RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Hi everyone! I made a couple of topics about my personal problem many months ago so I didn't want to bump them. I am just posting an update of my problem. For those who do not remember I'll give some information about my problem. Hello everybody! I'm Franklin. I'm 20 years old, and currently a college student. My major is political science. During the school week I work on campus. My hobbies are video games, football, basketball, professional wrestling, My favorite food is chicken. My favorite food is chicken, and favorite meal is Shrimp Lo Mein with Orange Chicken on top! I love rootbeer. It's so good. Late at night I watch The Daily Show with Jon Stewart and The Colbert Report with Steven Colbert! I never had any luck with women. I have never been kissed, been on a date, nor had a girlfriend. A woman has never been attracted to me before. Every girl who has rejected has said I have too ugly to date. Girls who I did not asked on dates also said that I am the ugliest guy there is date. I am the worst of the worst.(Don't get confused, I am saying their opinions. I am not calling myself ugly). Sometimes when I try to meet a new girl, she gives me a negative facial expression. She makes an ugly and disgusted face like "hey back off" or "is this guy really trying to talk to me?". I am not hitting on her. I am just trying to have casual conversation. In school girls always said I am the worst looking guy to get. The worst of the worst to ever date. Schoolgirls sometimes like to rate guys. Who is cute, sexy, hot, average, nerdy, or just plain ugly. I always ended up on the ugly rating from every girl. One of my problems is that my ears are deformed. They stretch out and curl really bad. Is this putting women off? I'm thinking about getting surgery to get them fixed. Lastic is also something I am looking into. Last year I decided to try online dating. I sent a few girls some messages, but never got a response. One site has a picture rating system. My picture rating average is between 1 and 2 out of 10. People often say I am a good looking guy. People at church always say this. My friends and family often say this. At first I am like " hey they are just being nice". However I am often to this by random older people. At church Sunday the pastor spoke up in prayer and made a special prayer for me(he was giving out other prayers). He mention that I am a good looking guy, and a lot people were also saying this(they don't know about my problem with women). When I was younger random people always said I was a good looking kid, and they said it to me more often than every other kid in my classes. I have asked my friends to help me. My girl friends told me that they don't know anyone who would even go out with me once. Some have told me to turn gay to find love. A few girls told me I should wait until someone walks up to me. My guy friends tell me to get confidence. Some told me that it just takes longer for some people to get noticed by someone. Please rate me out of ten. I want to know where I stand at the amount. I'm 6'0 and 165lbs. Recently me and my friends have started working out together. The guys know what they are doing so that really helps me. My metabolism is pretty high so I need to continue to eat allot of healthy food. Hopefully some muscle will be built. These are some pictures of me during the years. Please rate me out of ten. I want to know where I stand at the amount. I'm 6'0 and 164lbs. Please be honest. If you also think that I am ugly just say it. I rather hear the truth than someone trying to be nice by lying. 2007 http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=FRANKLIN.jpg 2008 at an amusement park http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=LastScan.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=TheGreatGameOfGolf.jpg 2009 http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=PC100004.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=noname.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=noname1.jpg 2010 http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=Franklin2.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=drinkings.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=PiscesParty5.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=Attheoffice.jpg http://s210.photobucket.com/albums/bb31/RATED-RKO_2007/Franklin/?action=view¤t=PiscesParty2.jpg Theses are my standards. 1. She must be a christian. I want someone who has the same religious beliefs as I do. 2. She must be slender. I am not attracted to women who are fat. I take care of myself so I would want someone who would do the same for themselves when it comes to weight. 3. She must have class and respect for herself. 4. She must be clean. All I am asking is for a woman to take care of herself. Be nicely groomed. 5. She must dress nice. Wear respectable clean clothes. 6. We must have good commutation. I believe a good relationship needs good communication. I am not physically attracted to black women. The stereotypical ghetto person regardless of race is a total turn off. I know I am black and some people criticize me of this. I'll be using this topic to give updates about my problem not being able to attract at least decent women to date.
