TooMuchPride Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Hmm..Okay You Guys Said gave me reasons not to text , i didnt but i still really want too , since this a second chance thread..any1 who got there ex back please help..im sure he'll answer...but...which idea is better?...simply saying "hi" or telling him to listen to this song about breakups i been listening too....
wingman2 Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 I say if you're going to text him, say a simple hi. Any song will just potray yourself as desperate in his eyes and you don't want that. But a simple hi shouldn't hurt. I'm still stuck on whether I should text my ex or not too. I still say try and wait it out a little longer but if u must then just say a simple hi, no song.
undisclosed Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Hi, I'm in the exact same situation. Been in NC & now he's tried 3 times (1 call and 2 texts) last one was about 3 days ago. I really want to text back, but everyone has advised not too. Ive stayed strong, but part of me is still hanging on to the "what if" Mine said it was still difficult to talk to me and see me when we split and went no contact & it was supposed to be a cooling off period, so now that he's initiated after a period of silence, I feel like I might break any day now. Everyone has good intentions, but I guess sometimes you have to learn the hard way or who knows maybe it will go well. guess you never really know and only you know what type of person you were dating and all the details of your separation. I wouldn't say anything about a song cuz that might come off a little desperate or like your not okay.
MrsPeaSoup Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Hey TMP, If I were you, I'd not text him about a break-up song. Like the others said; don't portray yourself as a desperate girl. This will only boost his ego and that is NOT what you want. I have some advice for you which I learned myself here on LoveShack... Try to listen to other people who give you advice, but also try to listen to your own heart, your own mind. Because nomatter what everyone says, you are the only one who knows your ex and your relationship with him the best. So, try to truly evaluate and imagine what will happen if you text him. Try to imagine what he will feel after reading your text. Don't let the hope monster get in the way, but only your own common sense. If you feel the hope monster is overruling every sense of rational thinking: Don't text him just yet, ok? Work on yourself first. You must feel good about yourself first and you must REALLY feel as if your life also is great without him. Do that first and text him afterwards, ok? Hang in there! You can do this!
Author TooMuchPride Posted May 2, 2010 Author Posted May 2, 2010 thanks MPS good advice but lol im a little to late..i texted simply saying hi....n he replyd "uhhh,hi" , kinda makes me feel like a creep..i wasnt gonna answer but i did after 10 mins cause that would just be dumb...to text then stop....he hasnt replyd..but i feel bleh -.-
lullaby Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Well, at least he answered. What did you reply to him? Stay strong!!! you've already made a first move. It's ok. Just try to cope with whatever he answers now. It's true that you and only you know the person you were dating! Best,
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 I'm going to borrow something off of another board, something that I would read and re-read when I found myself in similar situations: A man walks down a long hallway with lots of doors and stops at one and knocks. A clown answers the door, opens it and punches the man in the face and then slams the door. The next day, the man walks down the same hallway, finds the same door and knocks. The clown answers the door, opens it and punches the the man in the face and then slams the door. The third day, the same things happens, and every day after that. Finally one day, bruised and missing teeth the man reaches the same door and knocks. No one answers. The man continues to stand there banging on the door until a neighbor opens one of the other doors and asks what he's doing. The man says... "I'm looking for the clown". Stop looking for the clown, in other words. Think of every contact you make with this guy as the emotional equivalent of a punch in the face. How many times are you going to send yourself back for another punch in the face? How long will you wait for the next punch to the face?
Author TooMuchPride Posted May 2, 2010 Author Posted May 2, 2010 yea thats makes alot of sense^ ..kinda wish i saw that before.. i feel empty... we spoke and he kept trying to talk about the past... i told him lets not get into it but he did anyway , he explained how hard it is to have a long distance relationship and that after spending time with the girl he caught feelings and lost some for me , i told him i wasnt mad anymore and it was ok , he kept saying sorry for not trying to fix it and says he was stupid for that..it sounds like h is jus trying to make sure il be his when i return home...i am not feelin any emotions yet but i kno i will soon , last thing i asked was if he loved her...lol he never answered...
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