Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 (edited) What is the problem with your ears?Is it a health problem or vanity? Be for real....... It's just unrealistic to say my ears are not part of the problem. When my entire middle school, high school, and college girls find me to be extremely physically unattractive then that is a red sign. People with any deformity normally cannot physically attract people. Produnding ear in America society is not very acceptable. I've research information about my ears and deformities in general. I know what I am talking about. I don't have any other options. Green, I have told you many times that I do try. I use not to worry about my ears and women still were not attracted to me. I use not to worry about my looks, but that made no difference in anything. Edited May 26, 2010 by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN
donnamaybe Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Please be honest with me. My ears are deformed. I have researched this and they are considered a deformity. People describe me as fun and humorous. I do have confidence to talk to women. Unlike some guys I don't get nervous, act stupid, and talk about odd stuff. However, I am have not asked out any women in college. I was interested in a girl, but she wanted nothing to do with me and ignored me. I see how women act around a man who they are attracted to, and women don't act like this to me at all. I don't see them playing or moving their hair around me. They don't check me out. They do not turn away if I see them starring at me. Girls smile at me everyday, but I just see them as just being friendly. They are not the type of smiles that seem to have any attraction for me. It's like a quite way of saying hi. Well that what I see from all of the smiles. I am taking the smiles the wrong way? I've tried online dating a few times with no success. No one ever replied back to me. One site had a rating system for pictures. My average was a 1 out of 10. Not joking. Okay, forget about that rating BS. I'm sure some people go on those sites just to give everyone a crap rating. As for your ears, okay. They do "stand out" a little, but so what?! You actually are a good looking guy, but most especially when you smile. You have very nice teeth, and when you smile your face warms up. When a gal smiles at you, take it for what it is. She's being friendly. Good. If you want a gal who is respectful and respects herself, you wouldn't want someone giving you some lascivious, come-f-me grin, would you? As for refusing to date black gals, you sound like my daughter. She'll ONLY date black guys for some reason. I don't care what color any guy is that she dates, but I hate that she automatically cancels out every other type of guy on the planet. She could be excluding THE best guy that is out there for her.
Green Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Be for real....... It's just unrealistic to say my ears are not part of the problem. When my entire middle school, high school, and college girls find me to be extremely physically unattractive then that is a red sign. People with any deformity normally cannot physically attract people. Produnding ear in America society is not very acceptable. I've research information about my ears and deformities in general. I know what I am talking about. I don't have any other options. Green, I have told you many times that I do try. I use not to worry about my ears and women still were not attracted to me. I use not to worry about my looks, but that made no difference in anything. All you do is tell me "I have told you many time that I do try." ok... so how about an example of how you tried something this week... I mean you called this a journal... where are the entries/UPDATES. My guess is you havn't asked a single girl out on a date in weeks?... This ear thing is silly. Your ears fine
TaurusTerp Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 All you do is tell me "I have told you many time that I do try." ok... so how about an example of how you tried something this week... I mean you called this a journal... where are the entries/UPDATES. My guess is you havn't asked a single girl out on a date in weeks?... This ear thing is silly. Your ears fine Lol your ears man? I didnt even notice them. That's really not a big issue...it's just a personal insecurity of yours; we all have them.
Vcygnus1 Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 I had to sign up just to reply to this. Dude WHy did you gert on here only to argue or deny all the advice people are giving you? EVERYONE HERE IS TRYING TO HELP. i dont see ther point of everytime someone says maybe change this to say either "im not lacking this" what advice do you want bro? Its gonna require work. Keep working out and then change the clothes. Even if you got compliments. also, girls are individuals. What one likes others may hate. IO have really long hair and tho most girls like it, some dont. so just change and see what happens. Do what gives you tyhe most swag or confidence then just play the #s game.the moree the better chances GOOD luck dude!
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 28, 2010 Author Posted May 28, 2010 I am not denying anything. I am not lacking confidence and the other things people on this forum believe I do. Everyone who I have met were shocked that I never been in a relationship and had nothing with a woman before. At first people do not believe my looks are the problem until they see how women react to me and say about me. My girl friend said that I am a very humorous people and is shocked that has not helped me with women at all. What types of clothes do you suggest? What is wrong with the clothes I wear?