Rorschach Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Okay this is probably really terrible but after reading about your favorite foods (chicken chicken chicken) I just skipped to the end and saw that you wanted somebody to rate you out of 10. When I saw you were black and nearly choked on my salad laughing. Stereotypes make me giggle. and for the record, I am white and i LOOOOOOVE mayonaise. But I think you're a good looking guy and you aren't looking for anything out of the ordinary, just get out there and meet people. Good luck.
SilentVoice Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 (edited) Okay this is probably really terrible but after reading about your favorite foods (chicken chicken chicken) I just skipped to the end and saw that you wanted somebody to rate you out of 10. When I saw you were black and nearly choked on my salad laughing. Stereotypes make me giggle. and for the record, I am white and i LOOOOOOVE mayonaise. But I think you're a good looking guy and you aren't looking for anything out of the ordinary, just get out there and meet people. Good luck. My word -- don't I have some homework to do... But I am so happy someone decided to bring up the chicken part.. after seeing it twice.. I decided to check out the pics.. and low and behold.. lol Did I mention I like watermelon ? anywho enough games But just try to get out and meet more people.. I guess church since you are into God ..can't go wrong there I assume Don't think I answered your question... You not ugly -- you look better as you have gained some weight (build) over the years. But just get out and try to meet new people Edited May 5, 2010 by SilentVoice
Eeyore79 Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 OP, you posted this exact same thread, pretty much word for word, six months ago. Have you taken account of any of the advice that was offered?
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 OP, you posted this exact same thread, pretty much word for word, six months ago. Have you taken account of any of the advice that was offered? I have not posted the exact same thread. I just reposted parts of the older topic for members who do not know of me or forgot about it. This topic has updated information about me working out, new pictures, and things about my life. @ SilentVoice I do meet people everyday. I work on campus and it is a great way of meeting new people.
Eeyore79 Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Your ears are not deformed; you look fine. Your problem is most likely your attitude; women like confidence, fun, humour... are you expressing those qualities? Are you even approaching women and asking them out? Perhaps online dating would be a good thing for you to try, since it allows you to search only for women who are Christian, non-black, etc... i.e. women who fit your criteria. It would also give you a chance to express your personality without feeling pressured by the confrontational nature of asking a girl out face to face.
Rorschach Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Your ears are not deformed; you look fine. Your problem is most likely your attitude; women like confidence, fun, humour... are you expressing those qualities? Are you even approaching women and asking them out? Perhaps online dating would be a good thing for you to try, since it allows you to search only for women who are Christian, non-black, etc... i.e. women who fit your criteria. It would also give you a chance to express your personality without feeling pressured by the confrontational nature of asking a girl out face to face. If you are having a problem this seems to be the most likely cause as your looks are fine. I've been blessed with a good personality but I need to work on the looks department, you seem to be the opposite as you've been given a good build and nice face but (possibly? not sure) have attitude issues. There are ways to fix it though, if you think thats your problem it's an easy fix once you focus on it.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 (edited) Your ears are not deformed; you look fine. Your problem is most likely your attitude; women like confidence, fun, humour... are you expressing those qualities? Are you even approaching women and asking them out? Perhaps online dating would be a good thing for you to try, since it allows you to search only for women who are Christian, non-black, etc... i.e. women who fit your criteria. It would also give you a chance to express your personality without feeling pressured by the confrontational nature of asking a girl out face to face. Please be honest with me. My ears are deformed. I have researched this and they are considered a deformity. People describe me as fun and humorous. I do have confidence to talk to women. Unlike some guys I don't get nervous, act stupid, and talk about odd stuff. However, I am have not asked out any women in college. I was interested in a girl, but she wanted nothing to do with me and ignored me. I see how women act around a man who they are attracted to, and women don't act like this to me at all. I don't see them playing or moving their hair around me. They don't check me out. They do not turn away if I see them starring at me. Girls smile at me everyday, but I just see them as just being friendly. They are not the type of smiles that seem to have any attraction for me. It's like a quite way of saying hi. Well that what I see from all of the smiles. I am taking the smiles the wrong way? I've tried online dating a few times with no success. No one ever replied back to me. One site had a rating system for pictures. My average was a 1 out of 10. Not joking. Edited May 5, 2010 by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN
