Billzebub Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I'm gonna go out on a limb and allow myself to be yelled at, but most white women around here who date black guys are fat and not classy. I say that expecting a barrage of criticism. I know there are exceptions. My girlfriend has a bi-racial child and she's skinny, but she also won't date black guys anymore based on her experience with the child's father. But when I met her and learned she had a bi-racial child I was surprised because she doesn't fit the bill of the sort of white women you typically see with black guys. Your expectations of what you are after are going to limit the field you play on. But best of luck to you.
gypsy_nicky Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I'm gonna go out on a limb and allow myself to be yelled at, but most white women around here who date black guys are fat and not classy. I say that expecting a barrage of criticism. I know there are exceptions. My girlfriend has a bi-racial child and she's skinny, but she also won't date black guys anymore based on her experience with the child's father. But when I met her and learned she had a bi-racial child I was surprised because she doesn't fit the bill of the sort of white women you typically see with black guys. Your expectations of what you are after are going to limit the field you play on. But best of luck to you. most white women are not into interracial dating. My half caste friends who look more ethnic also date ethnics because they tell me white women turn them down. So what was your GF's experience?
candymoon Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 (edited) most white women are not into interracial dating. My half caste friends who look more ethnic also date ethnics because they tell me white women turn them down. So what was your GF's experience? Half caste? geezz... I thought 'mixed' was the term. i'll even do that one better--human. this is getting ridiculous. hey, can we get back on topic about dude's dating or lack thereof? I know the he mentioned his personal dating preferences but his thread is not intended for ppl's personal opinions on why/who white women date in general, right? ETA: The official term is "bi-racial." However "mixed" is acceptable and not insulting... Now, let's get back on the topic, please... Edited June 2, 2010 by candymoon
TaurusTerp Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Half caste? geezz... I thought 'mixed' was the term. i'll even do that one better--human. this is getting ridiculous. hey, can we get back on topic about dude's dating or lack thereof? I know the he mentioned his personal dating preferences but his thread is not intended for ppl's personal opinions on why/who white women date in general, right? ETA: The official term is "bi-racial." However "mixed" is acceptable and not insulting... Now, let's get back on the topic, please... Might as well derail it....not like he's taking any of the advice. Official terms in the united states aren't always used everywhere else. Who cares? It wasn't used maliciously. Amazing what people will get worked up over. I don't know what it's like in Australia gypsy, but FWIW I've found white women in the US most open to dating outside their race. Tell your friends to come here .
BeautifulMan Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Depends where you are really. In California there is plenty of mixing of ethnicities.
candymoon Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 And a total lack of respect for the thread and others to boot. No, he may not be taking advice, but perhaps it is best you start your own thread on interracial dating and terms, and whatever other thing you wish to talk about? Floor's open... Thread-jacking IS prohibited.
TaurusTerp Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 And a total lack of respect for the thread and others to boot. No, he may not be taking advice, but perhaps it is best you start your own thread on interracial dating and terms, and whatever other thing you wish to talk about? Floor's open... Thread-jacking IS prohibited. I need a woman like you in my life. Lay down the LAW. Interracial dating IS related to his thread, though. He said he doesn't like black women.
candymoon Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 LOL Taurus. I said I noted his prefs, but going off into their friends and why they dont date X anymore and what not is... well... not the point of this thread? Interracial dating as it pertains to the OP, is OK, but the rest of the chatter...eh? Why can't he get a date? I think we all know why, perhaps the OP needs to take some advice to heart. Of course, he hasn't posted in a while... perhaps he's too busy with a new girl.
brokenblade Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I'm not sure exactly what to say, but... I've seen way worse looking people get girls easily. No one is physically perfect. All I could say is find your best attributes and capitalize on them. I understand people have their preferences but, you may have to give some people a chance that you wouldn't normally give a chance, you'd be surprised what you would've missed out on. (I'm talking about physical wise) There's someone for everyone. I myself am no superstar in the looks category. I look better now than I did a couple of years ago. (I used to have a big, blown up face. In fact I looked like I had mumps all the time, I'm still a little big in the face but it is not as bad.) I have girls chasing after me, and I'm not that much better looking, if at all. You would have to find some kind of hobby that you enjoy, and leave the women alone. It sucks to hear that, but I, and my friend share the same testimonies. When we are trying to get a girl, it is impossible, they avoid us like the plague. When we stop looking and go for something else that we deem worthy of our time, the girls chase after us. I am by no means Denzel. (although, I do believe I have potential) Quit worrying about the girls and just use your time to improve yourself. By the way, no surgeries, keep your ears. You're an angel. These are your wings, flap flap!
brokenblade Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I workout because I want to better myself for myself. I believe self improvement is a key to success in life. So far out of hundreds in middle and high school none found me attractive. So far out of thousands in college none found me attractive. I have meet girls at church and none found me attractive. I do go out to meet plenty of people including women, and they are all disgusted by the thought of dating me and extreme sicken by the thought of having sex with me. I am not exaggerating. I have seen women look disgusted on their faces. Many have made negative comments to me. I'm sad to hear that. Honestly, you are not that bad looking. All throughout high school I was overweight and people said I looked like a gorilla. My face was hideously ugly and I've had girls wanting to go out with me. There was one girl who I found so attractive, (I was in 6th grade) that I just assumed that she wouldn't give me a glance. I just sort of ignored her. One day I caught her staring at me and we locked eyes. I thought that she was just gawking at how fat I was. A couple of weks later I find out that she likes me. It just seemed too good to be true because she was just so fine. (Plus I had low self esteem, I still have it to this day. I'm pretty sure I always will) Don't give up, you'll find a woman, or perhaps she'll find you.
