I cannot attract women. Update/Journal

May 11, 2010

So your looks are a little below average, there are plenty of guys (myself included) who are in your boat. Don't feel alone!

The sad truth is you will just have to meet more women, than a more attractive man, to find the select few who also find you attracting and interesting. Being 22 I can tell you that in this age group you will have to work damn hard to find a girl who won't immediately next you. Life isn't fair. Keep trying. You only need to get lucky once

May 11, 2010

It makes sense that you dont like black women since you can't stand the sight of your own appearance. I wonder how you face your own mother everyday

and because of your attitude towards black women you have been cursed which is hwy you have a hard time finding ANY wo man

May 11, 2010

That's the problem. Then tell me, if you believe this, why are you working out? And what is the substance of your confidence? In the end, you have to MAKE things happen. There are 3 billion women on this planet. In fact, there are more women in this world than men, so basically, not a single one of them will find you attractive?

I workout because I want to better myself for myself. I believe self improvement is a key to success in life.

So far out of hundreds in middle and high school none found me attractive. So far out of thousands in college none found me attractive. I have meet girls at church and none found me attractive. I do go out to meet plenty of people including women, and they are all disgusted by the thought of dating me and extreme sicken by the thought of having sex with me. I am not exaggerating. I have seen women look disgusted on their faces. Many have made negative comments to me.

So your looks are a little below average, there are plenty of guys (myself included) who are in your boat. Don't feel alone!

The sad truth is you will just have to meet more women, than a more attractive man, to find the select few who also find you attracting and interesting. Being 22 I can tell you that in this age group you will have to work damn hard to find a girl who won't immediately next you. Life isn't fair. Keep trying. You only need to get lucky once

What makes me below average? What are my faults? I'm not upset. I just want to know

May 11, 2010

It makes sense that you dont like black women since you can't stand the sight of your own appearance. I wonder how you face your own mother everyday

and because of your attitude towards black women you have been cursed which is hwy you have a hard time finding ANY wo man

This statement makes no logical sense. I never said I can't stand the site of my own appearance. I said women cannot stand the site of my appearance. I NEVER said I dislike black women. I said I am not attracted to them to have a relationship and have sex with them. I have every right to not have sex with a black woman.

May 11, 2010

What makes me below average? What are my faults? I'm not upset. I just want to know

your hair is one. your hairline needs to be lined up a lot better. and maybe try a wave kit or whatever the brothas do to keep their hair looking tight. try some 360s. some nice subtle waves.

you have NO facial hair. this will help you out tremendously. try to grow a beard or a mustache to make you look more masculine. make sure it doesn't grow all knotty so you wont look like you should be out chasing lions in the african safari. maybe some nice sideburns.

i know you dont like black chicks but this is why. your ears are funny looking but with a nice haircut with some 360s, and a mustache/beard this can be overlooked. you need something to distract those ears. it will give you that edge you need.

May 11, 2010

This statement makes no logical sense. I never said I can't stand the site of my own appearance. I said women cannot stand the site of my appearance. I NEVER said I dislike black women. I said I am not attracted to them to have a relationship and have sex with them. I have every right to not have sex with a black woman.

for someone in your position you do not have the right to single out black women since you can't even attract ONE woman of any race. you are so desperate and you have the nerve to single black women out like that.

May 11, 2010

for someone in your position you do not have the right to single out black women since you can't even attract ONE woman of any race. you are so desperate and you have the nerve to single black women out like that.

If I was desperate then I would not have any standards. I would try to find any type of woman regardless of race. However, I am not desperate. Stop putting words in my mouth, and actually read what was said.

May 11, 2010

You seem as you are already full of yourself--so if you want to call that having confidence in yourself....well go ahead. I am not to sure if i mentioned confidence in my last post,but if any of the self loathing displayed in the original message radiates off of you in real life....i would not step a foot in your direction. I don't know what kind of friends you have....but you seem like you want to better yourself and they should want to help, not put you down.I am not to sure what kind of answer you are actually looking for here...but as you realize you are not the only person to go through this.

May 11, 2010

and for all that is wonderful.....please do not and i repeat....do not get waves unless you have that hair texture all ready....you not in high school....but growing your hair out a little with a fresh shape up and maybe some facial hair may do you some good but i don't know if women actually care about this

May 11, 2010

My college friends are good people. They do try to help me with my problem. There were just a few friends in high school who told me to give up and move on in life.

I do have confidence in what I do. I speak very well to men and women in groups and one on one. People normally see confidence in me.

So far confidence has not helped me get one good woman.

I think I asked this and no one answered so I'll again. Girls smile at me everyday, but I just see them as just being friendly. They are not the type of smiles that seem to have any attraction for me. It's like a quite way of saying hi. Well that what I see from all of the smiles. I am taking the smiles the wrong way?

May 11, 2010

Lets be honest the confidence thing is womenspeak fluff..Either a girl is physically attracted to you or not nothing can change that..

