lily_dog Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 So after a fairly civil breakup followed by a rage phase my ex boyfriend who already has a new girlfriend is ready to talk to me. This was solely for the purpose of getting him to be civil towards me because we share the same social group and I'm trying to avoid awkwardness. Whilst i do still have some feelings for him, he has made it abundantly clear, that he has moved on and has no interest. He has his rebound girl. For all i know he just wears a great poker face and aches a lot and still has feelings for me as i do for him, however its also possible he just healed in less than 7 days *shrug* A part of me is very hurt that a 6 month relationship that involved someone missing me so much they paid to have me fly half way around the world to see them, could be forgotten, healed and moved on with so very quickly. Part of me starts to think that 6 months no matter how intense or well matched, was only 6 months, and therefore he truely has moved and forgotten all about me, another part of me says....thats impossible, But i suppose it doesn;t matter. Opinions based on experience appreciated Anyway, what do i say? I'm just planning on trying to explain some of the things that caused his 4 weeks of 'rage phase' and silence. Because he may have been mislead or overreacted etc. there is also an issue of money, at the time it was a gift (he flew me overseas to see him because he missed me so much) but during his anger has asked for it back. I'm happy to keep him as a possibility for the future, but I definitely believe in being patient and never re-dating someone until time has passed and both parties have had time to grow and change. Is this a bad image to have? Other than that in general what do i say? to build a happy....friend relationship I guess. Get it as back to normal as possible. I know his new girlfriend will be around a lot but I have nothing against her so....Advice for making peace please!
aerogurl87 Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 My ex and I were in a LDR, and he left me for someone else. We were also together for 6 months and I cried, begged, cried, and begged some more for him to come to his senses. He told me point blank that we would never be back together, although he said he still dreams of us and when we were together, oh well. All I have to say is when him and his rebound girl break up and he's left alone, he'll probably come crawling back. You'll just have to be strong enough to say no to him by then. You can be friends again, but it'll take some time. For the first time since we broke up, my ex and I were able to finally be civil toward one another this week. We both had to get over everything that happened (and it was alot) and grow up by ourselves. Of course him and I will never ever end up back together because not only did we grow, but we grew in two entirely different directions. So give it some time and focus on you and making yourself happy. When the time comes you two can talk things out then, but you have to be patient.
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