TooMuchPride Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Today all i thought about was my ex , it has been 2 months and im no where close to getting over it , my thoughts were all good , like me and him are still togther i had to tell my self a few times out loud "we broke up" its odd , like i convinced myself him and I are getting back , and he feels like i do , mind u he hasnt contacted at all , if we have spoken its been my doing, ive been using all positive things he has done as evidence...i really want to call or text , i need reasons not to , QUICK , because ive attemped to get him back and failed already, kind of my own fault , i have a self destruct button when i get scared, but anytime i contact he seems really happy to hear from me , but he is seeing someone else... a part of me thinks its a front but he hasnt done anything to prove me right , he has said he loved me last time we spoke , but that was 2 weeks ago , i went back NC out of fear of getting hurt...stupid since im the one who wants him back and i was actually getting somewhere , i cut him off knowing he wouldnt contact(hoping he would)..but now i think im on the edge of texting him, ive done this 3 times since the break up , contact begin making progress get scared go back NC...when he doesnt chase me do it again he most likely thinks im crazy by now...usually i would have contacted back by now and i havent...i think i should stay this way , its getting hard. , PLEASE TELL ME WHY I SHOULDNT TEXT. my hearts convinced i can get him back , my mind knows better , but my heart is winning the battle of "should i text, AGAIN"
northstar1 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Today all i thought about was my ex , it has been 2 months and im no where close to getting over it , my thoughts were all good , like me and him are still togther i had to tell my self a few times out loud "we broke up" its odd , like i convinced myself him and I are getting back , and he feels like i do , mind u he hasnt contacted at all , if we have spoken its been my doing, ive been using all positive things he has done as evidence...i really want to call or text , i need reasons not to , QUICK , because ive attemped to get him back and failed already, kind of my own fault , i have a self destruct button when i get scared, but anytime i contact he seems really happy to hear from me , but he is seeing someone else... a part of me thinks its a front but he hasnt done anything to prove me right , he has said he loved me last time we spoke , but that was 2 weeks ago , i went back NC out of fear of getting hurt...stupid since im the one who wants him back and i was actually getting somewhere , i cut him off knowing he wouldnt contact(hoping he would)..but now i think im on the edge of texting him, ive done this 3 times since the break up , contact begin making progress get scared go back NC...when he doesnt chase me do it again he most likely thinks im crazy by now...usually i would have contacted back by now and i havent...i think i should stay this way , its getting hard. , PLEASE TELL ME WHY I SHOULDNT TEXT. my hearts convinced i can get him back , my mind knows better , but my heart is winning the battle of "should i text, AGAIN" Here are a few reasons: He's not contacting you He's seeing someone else When you have reached out, he hasn't used this as a path to get back. And 3 times. Don't do this to yourself again. I know it's tough and you are feeling that you are powerless. And i've been there. But if you text, you will feel better for a very short while and then bad again when it doesn't bring him back If he truly wants you back, he will make the move and be very clear.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 If you were on his mind like he is on yours and he feels about you the way you feel about him, you'd already be back together. You aren't feeling love. You are feeling loss. Once you can get to the point where you realize that, you'll be ready to start moving on.
wingman2 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I know exactly how you're feeling. I'm in the same boat as you I've been broken up for 2 months myself and my ex contacted me 2 weeks ago telling me she's been thinking about me and wondering if I have, then we messaged eachother back and forth for a few days and then Friday the 23rd me and her talked but since then she hasn't contacted me again. I've been on NC for a week and a day now. It's really painful considering she showed me so much attention last week and this week I feel like I'm non existant. I'm so eager to send her something myself right now but am trying hard not to give in. I know it's tough, try to put off sending anymore text messages and just wait and see. My ex came around and considering he may still love you there's a chance he will but I don't gaurentee it. Who am I to say though I'm in the same situation as you, just so happens today feels a little more calm but all I want is some answers from her and I'll be good. Just try to relax for now though and try not to panic. I know the temptation is tough. Remember there are many just like you around in this same situation so you're not alone, we're in this fight together.
undisclosed Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Okay, I replied to your other thread before reading this. I would say at this point you should leave him alone and if it's meant he will find his way to you. I made the mistakes of contacting in the first couple weeks and that just hurts you and makes it awkward for him and you might turn into the loony ex if you don't stop. He hasn't had time to miss you. I went NC and as soon as he didn't here from me for a while he initiated, now im fighting whether to reply or not and its been a couple days now. I think the best thing to do is stay as busy as possible and tell yourself you are way too F*** cool to continue to do this to yourself.
lullaby Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Try not to contact him. I know it's difficult, but please try to hold. And even more if he is seeing someone. Even though he said he loved you and treated you well, that doesn't mean he is going to come back to you that quickly. Besides, he is expecting you to call soon or later because you've already done it 3 times, so change your MO. Whatever you'd like to tell him, write it here. Believe me. On Friday I had a really tough day and wanted to contact my ex so badly and I pushed myself not to do it, and I didn't, and yesterday he called and today is coming to pick up some things at my place and "talk", it's been a month since I don't see him face to face! Of course it doesn't mean everything is fine, but I least I feel glad I waited and didn't call. Whatever the reason for his coming may be, he picked the phone, not me. Be strong girl!!
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