tx_girl Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 There is this guy that I met at work. At first we didn't work much together, but towards the end of my employment (I have since quit for summer break) our shifts started over lapping and we started talking. There was some light flirting, and joking. He seemed kind of shy. Since I've quite we've been talking online a lot - he has initiated 90% of the conversations. We will talk hours and hours, sometimes until two in the morning. One day, he gave me his phone number and told me that I could text him if I wanted to. I did, of course, and he texted me right back. So now, we text every so often, too. One day, we met up so that I could return a movie he let me borrow. I was being shy and he was being shy so we didn't talk too much. It was one of those moment where we both could have sat down and talked for hours, but neither of us did. I am unsure if I am headed towards the friend zone or not. I feel like he would have asked me out by now, but he hasn't. I know he is shy, but I didn't think was too shy to get the ball rolling.
carhill Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Failure to launch. Possible he has a GF stashed somewhere? Describe to me how you perceive 'shy'. I ask because a guy who initiates conversations 90% of the time, chats with you for hours online, and invites you to text him and vice-versa does not appear shy to me. Even when I was 'shy', I asked women out on dates and actually dated. I had to be really motivated to do that, more so than the average man, because of my shyness. I didn't engage in long-winded interactions with single women. Married/attached women, yeah, unhealthily so, but I wasn't 'dating' them and was firmly in their friendzone. My money is on a GF somewhere. Watch his pattern of contact for commonalities...
alphamale Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 I am unsure if I am headed towards the friend zone or not. I feel like he would have asked me out by now, but he hasn't. I know he is shy, but I didn't think was too shy to get the ball rolling. why don't you ask him to ask you out. just send him a txt msg that says "would you please ask me out sometime?"
Author tx_girl Posted May 2, 2010 Author Posted May 2, 2010 Describe to me how you perceive 'shy'. My money is on a GF somewhere. Watch his pattern of contact for commonalities... At work, he just seemed really quiet in person...never really talked too much. Kind of kept to his own. Thanks for the advice!
ADF Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Men generally do not friend-zone women the way women friend-zone men. It can happen, but it is pretty rare. Women are much more likely to get FWB-zoned than friend-zoned. However, that doesn't seem to be where you're headed. It just sounds like this guy is pretty shy. He must like you, or he wouldn't have made the effort to get to know you. Take the initiative with him for a while. Once he is clear that his interest in you is reciprocated, I bet he'll loosen up quite a bit.
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