mortensorchid Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Everything happens for a reason, good and bad ones. I'm glad you're getting on with your life without this. Lonely days and lonely nights for a while, but you'll be better off in the long run.
JustJoe Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Do you mean, gulp!! That now the rest of us have a chance?:love:
gypsy_nicky Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 this thread echoes the thread made by 'so-gutted'. The OP of this thread is cheered on while the other is vilified. The difference: The OP in this forum did not show 'weakness' by confessing her story here. The other one however did confess to get help. OP, I will say you most prolly would be vilified as well, if you decided to speak up about your story.
Author D-Lish Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 this thread echoes the thread made by 'so-gutted'. The OP of this thread is cheered on while the other is vilified. The difference: The OP in this forum did not show 'weakness' by confessing her story here. The other one however did confess to get help. OP, I will say you most prolly would be vilified as well, if you decided to speak up about your story. I've talked about it fleetingly on here, expecially a year ago- not sure why anyone would be vilified:confused:. I didn't post much about it because it didn't affect me. There was nothing wrong with our FWB situation that we had. I enjoy him as a person, and I still think he is a good guy. I haven't felt love for him in over a year, which is why the arrangement worked for both us us. We would meet up every 2 weeks or so, have a date night, meet for dinner, see a movie- it's been fun. I just decided recently that I couldn't muster up the inclination to see him- which is why I broke things off. What makes me a villian in all this?
Art_Critic Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 What makes me a villian in all this? That you had a FWB and they didn't or couldn't
Author D-Lish Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 That you had a FWB and they didn't or couldn't Lol. I guess I am missing something:cool: The only time a FWB relationship can work is when both parties are on equal footing in the emotions department. I wouldn't have been involved in the FWB situation if I loved him or I thought he loved me.
gypsy_nicky Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I've talked about it fleetingly on here, expecially a year ago- not sure why anyone would be vilified:confused:. I didn't post much about it because it didn't affect me. There was nothing wrong with our FWB situation that we had. I enjoy him as a person, and I still think he is a good guy. I haven't felt love for him in over a year, which is why the arrangement worked for both us us. We would meet up every 2 weeks or so, have a date night, meet for dinner, see a movie- it's been fun. I just decided recently that I couldn't muster up the inclination to see him- which is why I broke things off. What makes me a villian in all this? no!! I'm not making you a villain. What I'm saying is the moment people confess their problems on loveshack they start to get vilified by the members. The only reason people here are supporting you right now is because a) you talked about your situation fleetingly and b) you took matters into your own hands by breaking up with your FWB. But thats not the case with so gutted because she seems helpless by a) she shared too much and b) people don't like people who seem incompetent like gutted. Is she really incompetent for asking help? Why can people only see her and not the whole situation?
Author D-Lish Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 no!! I'm not making you a villain. What I'm saying is the moment people confess their problems on loveshack they start to get vilified by the members. The only reason people here are supporting you right now is because a) you talked about your situation fleetingly and b) you took matters into your own hands by breaking up with your FWB. But thats not the case with so gutted because she seems helpless by a) she shared too much and b) people don't like people who seem incompetent like gutted. Is she really incompetent for asking help? Why can people only see her and not the whole situation? No, she isn't incompetent for asking for help, it's the first step, and it's an important one. I actually researched her posts after I read your response to me. I have to admit that I don't always post about everything on here that is going on in my life, sometimes for fear of judgement. But in my situation, I haven't felt sad or taken advantage of. I just got to the point where I couldn't be bothered anymore. I have felt that the less interested I became, the more my fwb pushed forward. I ended it yesterday and he won't stop calling and texting. All of a sudden, he wants to "try" harder. It's just way too little, way too late. My fwb is on a visa from Ireland. We have always known he would be returning home at some point. This is why we have kept things at arms length. I'm not really overly sad about it. We dated for 3 solid months and got close, but that was 15 months ago. He pulled away when we got too close.
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