tigressA Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 There's a guy I met on OKCupid a few weeks ago. I saw his profile, sent him a message and we've been talking regularly ever since. I feel generally good about this situation so far because I did something very important before having met him that I utterly failed to do the last couple of times with different guys--I made what I'm currently looking for crystal clear, and got a clear bead on his intentions as well. We both want to find a long-term partner. We have tentative plans to meet this weekend. We've wanted to meet for awhile now, but circumstances have prevented it--mostly his being a PhD student and currently not having a car. I would meet him somewhere, only I don't drive and my financial situation has left a lot to be desired over the last months, so public transit is out for me too (there are 45 miles between us). My question is, if for some reason we can't meet this weekend, how much longer should I wait before giving up on this? I think it might be worth it to hold out, but I just wanted to see others' opinions on this since this is the first time I'd possibly have to wait a month or more to meet in person a guy I met online.
skydiveaddict Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 you are pretty enough you dont need a website to get dates. Just go out in the real world. you'll have no problems I can promise you
Author tigressA Posted May 3, 2010 Author Posted May 3, 2010 Thanks SDA. Anyway, I decided I don't need to contemplate waiting vs. not waiting. I do like him, so really, why wouldn't I wait at least a little longer? If meeting this weekend can't happen, I'll wait. I have things to occupy my time anyway, it's not like I have absolutely no life.
BobSacamento Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 I'd keep him as an option, but I wouldn't put all your eggs in one basket. Make sure you keep the ball in his court. If he really wants to be serious he'll find a car and come to you or find some kind of compromise. He's a smart guy, he can figure it out.
Author tigressA Posted May 3, 2010 Author Posted May 3, 2010 (edited) I'd keep him as an option, but I wouldn't put all your eggs in one basket. Make sure you keep the ball in his court. If he really wants to be serious he'll find a car and come to you or find some kind of compromise. He's a smart guy, he can figure it out. Yeah, that was my thought about it too. When we talked earlier today we discussed options. We talked about it a couple of other times before too, and at the very least it seems like he's trying to figure something out, which is good. I'm inclined to be patient because of my own situation, which I briefly outlined in my initial post. I'm more naturally inclined to 'put all my eggs in one basket', but if it doesn't work out am basically like, "Oh well. Onto the next." After my multidating exploits I've found it's better for me to focus on developing things with one person at a time. Edited May 3, 2010 by tigressA
BobSacamento Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 I totally understand where your coming from though. Sometimes you find someone on paper that's awesome but the arrangements don't allow to see if you have a connection. I just met with someone today who lives an hour away. I wasn't sure whether it was conceivable because I've never really done anything close to LDR. But I figured why the hell not. Totally worth it. Good luck!
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