lvixen Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Me and my ex broke up 4 months ago, but I initiated NC two months ago. During that time I've been working hard to improve my life and move on without him. I cried a lot in the beginning but the tears started to disappear and I started to heal. I told him those two months ago I wasn't over him, to not contact me EVER that I will contact him when I'M ready. Well he called me today. My mother picked up the phone and was hesitant about passing it to me until he said "it's urgent". I should've told her to hang up the phone on him but I was really curious. Was he wanting to reconcile? Not that I wanted to reconcile with him, HELL NO, not after everything he put me through. So he asks me for my address, that he wants to send me stuff that I left there 7 months ago. Is THAT urgent I ask him? No, but he wants to know if I'm pregnant. That's not why he called he assured me. Right. The funny thing is last time we slept together was 7 months ago, I would know if I was pregnant by now and I would've told him. What a fool. At that point I'm like, I have to go, I'm eating dinner (which is true). But that doesn't stop him. He goes on and on about his life, how he is doing. I should've hung up at that point. Silly me. Instead I tune him out. I don't even remember most of what he said. I didn't ask him a single question. But I do remember him telling me that girl he was seeing, that one that made me initiate NC with him in the first place, is too weird for him. Probably you're too weird for her I say in my head. At that point I say firmly, but without attitude, that I have to go. "Sorry to initiate contact again" he says. Whatever. "I'm coming by in July and maybe we can get together for dinner..." CLICK. How completely selfish of him. I read all the time on here of exes making contact with those who make it clear that they do not want contact. I can't believe how utterly selfish these people are. This just proves that we do NOT need these people in our lives. We are trying to heal and they don't really care. How can you have a healthy relationship with someone who is selfish? Isn't a relationship about give and take, and not all about ME ME ME? I'm SO glad I initiated NC and I plan on sticking with it. Next time he calls me he better have a damn good reason or I'm hanging up on him. I should've hung up at the very beginning, I was shocked that he called. Now I know better. Sorry just needed to vent
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