MrNate Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 Your location says Socal. Dude, Socal is RIPE for dating! Lots of beautiful women too...now I wouldn't go looking for a relationship, focus more on being in the moment when you're out there. Socal is a daters paradise.... Southern California??? I'm super jealous. There must be so many beautiful women out there.
somedude81 Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 I also go to a university where it's like 60% women. I feel like a kid in a candy shop, but all the displays are locked. It's look but don't touch and the frustration is obvious.
You'reasian Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 I also go to a university where it's like 60% women. I feel like a kid in a candy shop, but all the displays are locked. It's look but don't touch and the frustration is obvious. There's something about you that you need to unlock and get busy going out with women. A university that is 60% women favors your chances at success. There are many beautiful women in your area who like to have fun, meet guys and date - your best bet is to get this, take it for what it is and enjoy yourself, somedude. The minute you start thinking serious when breaking the ice with the ladies, you'll screw up. Talk to the ladies, make them laugh and enjoy! Don't worry about where your going, absorb yourself in the moment
brainygirl Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 I also go to a university where it's like 60% women. I feel like a kid in a candy shop, but all the displays are locked. It's look but don't touch and the frustration is obvious. Are you an undergrad or a grad student? It could be that the younger college age girls (usually 18-22) are a little intimidated by your age.
Engadget Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 As a straight man I really don't have a problem meeting women who are attracted to me. I do have a problem finding someone I truly connect with, which is what I really want. Not cheap, random lays.
somedude81 Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 I know everything seems to be in my favor. My personality, confidence, self-esteem, and lack of experience are the only things holding me back. And I'm trying so hard to change those. It's a long and hard process which is difficult to do on my own. I just need to try and date a bunch more women. Going on one date per semester is retarded. I am an undergrad and most of the girls I interact with are 18-22. I have the blessing of looking much younger than I am. Most people who've I told my age to, thought I was lying or were completely amazed about the fact. I also act much younger than somebody my age does. I know that some women may be put off by my age so I do tend to keep it a secret. By the time the fall semester starts I'm going to be 29 years old and trying to date women 18-22. Heh it's like the quote, "That's what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age." Of course I'm not after High School girls
brainygirl Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 I know everything seems to be in my favor. My personality, confidence, self-esteem, and lack of experience are the only things holding me back. And I'm trying so hard to change those. It's a long and hard process which is difficult to do on my own. I just need to try and date a bunch more women. Going on one date per semester is retarded. I am an undergrad and most of the girls I interact with are 18-22. I have the blessing of looking much younger than I am. Most people who've I told my age to, thought I was lying or were completely amazed about the fact. I also act much younger than somebody my age does. I know that some women may be put off by my age so I do tend to keep it a secret. By the time the fall semester starts I'm going to be 29 years old and trying to date women 18-22. Heh it's like the quote, "That's what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age." Of course I'm not after High School girls Maybe this is the issue, they're at a completely different "life place" than you are. They're young, they want to party, flirt and be silly. You are slightly older and a serious guy finishing college and thinking about settling down. You are surrounded by the wrong sorts of women.
385 Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 Another misconception, average guys are not looking for models, far from it. We are looking for our equals, the problem is our equals are out seeking above average and far above average looking guys. Those guys have no problem servicing those women with booty calls, but never a real relationship (as the blogger mentions). This leads the women to believe "all guys are jerks" And my looks are just fine (average), and my post was referring to average guys, not fat slobs. Very very true. So many girls who are 4-6s think they deserve guys that are 7-9s. Girls have the misconception that they deserve better because that's what all their friends tell them.
Ross PK Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 I've never seen them as having a hard time. It seems to me as though most guys can at least get 1 to a few girls each year. Maybe that's not much, but to me, who has never had a girl ever, it's quite a lot. I always thought gay people would find it the most difficult, since only a small percentage of the population is gay, and how would you know if the person of the same sex you fancy is gay themselves, would you really want to take the risk of hitting on them? But then I guess there are gay bars which would make it easy.
somedude81 Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 Maybe this is the issue, they're at a completely different "life place" than you are. They're young, they want to party, flirt and be silly. You are slightly older and a serious guy finishing college and thinking about settling down. You are surrounded by the wrong sorts of women. LOL I don't want to settle down. My only goal at this point is to actually date somebody for a month or so and find out what being in a relationship is actually like. Then I'd probably try to get another girl. I'm not the serious guy who's all "study study I must get out of college." I got a year or so left and I want to have fun. The only real difference I have, is that I'm not really into the party or bar scene. They've never been a part of my life. I have way more in common with the young girls than women my age. Hell I don't even think anybody 25+ would put up with me.
homersheineken Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 PJKino, I'm nowhere near ready to give up. There is too much I want. I'm sorry but even really know what you are trying to say. With this post and your previous one. What are they picking up on? When I'm with people and intereacting with them, the bitterness is the last thing on my mind. If anything it may cause some hesitation on my part because I am afraid of getting rejected. Yeah, I've realized that I need to quicker in setting dates. There are too many girls that I've known for a whole semester and never had a date with. Just this last semester I was interested in 4 girls, yet I only asked one of them for a date. She was my favorite. We hung out a couple of times and were going to have our first "official" date. The problem was that, I had so much invested in her, when things didn't work out, I felt like crap and temporarily lost all interest in women. A couple of weeks later I felt better and was ready to try and date the other girls, but by then the semester was a few days from ending. Hopefully I can meet a few girls in summer school. I'm just starting to learn that when something goes wrong with a girl, it's not always my fault. I'm always the first person to blame and I need to stop that. Like what you said, I have no idea what is going on in her life or what her past experiences have been. Of course it's hard to accept that because the only thing I'm aware of is that she turned me down. Yeah being alone is hard, I can't even imagine how hard it is with kids. BTW I'm turning 29 in August so I don't think I'm "awfully young." I may sound young because I am inexperienced. And that's another reason why I'm bitter. I feel that my youth had been taken away from me. I could have learned so much about life, women, love n' sex, and had many experiences between 18 and now, yet I've had none of that. For all intents and purposes I had a nice and easy life, just no girls were a part of it. What I'm trying to say is that even if you think you're not putting out bad/negative vibes (it's in your comments. sometimes it's obvious other times it's subtle), chances are that you indeed are. It appears in your communication on this forum. It'd be logical to assume that you have these bad habits when you're with girls and it comes through. I can't believe that you completely don't exhibit any of the women bitterness that you show on this forum to real girls.
brainygirl Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 LOL I don't want to settle down. My only goal at this point is to actually date somebody for a month or so and find out what being in a relationship is actually like. Then I'd probably try to get another girl. I'm not the serious guy who's all "study study I must get out of college." I got a year or so left and I want to have fun. The only real difference I have, is that I'm not really into the party or bar scene. They've never been a part of my life. I have way more in common with the young girls than women my age. Hell I don't even think anybody 25+ would put up with me. This could be another clue as to the problem. No girl wants to get into a relationship with a guy who's going to use them and then dump them for something new, and yes, that vibe is one we ladies can pick up on. Also, immaturity is not attractive. Even if the women you are pursuing are younger than you, they still except you to act your age. I think you may be a decent person, but you need to adjust your attitude if you want to find any sort of romantic success.
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