USMCHokie Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Ummmm...w...t...f...? Is she a bit of a looney...? A fake persona...? I still don't know if I get it...but I do know one thing for sure...you need to run FAR AWAY and FAST...you need to break off contact with her and move on... No, you're not going to kill yourself...you're better than that...and your life is better than that...instead of spending all your time and energy with someone else across the pond that is already with someone else, you could be going out and meeting new friends in your area...you don't have to jump into dating someone right away...just get out with friends, meet new friends, and get your mind off of this rather crazy girl... You say she promises that if she breaks up with him, that she'll go back to you and never do it again...really...? Please...first of all, if she really cared about you, she would have already broken up with him...no, let me rephrase that...she would have never left you to begin with...and if she did it once, what's to stop her from doing it again...? You are doing yourself more harm than good by continuing to talk to this girl...I know it will hurt a lot at first, but you'll be much better off in the long run if you cut contact and move on with your life...
doomage Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 You're in a hard situation, but you shouldn't even think about killing yourself just for this girl or any girl for that matter. There are alot of women out there and a hell of a lot closer than she is. Plus first she cheated on you and you were still there for her then she goes with the guy she cheated on you with, and now she's cheating on him with you. What does that say about her, and what's to say she won't do that with you? She is stringing you along, because if she really was into you she'd be there with you. Cut your losses and try to improve yourself, get out there and find a girl that's into you, you're worth it man, give yourself a chance. Best of luck.
Author ilovevictoria Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Well... shes not really cheating with me... but she had to create a fake friend to keep talking to me... because her boyfriend wouldn't let her talk to me... but her boyfriend has gotten involved with this fake friend... And I know its really easy to say that looking in, but I suffer from depression already and I don't have any friends to go out with... she was and still is my life... I really don't think I could survive it... I mean I already took two overdoses in the past week :/
Author ilovevictoria Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 She even knows that he is cheating on her and she doesn't leave him...
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