SilentVoice Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 That is it right there...you referred to a girl that is a friend as a girl friend ..Bad bad bad I really with I could come up with someone that may be able to help you with women. You may want to try online dating. But I have no experience with what you are experiencing but wish you the best .
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 28, 2010 Author Posted May 28, 2010 You clearly misunderstood what I said. I said girl friend, not girlfriend. I was referring to the person being a girl and a friend. I just wanted to be clear online. This person is also my boss by the way. I have tried online dating a few times. My physical attraction rating was 1 or 2 out of 10. Women ignored my messages to them. I only sent each of them one message.
SilentVoice Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 (edited) ok......... Edited May 28, 2010 by SilentVoice
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 28, 2010 Author Posted May 28, 2010 Its gonna require work. I have been working on this for years. How many times I do have say it?
candymoon Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Temporarily boosting this guy's confidence isn't going to do jack, you ask why you can't get girls, it seems you are blind to your image. Just sayin' I agree with this dude. You say you are confident and this thread exists like others have pointed out. But sometimes, you have to realize, what we THINK we are is not how others perceive us. That's 2 different balls of wax. In your pics, I can see by your body language you are not very confident... you seem even a bit clueless. Women (and I am one!) ARE attracted to confidence--no surprise there. Confidence, however, is expressed in body language, not lip service. If a man slouches, is hunched, eyes not engaged, I never bothered to look twice. It's an absolute turnoff. Maybe spend some time in the mirror and work on your posture, how you engage eye contact, a confident smile. These are things that might get a woman's attention and her phone number.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Yo ho! A fellow black guy. ...Finally, your unattraction towards black women isn't unfounded. It can be hard to find one worth your efforts, but I say don't discount them all together. A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman. But I do understand..who doesn't like the snowbunnies? heh. I'm white and dig black chicks. Not all of course, only ones that are independent-minded and not all hung up with ACHIEVING the black stereotype. I find black women more forward in what they want and more decent than a lot of white chicks if they're not interested--unless they're haters in the first place. I love the smell of cocoa butter in the morning.
candymoon Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 I'm white and dig black chicks. Not all of course, only ones that are independent-minded and not all hung up with ACHIEVING the black stereotype. I find black women more forward in what they want and more decent than a lot of white chicks if they're not interested--unless they're haters in the first place. I love the smell of cocoa butter in the morning. Oooh. That's gonna get a lot of love.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 28, 2010 Author Posted May 28, 2010 I agree with this dude. You say you are confident and this thread exists like others have pointed out. But sometimes, you have to realize, what we THINK we are is not how others perceive us. That's 2 different balls of wax. In your pics, I can see by your body language you are not very confident... you seem even a bit clueless. Women (and I am one!) ARE attracted to confidence--no surprise there. Confidence, however, is expressed in body language, not lip service. If a man slouches, is hunched, eyes not engaged, I never bothered to look twice. It's an absolute turnoff. Maybe spend some time in the mirror and work on your posture, how you engage eye contact, a confident smile. These are things that might get a woman's attention and her phone number. Clueless? How do I seem clueless and not confident in my pictures? When I speak to people my eyes are engaged with them. I look at women when I speak to them and not away from them. I normally do not slouch and hunch. Is this a confident smile? http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=19864_1320116529473_1427601383_9124.jpg
candymoon Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Clueless? How do I seem clueless and not confident in my pictures? When I speak to people my eyes are engaged with them. I look at women when I speak to them and not away from them. I normally do not slouch and hunch. Is this a confident smile? http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=19864_1320116529473_1427601383_9124.jpg No. I'd say in the pics they all seem quite self conscious. The eyes even appear a little sad. I'm not saying that your outward looks are not unattractive--you are cute, but what you project is maybe not what you think you are. And you ARE self conscious and a bit of low self esteem, which is obvious, because of your focus on the physical things--ears, putting on weight, etc. I've always been attracted to and dated skinny guys (of ALL races). Physically, there is something for everyone's tastes. Hell, I had a 300lb female friend who couldn't keep the guys away from her, and the thin 'perfect' ones who went dateless for years. It's all what you put out there that is less tangible than what people can touch. There's plenty of advice out there for free--you're in school...go to the library and get self help books or do some web searches and find something helpful. Researching self-help for self-esteem like affirmations, meditations, etc...and if bulking up makes you feel good INSIDE as opposed to just outside, that will show too and remember--you're still young. Plenty of time for the ladies.
