xpaperxcutx Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 These are the facts of life E. Just like prettier women will get more attention and privilege than " average" looking women. Or Tall men vs short men...
CarrieT Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I was a B-cup at the age of 9, a C-cup by the age of 13, and hit my DDs by 18. And I have always hated them. Or, I should say, I have hated the attention that my breasts have been given and so I tried to counter by obtaining multiple degrees and becoming "an over-achiever" thinking that someone might be more interested in my mind than my body. But as an adolescent, it also screwed me up to learn that men would spend time with me if I had sex with them; I wasn't mature enough to know that any girl can get sex but that doesn't mean appreciation or approval. I have often though of getting a reduction, but I scar very easily and, as a red-head, don't heal well so I knew it would not be easy or look good after. Having big breasts is not all it is cracked up to be. And, as usual, the grass is always greener -- those without often desire what others wish they didn't have.
Left in a Lurch Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Isn't that like saying a man with a huge beer gut won't get as much attention at the beach as a guy with a 6-pack or someone with nice teeth will get more attention than someone that looks like they have been chewing on a brick? So guys are attracted by a nice body and curves and big boobs get noticed more, what's new? File this one under "no kidding?!".
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Having big breasts is not all it is cracked up to be. And, as usual, the grass is always greener -- those without often desire what others wish they didn't have. Haha... tell me about it. I still don't regret getting rid of mine.
somedude81 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I love this clip Big boobs on a thin girl are absolutely amazing. I admit that my eyes bug out when I see a girl with big boobs and if she has cleavage exposed, I can't look away. Seriously ladies, if you are showing cleavage men will look. You have no right to get mad. If you don't want men to look at your boobs, don't show them off.
CarrieT Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Seriously ladies, if you are showing cleavage men will look. You have no right to get mad. If you don't want men to look at your boobs, don't show them off. Seriously, DUDE; short of wearing a turtleneck in summer, some of us don't have a choice. It is not a matter of showing them off, but simply wearing what is comfortable. Big boobs on a thin girl are absolutely amazing. I admit that my eyes bug out when I see a girl with big boobs and if she has cleavage exposed, I can't look away. Yes, you CAN look away. Or, better yet, you can look in the girls EYES. You know, we have eyes, don't you? It is called respect. You don't see girls staring at bulges in guys pants, do you? All we ask for is respect by NOT staring.
Woggle Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Women might not stare at bulges but I have seen more than my fair share of women staring at butts. There is more to a woman than breasts but if a woman gets a boob job what is the purpose other than showing them off?
carhill Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Seriously, would you (OP) give any male the time of day who didn't pay attention to your boobs, ass, whatever? You'd think he was gay. That's the perspective of a man who has always paid attention to the *person*, not the *parts*. The successful (with women) men are the ones who lust after the parts. That's just the way you (the general you) as women want it, or apparently choose it to be, since you choose those men.
Lizzie60 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 What CarrieT said about her boobs was interesting.. I heard the same thing last week about a friend of mine who got them reduced.. because she was traumatized by her huge boobs when she was a teenager.. she was teased... etc.. and she developed a big inferiority complex because of them.. once whe got the operation (reducing) she started to gain weight.. she got morbidly obese.. then her boobs were too small for her weight.. In my case, I've always been a C cup all my life.. until I quit smoking.. then I end up with huge boobs.. after my weight gain (smoking free) I decided to lose some weight.. I lost 29 lbs.. I was about 105 lbs with a DD cup.. I was a little too thin... then I gained a bit of weight and got an amazing figure.. and I had to 'deal' with that figure.. I had so much male attention, that I didn't have before.. and that cause my first ex to become excessively jealous.. I never EVER regretted my big boobs.. I love them.. they serve me good.
CarrieT Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 What CarrieT said about her boobs was interesting.. I heard the same thing last week about a friend of mine who got them reduced.. because she was traumatized by her huge boobs when she was a teenager.. she was teased... etc.. Yes, when I was 13, I actually had boys sticking pins in my breasts because they assumed I was "stuffing" with blow-up balloons and they were trying to pop mine. I can't tell you how often I was mauled and groped as a teenager because no one believed they were real. When I transferred to a new school, my first day in gym class was the worst; even the other girls made fun of me and some assumed *I* was the teacher before they realized I was another student.
AD1980 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Women need to stop this houlier then thou ****..Yeah we look just like some of you stare or even at times ask to touch a guys bulging arm muscles..Or how a group of women in front of male strippers act even more crazy and reckelss then ddues in front of strippers.. Women always try to act like theyre the innocent creatures getting gawked at or harassed like they never do it..