MrNate Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I'm white and dig black chicks. Not all of course, only ones that are independent-minded and not all hung up with ACHIEVING the black stereotype. I find black women more forward in what they want and more decent than a lot of white chicks if they're not interested--unless they're haters in the first place. I love the smell of cocoa butter in the morning. You have good taste my friend. I see black women eyeing white men all the time. Guilty on the cocoa butter. It's the best thing hands down for smooth skin, lol
MrNate Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Oooh. That's gonna get a lot of love. Hey..he likes a little spice in his life. I know exactly where he's coming from. I'm a fan of the snowbunnies myself.
Snick Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I said you should think less and smile more. Now I think you should not think at all. It is ruining your life. You are trying too hard and not giving women a chance. Don't pick them out according to your list. See who picks you out. Do you not realize that you NEVER know what women will like?? I am in search of a nose about like your ears. If you go to Andy Rautins' facebook page you will see there are GOBS of girls like me. So calm down! Quit thinking about all this crap and she will magically appear. Like BrokenBlade said about how you can only find girls when you are not looking for them. And like he said, get a hobby. Don't even think about your dream girl's characteristics. I think you will surprise yourself about what you actually like when it presents itself.
brokenblade Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I said you should think less and smile more. Now I think you should not think at all. It is ruining your life. You are trying too hard and not giving women a chance. Don't pick them out according to your list. See who picks you out. Do you not realize that you NEVER know what women will like?? I am in search of a nose about like your ears. If you go to Andy Rautins' facebook page you will see there are GOBS of girls like me. So calm down! Quit thinking about all this crap and she will magically appear. Like BrokenBlade said about how you can only find girls when you are not looking for them. And like he said, get a hobby. Don't even think about your dream girl's characteristics. I think you will surprise yourself about what you actually like when it presents itself. I like to quote an ascended mentor of mine. "Don't Think! Feel! Bruce Lee
gypsy_nicky Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Half caste? geezz... I thought 'mixed' was the term. i'll even do that one better--human. this is getting ridiculous. hey, can we get back on topic about dude's dating or lack thereof? I know the he mentioned his personal dating preferences but his thread is not intended for ppl's personal opinions on why/who white women date in general, right? ETA: The official term is "bi-racial." However "mixed" is acceptable and not insulting... Now, let's get back on the topic, please... chill out, I didnt mean anything offensive by describing mixed people as 'half-caste'. My question was still on topic thats why I asked it. It can provide some insight as to why the OP cannot get the type of woman he wants. You cannot just solve the OP's personal shortcomings (if he does have any) and then send him off to date because the ones he may want to date, may not want him due to his ethnic appearance (and yes it still exists).
gypsy_nicky Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 And a total lack of respect for the thread and others to boot. No, he may not be taking advice, but perhaps it is best you start your own thread on interracial dating and terms, and whatever other thing you wish to talk about? Floor's open... Thread-jacking IS prohibited. why are you so worked up anyway?! Are you bi-racial or some sort of neo liberal.
veena7 Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For every man there is a woman and vice versa. Chill. You will meet that special person some day. Regards. Veena:)
Snick Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I like to quote an ascended mentor of mine. "Don't Think! Feel! Bruce Lee Amen to that. Works in just about every area of life.
PJKino Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I said you should think less and smile more. Now I think you should not think at all. It is ruining your life. You are trying too hard and not giving women a chance. Don't pick them out according to your list. See who picks you out. Do you not realize that you NEVER know what women will like?? I am in search of a nose about like your ears. If you go to Andy Rautins' facebook page you will see there are GOBS of girls like me. So calm down! Quit thinking about all this crap and she will magically appear. Like BrokenBlade said about how you can only find girls when you are not looking for them. And like he said, get a hobby. Don't even think about your dream girl's characteristics. I think you will surprise yourself about what you actually like when it presents itself. The girls will appear if you dont look is such fluff bs,ive been doing that for 30 years and have gotten nowhere..
PJKino Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Are you that much of a loner? It does work. No but i have no single women in my circle of friends plus all my friends are married or getting married..
PJKino Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 You need to start a new thread. You can get a girl. ehh i doubt it im not much of a looker..
