LittleTiger Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Its quite some time since I suddenly dropped off this section when my husband ended our LDR marriage. For those of you who were around back then I used to be LonelyTiger. Fourteen months after joining LS, the name doesn't suit me any more so I changed it and registered the new me yesterday. What a difference a name makes! I defected from here for a while, over to the Separation and Divorce section, and with a lot of help from the wonderful people on there I pulled myself out the horrible place I'd fallen into - I read more than I posted but for anyone here who rarely posts, or who's never even registered, you'll know that can be just as effective. Long story short, right out of the blue I met the best man I've ever known. I thought nobody would ever top my husband, but this guy is every dream I ever had come true. Of course, nothing is ever perfect, and the obstacle here is, (no medals for guessing this one) distance. 12,000 miles of distance!!! . For some that may be impossible to deal with but we're both in our 40s and lucky enough to be in a position that we can afford regular, and fairly lengthy, trips (not very green unfortunately but hopefully it won't be for too long). On the face of it you'd think I was in a similar position to when I first joined LS in March 2009, but actually that's not true. Yes, I still live alone and my SO is halfway across the world but the difference is I'm not lonely, and there are two main reasons for that: 1. He geniunely loves me (sounds obvious but I really thought my husband loved me - now I know differently - and the difference is so obvious I could kick myself ) 2. Great communication - I know it's been said before many times on here but I can't stress enough what a difference it makes to how an LDR feels when the communication is good. Regular contact and 100% honesty. (I'm sure anyone in a long term LDR with second me on that one) We met online in September (as friends), met IRL in November and that was it for both of us. In terms of LDR we seem to have 'cracked it' right from the start. I'm not pretending it's easy, (what relationship ever is?) and I'm still the one that finds it the hardest, mostly because of lack of physical contact, but it's working for us and apart from the obvious desire to be together full time I really have no complaints. So I just thought I'd reintroduce myself and my new situation. I don't expect things to go this smoothly all the time, but I know from experience that LS is a great place to be when the going gets tough. I see some of the 'oldies' are still going stong, so well done you guys, and I look forward to catching up on everybodies stories.
aerogurl87 Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Welcome back to the LDR forum! Sounds like you've found happiness again, even if it means being in another LDR. I'm basically in the same position, I was in a LDR with my ex that ended horribly but I seem to have found another guy who is pretty awesome. Once again it's a LDR, the only difference being he lives in the next country over whilst my ex lived in the States like me. Good luck!
Els Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Welcome back! We definitely missed you, although I must say I'd never wish a return to the LDR boards on anyone. I'm so glad you found a lovely SO! Keep us posted!
Rollercoasterr Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Oh we missed you! I was thinking about you the other day and wondering how everything was going, but now I can see. Congrats on your new relationship and finding happiness. I think it's funny how things become more clear to you when you are removed from the situation. Long story short, I should have known my ex was gay.
Author LittleTiger Posted May 3, 2010 Author Posted May 3, 2010 Thank you for the warm welcome back. I would say it's lovely to be back (which is partly true) but I wouldn't wish an LDR on my worst enemy . It is oddly comforting though to be in familiar territory LS wise. I've missed my LDR buddies. The Separation and Divorce forum, whilst obviously necessary and full of lovely people, can get very depressing. My own divorce should be final in the next couple of months. I still find it very sad but the split was, thankfully, amicable and we've remained friends. aerogurl87 it's good to meet you. I hope your new LDR works out better than your previous one. It can be tough but, despite my broken marriage, I still think it's worth the effort if you believe you've found the right person. Elswyth and Rollercoasterr it's good to 'see' you again and I hope things are going well for both of you. I will have to spend some time catching up on your most recent threads. Rollercoasterr - your ex was gay??? OMG! Yes hindsight is a wonderful thing.
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