Kamille Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Women need to stop this houlier then thou ****..Yeah we look just like some of you stare or even at times ask to touch a guys bulging arm muscles..Or how a group of women in front of male strippers act even more crazy and reckelss then ddues in front of strippers.. Women always try to act like theyre the innocent creatures getting gawked at or harassed like they never do it.. would like to point out that women expressed various views on the topic. I certainly don't feel most of the opinions expressed were "holier than thou" attitude. Some women are uncomfortable with the attention bigger boobs get. Others aren't. I don't think it is helpful to group all women under one category and then accuse them of all sharing the same attitude. We don't.
Leia Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Women need to stop this houlier then thou ****..Yeah we look just like some of you stare or even at times ask to touch a guys bulging arm muscles..Or how a group of women in front of male strippers act even more crazy and reckelss then ddues in front of strippers.. Women always try to act like theyre the innocent creatures getting gawked at or harassed like they never do it.. See, I don't get that. I never asked a guy if I could touch his bulging arm muscles. I don't care if he has huge arms or not. Girls can innocent, maybe. Women don't Ask the women in this thread!
carhill Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 In general, if this issue is problematical - Try something different. Reinforce positive behaviors with affirmation and attention. Eschew negative behaviors with admonition and indifference. Re-adjust your *attraction* people-picker to align with the respect and appreciation you deserve. Women always try to act like they're the innocent creatures getting gawked at or harassed like they never do it.. The only reason they get away with it is, generally, because men want sex more than they do, even if only marginally more and, as with everything, the person who cares less has the control. My only 'control' in the dynamic is not tolerating their bellyaching. Complain to someone who cares
Citizen Erased Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Yes, when I was 13, I actually had boys sticking pins in my breasts because they assumed I was "stuffing" with blow-up balloons and they were trying to pop mine. I can't tell you how often I was mauled and groped as a teenager because no one believed they were real. When I transferred to a new school, my first day in gym class was the worst; even the other girls made fun of me and some assumed *I* was the teacher before they realized I was another student. Oh how I remember this well! Once the guys figured out they were real the teasing stopped and I couldn't get rid of them. I remember being pressed up against a wall one time while a few of them felt me up, always a nice experience. Girls were, and still continue to be, bitches. I'll take being assaulted than being subjected to some of the crap I've had come my way from jealous little drama queens.
Author EricaH329 Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 Alright, since I wasn't very clear last night (after having a few too many), I'll explain what I mean. Since I work at a bar, I get to see guys in their sleaziest form. A coworker of mine just had her boobs done about a year ago. She's tiny to begin with, and her boobs are now a size D. There are guys who come in just for her, who won't spend any money unless she is serving them. I, personally, find it degrading when a man will talk to your breasts and not even glance at your face. Yes, guys with muscles will be noticed... but females do not only focus on that while talking to you. It gets old after awhile, and for the women who cannot help their breast size (not really talking about me, since i'm about average), it becomes extremely difficult to weed out the guys who want to have a conversation with you, as opposed to your physical attributes.
runner Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I just thought I would point out that the bigger the boobs, the more attention females get. i'd also like to point out, coming from a horny male point of view, that bigger does NOT always equal better. i've seen large augmented boobs, and big saggy ones that just look awful. i'd rather go after shapely b-cups on a fit body, if anything. if some guys like me are looking, it might be cos we're thinking: 'man that boob job on her just looks horrible'
alphamale Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I just thought I would point out that the bigger the boobs, the more attention females get. unless they are fake its mostly fat girls who have big bOObs
Kamille Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Oh how I remember this well! Once the guys figured out they were real the teasing stopped and I couldn't get rid of them. I remember being pressed up against a wall one time while a few of them felt me up, always a nice experience. Yeah, this happened, regularly, to friend of mine in shop class. The teacher saw it happened and didn't do anything. I was traumatized and thankful I had small boobs. I do feel there is a difference between looking at boobs and feeling someone's boobs against their will however. My friend was seriously messed up for awhile after those incidents. Girls were, and still continue to be, bitches. I'll take being assaulted than being subjected to some of the crap I've had come my way from jealous little drama queens. How about neither?
sagetalk Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I, personally, find it degrading when a man will talk to your breasts and not even glance at your face. Yes, guys with muscles will be noticed... but females do not only focus on that while talking to you. It gets old after awhile, and for the women who cannot help their breast size (not really talking about me, since i'm about average), it becomes extremely difficult to weed out the guys who want to have a conversation with you, as opposed to your physical attributes. Well, you're talking about men in a bar, there's your first problem right there. Second, if they just want to have a conversation, they will be friendzoned. The reason guys go after the physical is because it works, friendszone hardly ever works. When women start friendzoning guys who are grabbing at them, and start dating and marrying conversation guys, then I will believe they actually want a conversation. If you find a guy in a bar that's not there just for your body, you've found a needle in a hay stack. You're better off looking online then a bar.
