There is no geographical solution, as some of my know-it-all friends like to say

[Popeye_Jones]

I am a 36 year old male, never married, no kids. I think I'm an okay person. As time has gone on, it has gotten progressively harder to meet women. This past weekend, one of my married friends told me that the problem was simply the city in which we live. It is notorious for it's huge lack of single women. That is true, I guess. He went on to say, "you just need to move". "the well has dried up here". Well, here is where that theory falls apart. First and foremost, I can't move. I am stuck right where I am because I have too good of a job in a bad economy. I can not afford to throw it away on a whim. Second of all, me moving really doesn't solve anything. I'm still older than what today's single women want. I'm still not good at meeting women. Bottom line, I would still be me. I just love it when the married try to give advice. Especially that friend. He got married at like 18. Married the only girl he ever knew. How can he possibly know what it's like for me? In my opinion, people who are married (especially those who got married so young) need to just keep quiet on this subject.

[LittleMissWonder]

I think it's highly unlikely that it's the area. Where do you live?

[Popeye_Jones]

I live in Birmingham,Alabama. I don't think it's as lacking as my friends tell me it is.

[kassy]

36, good job, no kids and never married.... I'm not sure why you think this is unattractive to women. Seems like a great age, and no major baggage, I would have thought you were kind of in your prime age for most women...

 

I think you need to stop listening to your friends who have no idea about dating, and get out and meet more women where you live right now.

[Green]

I am a 36 year old male, never married, no kids. I think I'm an okay person. As time has gone on, it has gotten progressively harder to meet women. This past weekend, one of my married friends told me that the problem was simply the city in which we live. It is notorious for it's huge lack of single women. That is true, I guess. He went on to say, "you just need to move". "the well has dried up here". Well, here is where that theory falls apart. First and foremost, I can't move. I am stuck right where I am because I have too good of a job in a bad economy. I can not afford to throw it away on a whim. Second of all, me moving really doesn't solve anything. I'm still older than what today's single women want. I'm still not good at meeting women. Bottom line, I would still be me. I just love it when the married try to give advice. Especially that friend. He got married at like 18. Married the only girl he ever knew. How can he possibly know what it's like for me? In my opinion, people who are married (especially those who got married so young) need to just keep quiet on this subject.

 

In my opinion you are so full of it your eyes must be brown. Do you believe the pitty party post you made?

 

Seriously if you lived in the middle of the desert we could still put a plan of action in place for you. 36 is a great age not to old at all to find a woman and start a family if that is your goal.

 

So, just how horible with women are you? Have you ever been kissed? Have you ever been in a serious relationship?

 

Look the first step to doing good with women is breaking that mental barrier that keeps you from even trying. Do you know how ilogical it is to but down your married friends advice... I agree it is silly advice but it has nothing to do with anything. You already know what you need to do. Tell me how many women did you ask out this week? How many women have you actualy tried to kiss with the last few weeks? My guess is you have asked zero women out and I would almost bet my life that the entire month of April you did not try to plant a kiss on one single girl.

 

You are not even trying. If you have a good job GREAT! If you are 36 GREAT! finaly unless you live under the sea there are women you can find in your area.

[Popeye_Jones]

In my opinion you are so full of it your eyes must be brown. Do you believe the pitty party post you made?

 

Seriously if you lived in the middle of the desert we could still put a plan of action in place for you. 36 is a great age not to old at all to find a woman and start a family if that is your goal.

 

So, just how horible with women are you? Have you ever been kissed? Have you ever been in a serious relationship?

 

Look the first step to doing good with women is breaking that mental barrier that keeps you from even trying. Do you know how ilogical it is to but down your married friends advice... I agree it is silly advice but it has nothing to do with anything. You already know what you need to do. Tell me how many women did you ask out this week? How many women have you actualy tried to kiss with the last few weeks? My guess is you have asked zero women out and I would almost bet my life that the entire month of April you did not try to plant a kiss on one single girl.

 

You are not even trying. If you have a good job GREAT! If you are 36 GREAT! finaly unless you live under the sea there are women you can find in your area.

 

 

Yes! Thank you! This is what I needed to hear. You got right to the meat of it. Sometimes, you just need to hear another person's perspective. My original post was of the "woe is me" variety. That was my mood yesterday. Nobody is going to bring a woman to my door for me. I have to make it happen. It's time to look at that guy in the mirror. You are correct about the month of April. I've been dragging my feet in "woe is me" mode for awhile now. You provided me with a jump start by calling a spade a spade. My dumb @ss friends like to sugar coat everything, and you see what that has gotten me! For once, I have told me what I needed to hear.

[Green]

Yes! Thank you! This is what I needed to hear. You got right to the meat of it. Sometimes, you just need to hear another person's perspective. My original post was of the "woe is me" variety. That was my mood yesterday. Nobody is going to bring a woman to my door for me. I have to make it happen. It's time to look at that guy in the mirror. You are correct about the month of April. I've been dragging my feet in "woe is me" mode for awhile now. You provided me with a jump start by calling a spade a spade. My dumb @ss friends like to sugar coat everything, and you see what that has gotten me! For once, I have told me what I needed to hear.

 

Good! now go with it. Sign up for free, and paid internet dating sites. Most importantly flirt with women in person. Set up dates and actualy go in for the KISS. If you are still having problems a few weeks from now come back and make an UPDATE with things you've actualy TRIED and how you actualy had REAL FAILURES

[Eeyore79]

The majority of women prefer a guy who has never been married and has no kids, so you're good on that score. You're in employment, and you're a decent guy who's looking for a relationship, not a one night stand - all of this is very good too. In short, you're exactly what most women are looking for. The fact that you have no kids means you could probably date significantly younger women too.

 

I think your problem is not where you live, but yourself. You sound like a good catch, but you're probably not putting yourself out there and meeting women. Where do you go to meet women? Are you always out with married friends, and therefore not hitting on girls?

 

I think you need to start meeting more eligible women. Internet dating is a good place to start; also try joining a gym or evening class or whatever, or even just chatting to that cute girl in the coffee shop instead of walking on by. Women are everywhere, but I bet you're not approaching them! If you have a single friend to go out with, that would probably help, because you would both be open to chatting up girls.