Eeyore79 Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Your ears are not deformed. But even if they were; so what? Ears are not the measure of a man; there are so many more important qualities, and your looks alone do not define whether a girl will find you attractive. You cannot expect girls to act flirtatiously around you if you're not projecting that fun and attractive vibe. My ex was short and fat, and I'm the first to admit that he wasn't "hot" in the traditional sense, but he was fun and confident and smart, and I was totally in love with him. You need to talk to girls, get them interested, and then ask them out - very few girls will agree to a date if you just approach them cold. There are numerous pickup artist websites and Youtube videos which teach men how to attract a woman's interest and secure a date; the basic attraction techniques still apply whether you want a one night stand or a long term relationship.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 (edited) I do display these qualities around women. Some women avoid talking to me. They see me walking up to them and they have a disgusted facial expression like "eww not this guy". With some girls there is a personality attraction between me and her. However, there's never any physical attraction. I have it for, but she never does. I talk to women everyday. They never have any interest. Edited May 5, 2010 by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 I spoken to a girl friend last week and she brought up this topic. She told me that ugly guys try harder. I asked her what are they doing harder. She told me that she has no idea what they do that is harder. What is it that I need to try harder at? How can I make myself seem to be of better quality than what women currently see me as disgusting quality?
AD1980 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I have the same problem..Bottom line is if some women arent attracted to you theres nothing u can do to make them.. As a Man unfortuantely you have to go through maybe hundred of women who will reject you in hopes that one evnetually will say Yes..
espec10001 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 You're only 20. You'll have many more options as you get older because confidence comes with age and experience in men.
MrNate Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Yo ho! A fellow black guy. Hey bud, there's nothing wrong with you. If you look at the advice given and take it to heart, I think you'll begin to experience some success. Go out and get to know people. Embrace your desires and don't worry about what others think. You naturally already have what it takes to attract women. Also, I sense a lot of negativity gravitating from your friends. I don't think friends would ever tell you that you look ugly and wouldn't want to date you. Rather, they would help you with your troubles. It might be best to replace those friends. Finally, your unattraction towards black women isn't unfounded. It can be hard to find one worth your efforts, but I say don't discount them all together. A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman. But I do understand..who doesn't like the snowbunnies? heh.
Green Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Nothing is wrong with you. I didn't have my first kiss/gf until I was 22 and graduated from college. At the time I was a little worried, but I still enjoyed my life and went on to kiss plenty of girls and enjoy my life after college. The trick is be confident and face rejection, ask out all the girls you like and KISS them.
USMCHokie Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Nothing is wrong with you. I didn't have my first kiss/gf until I was 22 and graduated from college. At the time I was a little worried, but I still enjoyed my life and went on to kiss plenty of girls and enjoy my life after college. The trick is be confident and face rejection, ask out all the girls you like and KISS them. Woot. First kiss at 23. First girlfriend at 25. I win.
Green Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Woot. First kiss at 23. First girlfriend at 25. I win. There are plenty of men on this site who can beat the both of us at this game. But seriously to the OP just enjoy life, get out of your head and just do it.
Peaceful Guy Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 If you also think that I am ugly just say it. I rather hear the truth than someone trying to be nice by lying. the person in the picture looks fine. I am not physically attracted to black women. The stereotypical ghetto person regardless of race is a total turn off. I know I am black and some people criticize me of this.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 I have the same problem..Bottom line is if some women arent attracted to you theres nothing u can do to make them.. As a Man unfortuantely you have to go through maybe hundred of women who will reject you in hopes that one evnetually will say Yes.. Well then I might as well give up. Hundreds of girls in grade school, and tons in college have no interest in me. you are hot, but too young. Umm.. what? I'm 20. Yo ho! A fellow black guy. Hey bud, there's nothing wrong with you. If you look at the advice given and take it to heart, I think you'll begin to experience some success. Go out and get to know people. Embrace your desires and don't worry about what others think. You naturally already have what it takes to attract women. Also, I sense a lot of negativity gravitating from your friends. I don't think friends would ever tell you that you look ugly and wouldn't want to date you. Rather, they would help you with your troubles. It might be best to replace those friends. Finally, your unattraction towards black women isn't unfounded. It can be hard to find one worth your efforts, but I say don't discount them all together. A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman. But I do understand..who doesn't like the snowbunnies? heh. Nothing is wrong with you. I didn't have my first kiss/gf until I was 22 and graduated from college. At the time I was a little worried, but I still enjoyed my life and went on to kiss plenty of girls and enjoy my life after college. The trick is be confident and face rejection, ask out all the girls you like and KISS them. I do have confidence to talk to women. I do go out to meet people. Please actually read what I have already said. It would make it easier for me to not repeat myself.