I have friends who are extremely good looking the biggest womanizers and are tremendously insecure..Hasnt stopped them from getting women

I'm not talking about confidence to open a business or confidence to do well in school ect... I'm talking about confidence with women... the confidence to enjoy yourself and ask out the women you find attractive and not worry about rejection. The confidence to make moves.

You took the words out of my mouth Green. Thanks for answering for me as well.

Also, standing at 6'0, 165 is a bit thin. I see this is a sort of update/journal thing, so I encourage you to gain some weight/muscle throughout your journey, if you haven't considered that already. This will benefit you in more ways than one.

At 6' this guy has it made. plus girls arn't into looks the same way guys are. If a guy is tall and ugly, but in shape and has a passion for life women will be all over a guy like that.

The part that I said I have confidence. You told me to get something I already have so that was why I thought you did not read what was said.

I do believe in myself. I responded to someone who said nothing can change a girl being physically attracted or not attracted to a guy. Since women are not physically attracted to me, I said I should forget about it.

You make women physically attracted to you by facing rejection and asking them out and getting physicaly with them by Kissing. You have to make moves. And I refer only to your confidence with women which you have some strange denial of... If you have confidence with your ability to get women why are you here acting like you can't get one. IT IS NOT REALITY TO THINK YOU CAN't... that is your lack of confidence with women speaking. You need to get out there and try an infite amount of times. If you like a girl don't let one rejection get you down, you can always try again with the same girl. You also need to talk to lots of different girls you find attractive. I know you arn't trying as hard as you should be... you are afraid too.

So your looks are a little below average, there are plenty of guys (myself included) who are in your boat. Don't feel alone!

The sad truth is you will just have to meet more women, than a more attractive man, to find the select few who also find you attracting and interesting. Being 22 I can tell you that in this age group you will have to work damn hard to find a girl who won't immediately next you. Life isn't fair. Keep trying. You only need to get lucky once

His looks are fine... keep trying and luck will have nothing to do with it.

It makes sense that you dont like black women since you can't stand the sight of your own appearance. I wonder how you face your own mother everyday

and because of your attitude towards black women you have been cursed which is hwy you have a hard time finding ANY wo man

your attitude makes no sense. Are you against white men who date black women too?

This statement makes no logical sense. I never said I can't stand the site of my own appearance. I said women cannot stand the site of my appearance. I NEVER said I dislike black women. I said I am not attracted to them to have a relationship and have sex with them. I have every right to not have sex with a black woman.

You have every right to be attracted to what you like, I have a friend who is white but refuses to date white women because that is his taste. Its actualy healthier to seek a mate as geneticaly different from you as you can.

May 11, 2010

I think I asked this and no one answered so I'll again.Girls smile at me everyday, but I just see them as just being friendly. They are not the type of smiles that seem to have any attraction for me. It's like a quite way of saying hi. Well that what I see from all of the smiles. I am taking the smiles the wrong way?

So do you smile back? Do you say hi? Do you engage in conversation with them? The only way to turn these friendly smiles into attraction is to engage with the girl that is smiling at you. It can be something as simple as just smiling back, saying good morning, and going about your day. You can't jump straight from a friendly smile to "I wonder if she'll date me because she smiled at me"...you have to give them something to be attracted to...and it goes beyond looks...you need to show them humor, wit, intelligence, a friendly demeanor and a good personality...

Unless you're hot as Hades...then you don't need any of those things...

May 11, 2010

Green I honestly do try to get women. I do talk to them. It's not one rejection. It is tons of rejects. I have asked out over 20 women and failed each time. Hundreds of women have said no about dating me. Sometimes girls at school will have talks about who to date and who to not date. They also labeled me as too ugly to date.

Girls tell me that they really like my personality, intelligence, charm, and sweetness. However they have no physical attraction for me which leads to rejection.

It was diffucult for me to get physical with a girl in high school. Some girls looked so disgusted by me wanting to hug them, and all of these girls were friends in high school. A girl friend from high school tried to hug me one day at college. I didn't know what she was doing at first because it came so sudden.

May 11, 2010

Green I honestly do try to get women. I do talk to them. It's not one rejection. It is tons of rejects. I have asked out over 20 women and failed each time. Hundreds of women have said no about dating me. Sometimes girls at school will have talks about who to date and who to not date. They also labeled me as too ugly to date.

Girls tell me that they really like my personality, intelligence, charm, and sweetness. However they have no physical attraction for me which leads to rejection.

It was diffucult for me to get physical with a girl in high school. Some girls looked so disgusted by me wanting to hug them, and all of these girls were friends in high school. A girl friend from high school tried to hug me one day at college. I didn't know what she was doing at first because it came so sudden.

