Jealousy and depression from not having a relationship

[mike1988]

As I've stated in other posts...this is me:

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I am confident, outgoing, prior Military, guitar playing, fishing, sensual, 6 ft tall, 160 lbs, deep commanding voice and I love sex. Problem is...I don't get it often and never have.

 

To top it off, not only do I not have sex, I never have had a girlfriend and now, pushing 22, I am jealous of those who are happy and it drags me into a depression.

 

Anyone else understand the feeling? I've had some really bad and sad thoughts lately. But I don't show them when I'm out of course, but there's always a catch to any girl I meet...of course I'm usually not it.

[nothappyjan]

i feel the same, im nearly 24 and never had a b/f i seem to always be dumped round the 2/3month mark and sometimes it gets me down and sometimes I'm fine waiting and believe the right person will come. Just try and keep busy, its true that when your happier people can sense it and will like you more:)

[ICouldSayTheSame]

Dude, I kinda know how you feel because my previous 3 relationships (excluding my current) have all been really **** and resulted in me being screwed over each time. I felt depressed for several months and couldn't see hope at all, I too was jealous of seeing people with what looked like "perfect" relationships. One night, I went on a sex chat site (ashamed to admit it) and started talking to a girl, added her on msn and 4 months later we started dating. We've now been together for just over 6 months and bar a couple problems I have with my insecurities, things are going great. Love finds you when you least expect it. Maybe try an internet dating site? Some people say it's sad, but if you find true love, surely they're the sad ones?

 

Also, I find that in general, people are more attracted to those who are happy, like nothappyjan said. It's not always the case but you're putting on a brave face like you said. Maybe if you can find happiness in yourself, it'll shine more on others. You sound like a decent looking guy with a great personality. I'd say, rather than it being a problem with how you look/act, it's more a problem with how you're going about getting a relationship. You could go to bars (though you might attract the wrong kinda female, depending on what type of person you're looking for, e.g. slutty girls), internet dating (loads of sites give you a 6 month finding period that they say most people find love in), meet someone on holiday (I know a few stories of people meeting on holiday, my parents being 2 people that did) or anything that you're interested in. If you go to places you're interested in, you'll increase the chances of finding someone with the same interests as you.

 

Hope that helped man.