AD1980 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Alright, since I wasn't very clear last night (after having a few too many), I'll explain what I mean. Since I work at a bar, I get to see guys in their sleaziest form. A coworker of mine just had her boobs done about a year ago. She's tiny to begin with, and her boobs are now a size D. There are guys who come in just for her, who won't spend any money unless she is serving them. I, personally, find it degrading when a man will talk to your breasts and not even glance at your face. Yes, guys with muscles will be noticed... but females do not only focus on that while talking to you. It gets old after awhile, and for the women who cannot help their breast size (not really talking about me, since i'm about average), it becomes extremely difficult to weed out the guys who want to have a conversation with you, as opposed to your physical attributes. There are sleezbags you just have to weed them out... I always find this hillarious though women getting mad because guys approach them for their looks..Umm before somebody gets to know you all he can go on is if hes physically attracted then once he starts to talk to you see if you click.. Do you expect guys to look at you and figure out "Wow she looks like an intelligent big hearted well rounded women"
Citizen Erased Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Yeah, this happened, regularly, to friend of mine in shop class. The teacher saw it happened and didn't do anything. I was traumatized and thankful I had small boobs. I do feel there is a difference between looking at boobs and feeling someone's boobs against their will however. My friend was seriously messed up for awhile after those incidents. How about neither? That's sad, poor woman. I can see why your friend was messed up. People would see it happen to me and assume I wanted it, possibly same with her. Thankfully it doesn't happen anymore, of course. And now, guys check me out and their wives/gf's get pissed at me because apparently it's my fault. I am so glad I found a guy that they are not the main focus point of his attraction to me. It gets fricking boring when people just focus on one part of you.
Author EricaH329 Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 Well, you're talking about men in a bar, there's your first problem right there. Second, if they just want to have a conversation, they will be friendzoned. The reason guys go after the physical is because it works, friendszone hardly ever works. When women start friendzoning guys who are grabbing at them, and start dating and marrying conversation guys, then I will believe they actually want a conversation. If you find a guy in a bar that's not there just for your body, you've found a needle in a hay stack. You're better off looking online then a bar. Are the men that are in the bar, not the same men that are outside of the bar? I'm a little confused. Are you saying that it's alright they act this way because they are in a bar? As opposed to... ??? I guess some places make it alright for guys to act like that. As for the whole 'friendzoning' thing, it doesn't work like that. A girl doesn't immediatly put a guy into that category because the guy isn't oggling her breasts. That's absurd. And i'm not looking for anything, I was just observing. There are sleezbags you just have to weed them out... I always find this hillarious though women getting mad because guys approach them for their looks..Umm before somebody gets to know you all he can go on is if hes physically attracted then once he starts to talk to you see if you click.. Do you expect guys to look at you and figure out "Wow she looks like an intelligent big hearted well rounded women" You are very right. Looks are the first thing anyone notices about another person. BUT... I am not talking about that. I'm talking about men speaking to breasts. Yes, speaking to them. If I meet a guy, I want him to like me for my personality and my qualities, as opposed to the shape and size of my breasts.
carhill Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Second, if they just want to have a conversation, they will be friendzoned. The reason guys go after the physical is because it works, friendszone hardly ever works. When women start friendzoning guys who are grabbing at them, and start dating and marrying conversation guys, then I will believe they actually want a conversation. Said much more clearly than my post about 'changing' their attraction style. Thanks This is exactly, precisely, without exception, how it has worked for the entirety of my life. The lesson is *I* was paying attention to the wrong kind of women. Incompatible women. Here's something to try.... if you sense 'conversation' becoming the 'friendzone', simply move on. No comment, no animosity, no bitterness. She's a boob-squeeze respondent woman and not for you. Thank her for being so clear with you about her preference. Next
Samari Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Depends. Like others mentioned earlier, if a girl has a nice chest, but I don't find her face and physique attractive, then I'm probably going to look elsewhere. If you compare that same woman to someone else who may be slender and have a small chest, but has a much more attractive face, I'd probably go for her. Now even if you up the ante and take a girl with a slender figure, nicely sized breasts, but again her face isn't that great, I'd still most likely pay more attention to a girl with a slender body, smaller chest, but dynamic face. Big breasts are nice sure, I won't lie...but it pales in comparison to a woman with a great face/physique. Now if you have all three of those attributes, then you've hit the jackpot.
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