sellyguy Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 I just started dating this girl for about 2 weeks who has been dealing with a pretty rough situation. She just educated me on the whole scenario and asked what she can do, but i dont know and thats why im gonna ask others as well before we spend money on an attorney. She had left this guy tony about a year ago due to drugs and just being a slob. In that years time, he has been been trying to prove hisself a worthy father but he isnt doing a good job at it. The goal she is trying to accomplish is, getting a situation under controll without taking his son from him or sending him to jail but if it were up to me i would just call the damn cops. Heres the situation: He gets adam ( the child) through out the week and every other weekend. Everytime she goes to pick him up, She finds that tony keeps putting adam to sleep in a room with black mold, moldy blankets, moldy mattress, and moldy pillows. Obviously, antone who knows about black mold right now is probably pretty outraged at the thought of this. She has also found stuff in his house to make her think he is still using drugs but i dont know what kind. It doesnt really matter, a drug is a drug and shouldnt be in the same house hold as a 2 year old child. She has warned him several times to stop doin this to adam but he wont. Apparently he is a pretty powerful individual in there town and she is teriified to call the cops or take it to court because of what he could do or something coming back to bite her in the ass. Also she doesnt want to take adam away from him because adam really enjoys spending time with his father. Is there anything that can be done to get this resolved without causing harm to leah (my girl) adam (child), or Tony(father). She also told me that his family is pretty close to her and she doesnt want to do anything to hurt them as well. If you have any ideas, please let me know. thanks!
mikeymad Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 Get that kid out of there. It's her job as a mother to protect that child, and if he's sleeping in a house with black mold, that could make him very sick and cause lifelong health problems. Not to mention the psychological issues surrounding being in a drug using household. Ask yourself if that if that is worth it to not "stir up the nest". Yes it may be hard on the child in the short term because of loss of time with the father, but the situation sounds precarious at best, otherwise downright dangerous. Since he refuses to remedy the situation, it is up to her to do it. Go talk to child services or a family lawyer...should give you a free consultation.
Author sellyguy Posted May 3, 2010 Author Posted May 3, 2010 I know what you mean and like i said, if it were up to me, this tony guy wouldnt see his child anymore cause it sickens me at the thought. And im trying so hard to get her to just get it done but its not my place right now to jump in like that. She wont do it and yes it upsets me deeply and im trying so hard to find an alternative to all this. I dont know if there is some kind of costody thing out there or what but either way someting needs done man.
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