Huri Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 First time post here: Ex and I split recently due to myself being clingy and needy. I recently sent her a birthday card, and she texted me saying that it was a very nice surprise and thanked me for the card. We spoke that day and it was going great until I pushed to see her. We ended up bringing up the past and her saying maybe in a couple of weeks. Then she was off to hospital for a small procedure; I messaged her good luck and she thanked me for it. I then messaged today asking how she went and she replyed quite quickly with how she was feeling afterwards. I want to reconcile and show her that I recognise how my behaviour was pushing her away and that I am working on it. Any suggestions on what I should do next?
RobD70 Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 First time post here: Ex and I split recently due to myself being clingy and needy. I recently sent her a birthday card, and she texted me saying that it was a very nice surprise and thanked me for the card. We spoke that day and it was going great until I pushed to see her. We ended up bringing up the past and her saying maybe in a couple of weeks. Then she was off to hospital for a small procedure; I messaged her good luck and she thanked me for it. I then messaged today asking how she went and she replyed quite quickly with how she was feeling afterwards. I want to reconcile and show her that I recognise how my behaviour was pushing her away and that I am working on it. Any suggestions on what I should do next? Yea stop texting her. She is responding out of guilt and you maintaining contact is showing you are still needy. Go NC. That will show her you are serious about changing. Don't tell them, they will not believe you so you have to show them with actions. She'll respect you more if you leave her alone.
DenverBachelor Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 First time post here: Ex and I split recently due to myself being clingy and needy. I recently sent her a birthday card, and she texted me saying that it was a very nice surprise and thanked me for the card. We spoke that day and it was going great until I pushed to see her. We ended up bringing up the past and her saying maybe in a couple of weeks. Then she was off to hospital for a small procedure; I messaged her good luck and she thanked me for it. I then messaged today asking how she went and she replyed quite quickly with how she was feeling afterwards. I want to reconcile and show her that I recognise how my behaviour was pushing her away and that I am working on it. Any suggestions on what I should do next? You're still clingy. Focus on yourself and figure out why you are this way. Get back into NC and stay there.
TangoWithYou Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 End all contact with her. Focus on yourself, spend time with friends, do what you like: play football, any hobby. She start to miss you, it will help you and her improve your relationships.
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