Difficult Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 Hi All, Me and my ex dated for 9 months and then we broke up, form months i tired so hard to get her back but she wasn't having any of it. I went NC and 3 months later she tired to get back with me, i refused at first and then we decided to give it a go. we were broken up for 10 months. So now we have been back together for 9 months again and for the second time around it has come to an end... it started off with an arguement were she was upset and thought i did not care... she start saying things like we are like the wind and the fire... i had always been scared that she would break my heart again, so i told her i think we should break up. I am moving to another country in a couple of months for a job i have accpeted so thought it was best to end things now.... immeditately i regreted that becuase i still love her... she said you can not retract it now and since then i have tried to make her take me back.. i have let her know i want to make it work, so it's her decision now... well she has said no... she says she still loves me but she thinks i deserve to be happy and i should look at the bigger picture... she said she wasn't thinking about breaking up but since i said it it has opened a whole new can of worms and made her think we are not right for each other... to me it feels as if she wanted to break up but couldn't do it again so has just taken the opportunity of me saying it to her advantage... any thoughts, is it possible to love someone but let them go for their own happiness, which is the reason she has given me??? Thanks for any insight!!!
missfrenchie Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Hey Difficult… It sucks to hear what you are going through. Kudos to you for sticking it out another 9 months, regardless of the way she treated you… In my honest opinion… You need to let her go. I’m not in the best situation with my boyfriend right now, so I can’t say if my advice will hold water. But you’re moving to a new country and you’ll have a new job, meeting different people… A brand new start to find someone that will treat you the way you should be treated… So all in all… Yeah. You can love someone but let them go. It will hurt like hell but you don’t have much of a choice… -Miss Frenchie-
USMCHokie Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 No, unfortunately, love isn't enough...life just has a way of getting in the way...having what are perfectly great relationships go to the sh*tter because of circumstance in our lives is just something we have to accept...and it's an important part of finding the right partner...it's not just that you love each other, but that your lives have some sort of coherence that allow the two of you to be together...
2yearsNC Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 she's looking for a reason to get out and you gave it to her. she's a coward. be happy and end it and just move to that other country sooner.
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