Snick Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 Your ears look a little bit like Obama's. My opinion is that you should think less and smile more. Hi everyone! I made a couple of topics about my personal problem many months ago so I didn't want to bump them. I am just posting an update of my problem. For those who do not remember I'll give some information about my problem. Hello everybody! I'm Franklin. I'm 20 years old, and currently a college student. My major is political science. During the school week I work on campus. My hobbies are video games, football, basketball, professional wrestling, My favorite food is chicken. My favorite food is chicken, and favorite meal is Shrimp Lo Mein with Orange Chicken on top! I love rootbeer. It's so good. Late at night I watch The Daily Show with Jon Stewart and The Colbert Report with Steven Colbert! I never had any luck with women. I have never been kissed, been on a date, nor had a girlfriend. A woman has never been attracted to me before. Every girl who has rejected has said I have too ugly to date. Girls who I did not asked on dates also said that I am the ugliest guy there is date. I am the worst of the worst.(Don't get confused, I am saying their opinions. I am not calling myself ugly). Sometimes when I try to meet a new girl, she gives me a negative facial expression. She makes an ugly and disgusted face like "hey back off" or "is this guy really trying to talk to me?". I am not hitting on her. I am just trying to have casual conversation. In school girls always said I am the worst looking guy to get. The worst of the worst to ever date. Schoolgirls sometimes like to rate guys. Who is cute, sexy, hot, average, nerdy, or just plain ugly. I always ended up on the ugly rating from every girl. One of my problems is that my ears are deformed. They stretch out and curl really bad. Is this putting women off? I'm thinking about getting surgery to get them fixed. Lastic is also something I am looking into. Last year I decided to try online dating. I sent a few girls some messages, but never got a response. One site has a picture rating system. My picture rating average is between 1 and 2 out of 10. People often say I am a good looking guy. People at church always say this. My friends and family often say this. At first I am like " hey they are just being nice". However I am often to this by random older people. At church Sunday the pastor spoke up in prayer and made a special prayer for me(he was giving out other prayers). He mention that I am a good looking guy, and a lot people were also saying this(they don't know about my problem with women). When I was younger random people always said I was a good looking kid, and they said it to me more often than every other kid in my classes. I have asked my friends to help me. My girl friends told me that they don't know anyone who would even go out with me once. Some have told me to turn gay to find love. A few girls told me I should wait until someone walks up to me. My guy friends tell me to get confidence. Some told me that it just takes longer for some people to get noticed by someone. Please rate me out of ten. I want to know where I stand at the amount. I'm 6'0 and 165lbs. Recently me and my friends have started working out together. The guys know what they are doing so that really helps me. My metabolism is pretty high so I need to continue to eat allot of healthy food. Hopefully some muscle will be built. These are some pictures of me during the years. Please rate me out of ten. I want to know where I stand at the amount. I'm 6'0 and 164lbs. Please be honest. If you also think that I am ugly just say it. I rather hear the truth than someone trying to be nice by lying. 2007 http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=FRANKLIN.jpg 2008 at an amusement park http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=LastScan.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=TheGreatGameOfGolf.jpg 2009 http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=PC100004.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=noname.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=noname1.jpg 2010 http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=Franklin2.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=drinkings.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=PiscesParty5.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=Attheoffice.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=PiscesParty2.jpg Theses are my standards. 1. She must be a christian. I want someone who has the same religious beliefs as I do. 2. She must be slender. I am not attracted to women who are fat. I take care of myself so I would want someone who would do the same for themselves when it comes to weight. 3. She must have class and respect for herself. 4. She must be clean. All I am asking is for a woman to take care of herself. Be nicely groomed. 5. She must dress nice. Wear respectable clean clothes. 6. We must have good commutation. I believe a good relationship needs good communication. I am not physically attracted to black women. The stereotypical ghetto person regardless of race is a total turn off. I know I am black and some people criticize me of this. I'll be using this topic to give updates about my problem not being able to attract at least decent women to date.