Don't expect me to feel sorry for you. What do you expect me to tell you other then keep trying. Firstly, tell me an in detail story of how you attempted to attract a girl. Everything you did from how you tried to kiss her to how you touched her... every detail

May 11, 2010

Don't expect me to feel sorry for you. What do you expect me to tell you other then keep trying. Firstly, tell me an in detail story of how you attempted to attract a girl. Everything you did from how you tried to kiss her to how you touched her... every detail

What's with the attitude? I am not expecting pity from anyone. I only came here to ask for advice. I am just telling the facts from personal experiences.

May 11, 2010

What's with the attitude? I am not expecting pity from anyone. I only came here to ask for advice. I am just telling the facts from personal experiences.

I'm trying to get through to you. Dude I used to walk into a room back in HS and the hottest girls would be like "Ewwww" litteraly that is the truth. I did not have my first kiss until I was 22 and done with college.

I'm just trying to get through to you, I have no attitude. The only way to fix this kind of problem is to change the way you think about it all.

If you gave me a detailed story of what you consider a great attempt I could try to tell you what you do wrong. But for the most part you just need to learn how to enjoy yourself with women even if you are getting rejected. You need to try for the kiss.

May 11, 2010

your attitude makes no sense. Are you against white men who date black women too?

I'm against him because he excludes black women for the wrong reasons. He made this very same thread on another forum calling black women, ugly, ghetto, etc. He needs to look in the mirror himself.

May 11, 2010

Let me tell you something. If you want something bad enough in life, so bad that you simply MUST have it no matter what it costs, then you'll have it.

Do you absolutely want a girlfriend? Then you should consider your failures as lessons. Man must learn that he HAS TO fail many, many, many times until he gets what he truly wants. Failures are trials: tests. The world tests you to see just how big your desire is.

If anything, your failures should prompt you to try harder, not give up. Because for every failure, every knock down, you are one step closer to what you desire: success.

So take heart my fellow man, for if we do not stand together then we fall! The Will of Man can overpower many obstacles to his goal.

May 11, 2010

I'm against him because he excludes black women for the wrong reasons. He made this very same thread on another forum calling black women, ugly, ghetto, etc. He needs to look in the mirror himself.

I never said black women are ugly because that is a bit harsh. I simiply said I am not physically attracted to them. Stop trying to put words in my mouth.

Some black women are very ghetto, and others are not. Anyone can be ghetto regardless of skin color and that is still unattractive by my standards.

May 11, 2010

Get yourself in amazing shape its worked for me,ive learned women value looks and body more then Men,if you are in amazing shape you can have your way and do what you please with these women

May 11, 2010

let me tell you something. If you want something bad enough in life, so bad that you simply must have it no matter what it costs, then you'll have it.

Do you absolutely want a girlfriend? Then you should consider your failures as lessons. Man must learn that he has to fail many, many, many times until he gets what he truly wants. Failures are trials: Tests. The world tests you to see just how big your desire is.

If anything, your failures should prompt you to try harder, not give up. Because for every failure, every knock down, you are one step closer to what you desire: Success.

So take heart my fellow man, for if we do not stand together then we fall! The will of man can overpower many obstacles to his goal.

amen to that!!

May 11, 2010

Get yourself in amazing shape its worked for me,ive learned women value looks and body more then Men,if you are in amazing shape you can have your way and do what you please with these women

If only this were true...

Looks might get you in the door, but personality is what keeps you in the house...unless the woman is a nutjob...

May 14, 2010

Let me tell you something. If you want something bad enough in life, so bad that you simply MUST have it no matter what it costs, then you'll have it.

Do you absolutely want a girlfriend? Then you should consider your failures as lessons. Man must learn that he HAS TO fail many, many, many times until he gets what he truly wants. Failures are trials: tests. The world tests you to see just how big your desire is.

If anything, your failures should prompt you to try harder, not give up. Because for every failure, every knock down, you are one step closer to what you desire: success.

So take heart my fellow man, for if we do not stand together then we fall! The Will of Man can overpower many obstacles to his goal.

I have been trying many times. I'm not doing anything wrong. Women like who I am as a person. The women just are not physically attracted to me. I'm not fat, disgusting, nasty, stinky, etc, but women still find me to be hideous.

No matter what I do things remind the same. I have the personality. I try to dress better, and get better glasses because I cannot wear contacts. I've always been while groomed.

I'm getting near my breaking point.

May 14, 2010

Dont listen to the fluff that it has to be something wrong with your approach or personality some people just arent attratcive to the opposite sex

Beign a nice person and having an nice perosnaltiy doesnt guarantee you a companion regardless of what these people living on fantasy land on here try to tell you

Bottom line dont base your worth on how your ability or inability to get women,i get tons of women and beleive me you are better of they arent worth the headache for the most part

If u need to get off badly get a escort

May 14, 2010

Many of us are sick and tired of those men who can easily get tons of women telling us we are better off without them.

Well its the truth wheter you want to hear it or not,would u rather me tell you how awesome it is and your missing out on life?

Besides if you guys cant get over women not being phyically attracted to you then you arent prepard for a relatiosnhip because its 1000x worse when you get rejected after a long relationship and have your heart broken and get rejected for who you are as a person

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