My girlfriend being busy with school causing me some insecurity

[drewdude]

Hello, first of all I want to say I have been seeing my girlfriend for about 6 months now. I really love her and think about her constantly. Before this semester started, she was really affectionate/loving and pretty much gave me lots of her time. I could just feel that she was really into me.

 

A few months ago, the new semester started. She did say she wouldnt be seeing me much because of her busy schedule and I understood. Shes taking quite a few classes/works on campus and shes usually at school from 11am-till 10pm or sometimes 11pm, five to sometimes 6 days out of the week. We rarely ever go out anymore and lots of times when she invites me over shes very tired and sometimes even stressed about what she has to do for the week. We usually just lay in bed and watch movies lately...the sex is still there though sometimes she is too tired for it.

 

She hasnt totally withdrew her affection, she still kisses/hugs me and says/replys back to the "i love you's" here and there. And last week she apologized that she wasnt being a good girlfriend since she doesnt really have much free time and is always tired. Even her friends that have the same classes as her said they are really stressful classes...Lately though ive been hearing a lot less from her, one or a few texts throughout the day and thats that...

 

 

Needless to say, I have had trust issues in the past(cheated on/lied to) and sometimes my mind is thinking of other things when there is no actual proof. And I get like this when I see a change/decline in such things...What should I do? What can I do to get these bad thoughts out? I know college ends for us in 3 weeks so hopefully she will have more time...thanks

[PutTheBlameOnMame]

Oh dear. I really don't thinks she is cheating on you at all. She must be really stressed out, you should really just talk to her tell her how you feel...take the time when you two are just haning out and watching a movie so you can tell her how you feel and she can tell you how she feels and than the two of you can come up with a solution, school is almost over like you said you've just got to hang on there. Remeber that she loves you, and remember she might be going through a hard time right now. So yeah the both of you just need to TALK. And I mean really talk.

 

I hope I helped a little.

Best wishes to you and your girlfriend. I turly do hope things work out.

[D-Lish]

School can be demanding- especially at the close of a semester. I remember having 5 essays due on top of studying for my finals. I was always so stressed during those times.

 

It's doubtful she's cheating.

 

She still takes the time to reassure you with her texts- despite being so busy.

[lcm]

The best thing you can do is be understanding. When you are together, rub her shoulders, back, even feet, but don't have any expectation for sex, just be there and help her relax. School can be stressful, and at least she has acknowledged that she's been pulled away from you. The most important thing is that if you see a long-term relationship/marriage out of this, then what's a few months of hectic? The education is important, and school schedules will be nothing like work schedules - it gets worse.

 

If you are concerned, be honest with her, and let her know that you have insecurities as a result of your past. Let her know that you are not implying that she's cheating on you, just that your past experiences cause you some emotional concerns. The discussion could be good for both of you - if you're feeling that she's slipping away, and you're more "demanding" of her, you could be part of the reason she's pulling away. The honest discussion will be helpful for both of you to understand where one another are, and what you're both going through. Chances are good you're not the only one in the relationship with feelings that aren't being fully/honestly discussed.