Snick Posted May 30, 2010 Posted May 30, 2010 I think your ears look a little bit like Obama's. He's got a clean woman. My opinion is that you should think less and smile more.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 (edited) Your attitude is your BIGGEST hurdle; and I mean this with all due respect. I'm a guy and you look normal, my friend. I've had many a Bro who "looks worse" than you clean up. From the 6 pages I managed to read this is what i've observed about you: - your self esteem is so low you self loath - CONSTANTLY; - you become instantly defensive when offered even the most constructive critisism; - you're socially ackward (as far as I can tell from your interactions with LS posters); - you come off as almost hostile, like you may have a chip on your shoulder; & - you have a serious lack of determination - I find your "I can't/ I tried that..." excuses so laughable. I'll sum up my observations with one reccomendation I doubt anyone has offered you - independent counseling; i.e. psychotherapy. I studied psyc in college, I minored in it, and there's a term you should look into called "butting". I really believe you would benefit from some counseling, my friend. Just remember Einstein's theory of insanity - doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. In my opinion you seem to be that definition's poster child at the moment. With all due respect, talk to a counselor. Edited June 1, 2010 by ConflictedGuy27
rewe4reel Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 OP, first of all, to me, you kind of look like you're some sort of weird combination/abomination of a more autistic version of Steve Urkel, E.T. The Extraterrestrial, and a random serial killer. I don't get at all, why anyone is having a hard time with seeing how unattractive you are appearing to people in real life, it really comes through to me even over the internet. Plus, you probably have absolutely no social graces and are completely clueless. You probably can't read anyone's signals or body language. You probably NEVER "get the hint." You're ugly, but plenty of dudes WAY WAY uglier than you have girlfriends. Most likely you are suffering from some mild version of autism or Asperger's syndrome. Also, you may have some serious hygiene problems that you're not discussion. Do you bathe frequently? Use deodorant? Do you have bad breath? Do you wear clean clothes every day? Your photo screams out: "I am a DORK, WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME????" I suggest your most realistic approach is to greatly LOWER your expectations. You need to find your match, i.e. a female "dorkette," a completely graceless wallflower who will be your girlfriend because she is desperate for ANY attention. This will end up being your wife.
Choboto Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 You took the words out of my mouth Green. Thanks for answering for me as well. Also, standing at 6'0, 165 is a bit thin. I see this is a sort of update/journal thing, so I encourage you to gain some weight/muscle throughout your journey, if you haven't considered that already. This will benefit you in more ways than one. not really thin...depends on his athletism... im 6'0 160 and bench 200, squat 230, deadlift 290....i may be thin but im hella in shape looking, as he may too. and holy ****ing **** dude. you didnt read a damn thing anyone said in your first thread did you? there IS NOTHING we can do for you when you have a depressed outlook on every ****ing thing. Accept your ears, accept that you may not be as funny etc as you think you are and WORK ON IT! you keep saying theirs nothing wrong with you except your ears, yet you dont have the girl. There must be something wrong with your thinking and you need to evaluate it(and its NOT YOUR EARS)
Choboto Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I workout because I want to better myself for myself. I believe self improvement is a key to success in life. So far out of hundreds in middle and high school none found me attractive. So far out of thousands in college none found me attractive. I have meet girls at church and none found me attractive. I do go out to meet plenty of people including women, and they are all disgusted by the thought of dating me and extreme sicken by the thought of having sex with me. I am not exaggerating. I have seen women look disgusted on their faces. Many have made negative comments to me. What makes me below average? What are my faults? I'm not upset. I just want to know i find it hard to beleive that you have talked to thousands of girls and no for fact ALL OF THEM think your ugly. Work on this party pooper issue and youll have better luck.
