skydiveaddict Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 So, today is day 7 with NC. I'm so proud of myself. But today I have such an urge to see what he's up to on facebook. It will either make me terribly relieved and happy or really miserable and sad. I'm scared for the latter though. I unfriended him 2 weeks ago, so I've been thinking of asking a work friend (the only one that knew about us) to check and report back to me, or to let me just see through his iphone. Why do I want to see so bad? I just want to forget this a**hole already!!! Why am I so curious????? Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DeSantos Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Something that I discovered in my personal experience of breakup mixed with facebook is that whatever is posted up there is sometimes not as it seems. My ex and I broke up and kept ourselves as "friends" on facebook, about after a few weeks she was in another relationship which I found out through facebook. Imagine that, only after a few weeks, damn, how gutted and lonely did I feel, during those few weeks, I tried far too hard to not look at mutual friends updates, photos and the lot as it was really hard, but in the end I cracked and looked at her profile to see she was in another relationship! So what turned it round for me was her actually trying to contact me after a month and a half after a girl posted comments on my page that she got upset over. She phoned me up saying I can't handle looking at your pictures and page anymore and we have to remove each other as friends. I never let on to her that I knew she was in another relationship, just played it cool and said nice knowing you. Numerous times a year on since then has she tried to contact me in some direct or indirect way... But not once have a showed any form of response.... So to me, people who broadcast their new relationships and what fun they are having after a breakup are probably not having as much fun as they would like us to believe, thats just what facebook is all about to me, people selling themselves like advertising... My advice to you would be to remain cool and calm, if you check his page or whatever, DO NOT let on or post something direct or indirectly to get his attention and when you do go to check it, ask yourself before you click that mouse button "how will what I find affect my life, for better or for worse ? is it really worth finding out"... good luck to you...
CaliGuy Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Not sure why you have the desire to check up on him at all. Facebook is only going to cause more pain. Why would you want that? If you truly want to heal and find someone better you first have to LET GO of the past and move on. Besides, someone who wouldn't make you a priority then is not going to make you a priority now.
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