wierdmunky Posted May 4, 2010 Share Posted May 4, 2010 Hi again. So my brother in the last 8 months has been caught by the police for a number of things. I don't know if it's because he's being dumb, or if he is really doing these things so often that he's bound to get caught up once in a while. He's 16, and while I know that some of the stuff he does is "normal bad" for a teenager, he isn't getting the idea of punishment. So, he is kicked out of school, and both him and my parents are required to do counseling. The counseling has told my parents to take stuff away as a form of punishment. So he keeps getting caught for things in the last 3 days we've had to pick him up twice from the police. And as long as he has his friends, they'll always spot him with whatever he needs (things that have been taken away from him) so it doesn't really do anything except make him mad. It's none of my business, and I don't want to be involved, because I end up being in the middle, hearing the complaints, and am uneffective most of the time anyway! <--- that also frustrates me bc i feel like i can't handle what they are giving me to do. I feel like I'm going no where with him, can't sympathize with him. We're still "cool". I'm just confused by this whole thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Shindig Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 Does he understand the difference between positive and negative attention? Even if he does, he's clearly screaming out for help. Is he involved with drugs or is it more petty stuff like stealing and vandalism? Link to post Share on other sites
rcha123 Posted May 13, 2010 Share Posted May 13, 2010 Drug addicted person can not understand the positive and negative prospects so It is your responsibilities to make him understand with the love and care. And I hope you will care properly he will live the addiction and It is also true that it is hard. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wierdmunky Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 Does he understand the difference between positive and negative attention? Even if he does, he's clearly screaming out for help. Is he involved with drugs or is it more petty stuff like stealing and vandalism? I'm not sure, he complains how he never gets the "rewards", but what I see what happens is, before he gets rewarded for the good attention, he'll get into more trouble thus revoking whatever he was supposed to have been rewarded like a new phone, or a new shirt or something. He is manipulative though, he does the minimum of work to get what he wants, and then goes out and gets into trouble again. My parents still do give him money. Yes, and yes, both of which he has been caught and are still dealing with. He's stolen money from me, my sister, my mom from our wallets also, and the other 2 nights have "stolen" the cars, and left all the gas on empty. Drug addicted person can not understand the positive and negative prospects so It is your responsibilities to make him understand with the love and care. And I hope you will care properly he will live the addiction and It is also true that it is hard. thank u rcha, my friend had said to try to get closer to him and his friends, to try to influence them in a good way, since his friends have such a huge impact on him. I don't really know for sure if he's doing drugs. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 The best thing your parents can do is set high standards for him. To achieve anything other than food and shelter, he will have to achieve those standards period. And if he gets arrested, the best thing they can do for him is let him STAY in jail until his hearing. Trust me. BTDT. Rescuing him is the WORST thing they can do for him. Link to post Share on other sites
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