seibert253 Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Here's what's going on. A little background before my question: My FWW and I enjoy a friendship with a female friend. My FWW used to work with this friend, but hasn't in sometime. Thus their friendship has drifted apart, but mine has remained, if not grown closer. The friend and I are instructors at the same gym, and she also works there as a Manager. I see this friend frequently at the gym, and to be honest we enjoy each other's conversations and company. It's all on the up and up, nothing ever crossing the line as being inappropriate emotionally or physically. We share no romantic interest in each other. I'm certain of this. This friend is a single female, not dating, but actively looking. I've actually helped her in trying to find a male companion, but haven't had any success. She's also 20 years younger than me and I don't fit into her "age range" as far as guys. Now, the friend will text me everyone once and awhile, we may conversate via text 2 or 3 times a week, 4 or 5 texts back and forth. Mostly about work stuff, but some friendship type conversations intermixed. No hour long conversations via text like my FWW used to have. Saturday my friend was involved in a MV accident and texted me about it. My FWW blew up. I didn't think it was a big deal but apologised and on we went. Today my friend texted asking what time I was coming to the gym. Wife intercepted, BOOM. Major blow up, how it was inappropriate to be having these conversations, etc, etc. I could have laid into her about her past history, but left it alone. Now; am I wrong here having conversations with my female friend via text? My FWW is not OK with it, so it will cease, but I don't see the big deal. Maybe I'm wrong here. I can see her point of view as if she was conversating with a male friend via text I probably would not be comfortable. Just looking for other perspectives. Thanks.
hopesndreams Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 My FWW is not OK with it, so it will cease, That's good.
Fouts Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 If she's blowing up like that over texts that are supposedly 'nothing', there's a serious lack of communication between you two. I'd work on that.
locamia Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Its great that you seem to be understanding about it. To be honest I would probably have a problem with it myself as would my husband. Its kind of a respect thing. And I dont think her having a problem with it says that you dont have a trusting relationship or lack of communication, she may just be insecure.
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