Choboto Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I have been trying many times. I'm not doing anything wrong. Women like who I am as a person. The women just are not physically attracted to me. I'm not fat, disgusting, nasty, stinky, etc, but women still find me to be hideous. No matter what I do things remind the same. I have the personality. I try to dress better, and get better glasses because I cannot wear contacts. I've always been while groomed. I'm getting near my breaking point. *bangs head on the wall* obviously you are dude. as green said, give a VERY detailed account of you talking to a girl trying to ask her out, what you said, how you moved, how you acted etc. every ****ing detail possible. i want to be able to live it in my head.
Choboto Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I am not denying anything. I am not lacking confidence and the other things people on this forum believe I do. Everyone who I have met were shocked that I never been in a relationship and had nothing with a woman before. At first people do not believe my looks are the problem until they see how women react to me and say about me. My girl friend said that I am a very humorous people and is shocked that has not helped me with women at all. What types of clothes do you suggest? What is wrong with the clothes I wear? get clothes YOUR size. those giant shirts make you look odd. and i give up again. you dont listen to anything. It doesnt matter what your friends say. the way you type gives a BIG sign as to how you REALLY are. Just because one person says your confidant, doesnt necessarily mean you are. People will lie becuase people dont like confrontation.
Choboto Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 (edited) You clearly misunderstood what I said. I said girl friend, not girlfriend. I was referring to the person being a girl and a friend. I just wanted to be clear online. This person is also my boss by the way. I have tried online dating a few times. My physical attraction rating was 1 or 2 out of 10. Women ignored my messages to them. I only sent each of them one message. exactly. point and case. whats your boss going to say, your a personality wreck and make it awkward for the rest of the time you work there? again, people lie to benefit themselves. Clueless? How do I seem clueless and not confident in my pictures? When I speak to people my eyes are engaged with them. I look at women when I speak to them and not away from them. I normally do not slouch and hunch. Is this a confident smile? http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=19864_1320116529473_1427601383_9124.jpg honestly that looks like a fake smile that depressed people put on. and dude, your ears give you a cool unique look. Edited June 2, 2010 by Choboto
gypsy_nicky Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 (edited) OP, first of all, to me, you kind of look like you're some sort of weird combination/abomination of a more autistic version of Steve Urkel, E.T. The Extraterrestrial, and a random serial killer. I don't get at all, why anyone is having a hard time with seeing how unattractive you are appearing to people in real life, it really comes through to me even over the internet. Plus, you probably have absolutely no social graces and are completely clueless. You probably can't read anyone's signals or body language. You probably NEVER "get the hint." You're ugly, but plenty of dudes WAY WAY uglier than you have girlfriends. Most likely you are suffering from some mild version of autism or Asperger's syndrome. Also, you may have some serious hygiene problems that you're not discussion. Do you bathe frequently? Use deodorant? Do you have bad breath? Do you wear clean clothes every day? Your photo screams out: "I am a DORK, WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME????" I suggest your most realistic approach is to greatly LOWER your expectations. You need to find your match, i.e. a female "dorkette," a completely graceless wallflower who will be your girlfriend because she is desperate for ANY attention. This will end up being your wife. The OP came here for advice, I think you could have done more constructive criticism. The OP is not unattractive, its his getup that is. What the people here are saying is true: OP, you need to remake your physical image/personality. YOur Not UGLY, Judging from your photos, you look average but you downplay it by the way you dress and carry yourself. This poster said he reminds you of Urkel/alien etc, but dont we all resemble animals/aliens when we are all too hard on ourselves or want to berate someone else. As for Urkel, the real actor did not look like that in real life, looked completely different and is actually pretty badass in terms of looks. http://media.photobucket.com/image/jaleel%20white/theybf/March%2009/42881360.jpg ( I edited my post because at first I agreed with this poster, but I took a look at all your pics and you seem very average in terms of looks). Edited June 2, 2010 by gypsy_nicky
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