nolbertos Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I've read most of the other threads here, to find an answer without success. But was wondering if somebody can shed some light on this. I broke up about 2 years ago with my ex-gf. It was a very messy break-up and so forth. Over that time, she got pregnant, had a kid and never got married. Ever week, she constantly looks at a forum profile that had a picture of us, since I took down her pics ages ago. We haven't talked since than via e-mail, phone, etc. My question is why does this girl do this after pretty much settling down. I'd understand if we still looked at each others facebook, but I quit looking awhile back and moved on and even posted a picture of me and somebody else, so she can know, there's no chance of ever getting together. I guess I feel bad about the other guy that has a kid with her. I'm sure he checks her post history and sees where she's constantly looking. I guess it's his problem, but I hope she moves and someday and pretends I don't exist. It was hard for me, but once I began dating again recently, haven't thought of her since. I guess ten years from now, she'll still think of the what if scenario with me. Her tormented life I guess. Just thought I'd ramble.
dreamingoftigers Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Honestly she probably does it with everybody. I poke around at all sorts of things, curiousity when I am bored. Haven't been that ex obsessed though. Maybe I should poke around a few profiles later.
carhill Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 OP, any particular reason you have a couple picture publicly available after your breakup? I can understand if you were married and have children and have family pictures up for friends and family; what's the impetus here? Would it be a problem to remove/replace the picture? As to 'why', my supposition would be curiosity, especially if your relationship was valuable and meaningful to her. Part of it will live on in memory and once in awhile memory surfaces and is serviced by actions. I wouldn't assign too much meaning to it.
Author nolbertos Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 OP, any particular reason you have a couple picture publicly available after your breakup? I can understand if you were married and have children and have family pictures up for friends and family; what's the impetus here? Would it be a problem to remove/replace the picture? As to 'why', my supposition would be curiosity, especially if your relationship was valuable and meaningful to her. Part of it will live on in memory and once in awhile memory surfaces and is serviced by actions. I wouldn't assign too much meaning to it. I had a picture of us together about 7 months after our breakup. After that I replaced it with somebody knew. Back than the reasoning for me was just trying to forget the old and begin with the new. But since than, I've became more serious with the girl and honestly love taking pics of my everyday life. I guess I was thinking she's stagnating her new relationship with the father of her daughter by looking at my profile. If the roles were reversed I'd be upset my gf and mother of my child still thinks about an ex after 2 years. I'd wonder where her true love is. But if you think the picture could be cause of her curiousity, than I'll put a single picture of myself than .
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