wingman2 Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 My ex wrote me again and told me that the reason she wanted to talk last week was because she wanted to know how I was feeling since the break up. She wanted to know if I still cared or not or if she was the only one missing me a lot. That's all she said. As some of you know we've been broken up for 2 months now. 2 weeks ago she contacted me wondering if I'm still thinking of her and we talked on and off through text until Friday the 23rd when we had our first conversation but since she hasn't contacted me. Is this a good thing or bad thing? Normally when someone breaks up with their bf/gf and want nothing to ever do with them again they wouldn't care how the other person feels right? Could this mean she may have reconsidered her decision and wanted to try and reconcile? She made no mention of wanting to get back together though. I'm thinkin of asking her why knowing how I felt was of any concern to her but I don't want to scare her off or be asking too many questions. I don't even know if I should respond but if I'm going to I don't want to put it off till tomorrow and will send it tonight but I don't know what to say or what to do. I could really use some advice.
In-The-Wheat Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Hey man, so I have been following your story on here.. I wish I had some advice for ya, but honestly I am stumped by her response. I would wait until tomorrow to respond - give yourself some time to really think things over. If I was dead set on responding I guess I would write something like: "I have been thinking about you since the break up - when you love someone, those emotions/feelings just can't be turned off. When we talked, I was unsure how much of me to expose since I've already been hurt... For this to get back to a healthy state again, I am willing to open up & discuss things on a more serious level only if you are as well." Idk man, do what ya feel.. this is a tricky situation.
missfrenchie Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Wingman2... I've been following your threads too... Can I ask. What books did you get?? They seemed to have helped a great deal
fiat500 Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 no, don't assume. she's made no indication that she wants to get back together or talk. she just wants to know if you're thinking of her. what does she care if she was the one who broke up with you? Sometimes people who dump need that extra reassurance that you still want and miss them so that they can reaffirm their decision. if you're available to her, she can see you as a doormat. when my ex broke up with me he would play games with me. when i would go NC for brief periods, he would text me and say "so you don't want to talk to me anymore?" and it would tug at my heartstrings and so i would break NC. I really wish I hadn't because in the end he made an ass out of me. and he easily stopped talking to me in a heartbeat once his interest waned for good and he found himself in a new relationship. don't make the same mistake.
missfrenchie Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 It's so sad... What a pity people can't just be honest and leave the games behind.
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