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 Your attitude is your BIGGEST hurdle; and I mean this with all due respect. I'm a guy and you look normal, my friend. I've had many a Bro who "looks worse" than you clean up. From the 6 pages I managed to read this is what i've observed about you: - your self esteem is so low you self loath - CONSTANTLY; - you become instantly defensive when offered even the most constructive critisism; - you're socially ackward (as far as I can tell from your interactions with LS posters); - you come off as almost hostile, like you may have a chip on your shoulder; & - you have a serious lack of determination - I find your "I can't/ I tried that..." excuses so laughable. I'll sum up my observations with one reccomendation I doubt anyone has offered you - independent counseling; i.e. psychotherapy. I studied psyc in college, I minored in it, and there's a term you should look into called "butting". I really believe you would benefit from some counseling, my friend. Just remember Einstein's theory of insanity - doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. In my opinion you seem to be that definition's poster child at the moment. With all due respect, talk to a counselor. Of course my self esteem is low. I'm working on it making it better. I don't have any bad excuses. The last timed I check the only time I in this topic I said "I can't" is when someone told me to try contacts and I am told him that I am not medically allowed to wear contacts. Medical reasons must be funny to you. I have said many times in this topic(first post as well) that I am making changes to better myself. I don't see how that is not determination. I am fine socially. OP, first of all, to me, you kind of look like you're some sort of weird combination/abomination of a more autistic version of Steve Urkel, E.T. The Extraterrestrial, and a random serial killer. I don't get at all, why anyone is having a hard time with seeing how unattractive you are appearing to people in real life, it really comes through to me even over the internet. Plus, you probably have absolutely no social graces and are completely clueless. You probably can't read anyone's signals or body language. You probably NEVER "get the hint." You're ugly, but plenty of dudes WAY WAY uglier than you have girlfriends. Most likely you are suffering from some mild version of autism or Asperger's syndrome. Also, you may have some serious hygiene problems that you're not discussion. Do you bathe frequently? Use deodorant? Do you have bad breath? Do you wear clean clothes every day? Your photo screams out: "I am a DORK, WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME????" I suggest your most realistic approach is to greatly LOWER your expectations. You need to find your match, i.e. a female "dorkette," a completely graceless wallflower who will be your girlfriend because she is desperate for ANY attention. This will end up being your wife. Your post is very biased based on my physical appearance. Are you normally this biased towards people who have deformities? I am not suffering from any type of mental disease. Nothing in my pictures that scream any problems with hygiene. I take good care of myself. get clothes YOUR size. those giant shirts make you look odd. and i give up again. you dont listen to anything. It doesnt matter what your friends say. the way you type gives a BIG sign as to how you REALLY are. Just because one person says your confidant, doesnt necessarily mean you are. People will lie becuase people dont like confrontation. I foolishly brought clothes that are too big for. I've stopped buying clothes that are way too big for me. I am a very confidant person in everything I do except trying to get a girl. My confidence for getting a girl is a complete ZERO. The negative comments about my looks from women is partly what brought down my confidence. People always tell me that I go out of my league even if the girl is average or below average. I'm always hearing girls tell guys good attractive things about them or just show them attraction. It really hurts when I see this because I never had anything remarkly close to that. A girl never had anything good and attractive to say about me. I said you should think less and smile more. Now I think you should not think at all. It is ruining your life. You are trying too hard and not giving women a chance. Don't pick them out according to your list. See who picks you out. Do you not realize that you NEVER know what women will like?? I am in search of a nose about like your ears. If you go to Andy Rautins' facebook page you will see there are GOBS of girls like me. So calm down! Quit thinking about all this crap and she will magically appear. Like BrokenBlade said about how you can only find girls when you are not looking for them. And like he said, get a hobby. Don't even think about your dream girl's characteristics. I think you will surprise yourself about what you actually like when it presents itself. I do have hobbies. During this year it has not been in my mind as much especially as of late. This is something I still need to work on. and dude, your ears give you a cool unique look. Thanks for being nice...... The OP came here for advice, I think you could have done more constructive criticism. The OP is not unattractive, its his getup that is. What the people here are saying is true: OP, you need to remake your physical image/personality. YOur Not UGLY, Judging from your photos, you look average but you downplay it by the way you dress and carry yourself. This poster said he reminds you of Urkel/alien etc, but dont we all resemble animals/aliens when we are all too hard on ourselves or want to berate someone else. As for Urkel, the real actor did not look like that in real life, looked completely different and is actually pretty badass in terms of looks. http://media.photobucket.com/image/jaleel%20white/theybf/March%2009/42881360.jpg ( I edited my post because at first I agreed with this poster, but I took a look at all your pics and you seem very average in terms of looks). What kind of getup do you suggest? Lately I've been trying to change my look to be more preepy because I like preepy girls and it is a better impression of myself. The overly large clothes were a stupid choice. I'm not ghetto and dislikes anything that relates to that. That's a huge mistake on my end. My personality is just fine. I don't see what is wrong with being a humorous intellectual.
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