Green Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I do have confidence to talk to women. I do go out to meet people. Please actually read what I have already said. It would make it easier for me to not repeat myself. What part is it you thought I didn't read? Was it the part about how you take notice to what some girls said about you, or was it how you tried msging a few girls online and they didn't msg you back, maybe it was the part about how you want people to rate your looks. I read everything you had to say, and if you don't want my advice please feel free to believe I didn't because it is easier for you to keep on believing what you want. Well then I might as well give up. Hundreds of girls in grade school, and tons in college have no interest in me. Yes Very confident mindset you have, Please change that. Believe in yourself.
AD1980 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 What part is it you thought I didn't read? Was it the part about how you take notice to what some girls said about you, or was it how you tried msging a few girls online and they didn't msg you back, maybe it was the part about how you want people to rate your looks. I read everything you had to say, and if you don't want my advice please feel free to believe I didn't because it is easier for you to keep on believing what you want. Yes Very confident mindset you have, Please change that. Believe in yourself. Lets be honest the confidence thing is womenspeak fluff..Either a girl is physically attracted to you or not nothing can change that.. I have friends who are extremely good looking the biggest womanizers and are tremendously insecure..Hasnt stopped them from getting women
MrNate Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 What part is it you thought I didn't read? Was it the part about how you take notice to what some girls said about you, or was it how you tried msging a few girls online and they didn't msg you back, maybe it was the part about how you want people to rate your looks. I read everything you had to say, and if you don't want my advice please feel free to believe I didn't because it is easier for you to keep on believing what you want. Yes Very confident mindset you have, Please change that. Believe in yourself. You took the words out of my mouth Green. Thanks for answering for me as well. Also, standing at 6'0, 165 is a bit thin. I see this is a sort of update/journal thing, so I encourage you to gain some weight/muscle throughout your journey, if you haven't considered that already. This will benefit you in more ways than one.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 You took the words out of my mouth Green. Thanks for answering for me as well. Also, standing at 6'0, 165 is a bit thin. I see this is a sort of update/journal thing, so I encourage you to gain some weight/muscle throughout your journey, if you haven't considered that already. This will benefit you in more ways than one. I already said I am working out. It takes longer for me to gain weight.muscle because of my high metabolism. What part is it you thought I didn't read? Was it the part about how you take notice to what some girls said about you, or was it how you tried msging a few girls online and they didn't msg you back, maybe it was the part about how you want people to rate your looks. I read everything you had to say, and if you don't want my advice please feel free to believe I didn't because it is easier for you to keep on believing what you want. Yes Very confident mindset you have, Please change that. Believe in yourself. The part that I said I have confidence. You told me to get something I already have so that was why I thought you did not read what was said. I do believe in myself. I responded to someone who said nothing can change a girl being physically attracted or not attracted to a guy. Since women are not physically attracted to me, I said I should forget about it.
MrNate Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I already said I am working out. It takes longer for me to gain weight.muscle because of my high metabolism. The part that I said I have confidence. You told me to get something I already have so that was why I thought you did not read what was said. I do believe in myself. I responded to someone who said nothing can change a girl being physically attracted or not attracted to a guy. Since women are not physically attracted to me, I said I should forget about it. That's the problem. Then tell me, if you believe this, why are you working out? And what is the substance of your confidence? In the end, you have to MAKE things happen. There are 3 billion women on this planet. In fact, there are more women in this world than men, so basically, not a single one of them will find you attractive?
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