aerogurl87 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 For half an hour straight I cried on the phone with my boyfriend. He wanted to know more about my past which I will admit I've kept hidden from him for the most part because I really hate talking about it. But since my past decided to pop up again today (the guy I cheated on my ex with contacted me after a year of NC) I finally opened up to him about everything. Through the tears I told him how I felt, what I did, why I did what I did, basically everything and he listened to me. Then when it was all over he told me it was the past, nothing I could do about it, but if he was here he would've given me a hug. He even tried to cheer me up afterward. :bunny: I think I'm a lucky girl. I guess my intuition was right for cutting all the people out of my life who I thought could possibly end what we have going. Now 19 more days till I get to be in his arms.
Deeblondie82 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 That's a good sign ....I think that you opening up to him is a good step ahead and him being a good listener is wonderful. Telling you its in the past is a good man. Most guys will get scared you mite do that again but you got a keeper here.. Keep that open honest communication and no matter what hurts you know that if he is this open to anything then that will help you get thru things and anything out in the open. Happy for ya!
Author aerogurl87 Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 Thanks Deeblondie, yeah I was afraid he'd freak out and wonder if I'd do the same to him. I've tried being honest with him completely, and although it is hard sometimes (like it was last night) I know it's for the best. This morning though he apologized for being so hard on me about not telling him about my past last night before I broke down and told him. But I thanked him for it because it felt good getting it all out and then having him not judge me for it. I think he's a keeper also.
Author aerogurl87 Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 in all honesty sometimes I find the things we chose to do in the past to not be as relevant as what we think. He loves me for the person I am now, and not the idiot I was then. ^_^ I agree 100%! When we did talk about my past a little bit awhile back when I was constantly trying to change the subject, my boyfriend did admit that had it not been for the past I had I probably wouldn't be the person I am today, which is absolutely true. I made a ton of mistakes when I was younger, especially last year. But had it not been for those experiences I wouldn't be the strong, loyal, and empathetic person I am today. I told him I used to be a pretty horrible person as I was extremely narcissistic and selfish. But I've changed, of course he can't see that first hand because he wasn't around to see the old me, but people who were have said I've grown alot. I'm just glad he wants me for who I am today instead of holding my past against me.
Els Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I am so glad for you that you've gotten all that off your chest, aerogurl!
alphamale Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Now 19 more days till I get to be in his arms. we're counting the days ag87
Author aerogurl87 Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 Thanks Elswyth, it did feel good I must say. And alphamale I am counting the days, lol, I just wish that they would go by quicker.
You'reasian Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I agree 100%! When we did talk about my past a little bit awhile back when I was constantly trying to change the subject, my boyfriend did admit that had it not been for the past I had I probably wouldn't be the person I am today, which is absolutely true. I made a ton of mistakes when I was younger, especially last year. But had it not been for those experiences I wouldn't be the strong, loyal, and empathetic person I am today. I told him I used to be a pretty horrible person as I was extremely narcissistic and selfish. But I've changed, of course he can't see that first hand because he wasn't around to see the old me, but people who were have said I've grown alot. I'm just glad he wants me for who I am today instead of holding my past against me. Bravo!
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