mrrisotto Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 My girlfriend and I (both in our mid-20's with fairly average relationship history) have been together for about 5 months now and everything seems to be going great. We spend most every weekend together, have introduced each other to our friends, have met and hung out with each others families, do things/activities that we both enjoy, always laugh and have fun, are pretty affectionate towards each other and generally have a awesome time together. It's been one of the best relationships I've been in. Lately, though, her behavior is starting to puzzle me. She can be very distant and passive when it comes to contacting me, saying she misses me, saying she loves me, planning things for us to do, etc. In past relationships I've experienced a fair amount of reciprocity when it comes to these things, but with her it seems that I am usually the one to do all of them - the pursuing. Despite her friends telling me how much she likes/loves me, she just doesn't seem to express it at all, or when she does it's only when we're together. Am I overanalyzing things or could it be she just not that into me and is afraid to tell me?
borntorun Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 well thats a hard one. If the distance is something new, then it could be that she has lost interest. But she could also have a problem expressing herself. I am that way and have a hard time saying how i feel. Its easier for me if the other person initiates first. 5 months in you should feel comfortable enough with her to just come out and ask her why. I would tell her that you care for her but you want to know how she feels about things , that you are concerned bc she does seem to be distant.
hollygolightly Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 5 months together is long enough that she could be starting to examine the relationship a little more, trying to figure out if it'll work for her for the long haul. She might be finding things she doesn't like, or she might just need some time to think. 5 months is also long enough that you two should be able to have an honest talk about it. Bring it up nicely, ask her if anything's bothering her because she's seemed a bit distant, etc. See how that goes. Good luck!
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