IAintSayin Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I posted this in another place, but maybe this is a better spot? Anyway, here is the situation. Short version: I'm just out of a 16 yr marriage and recently met a girl on an online dating site. We dated for about 3 weeks. Lots of calls, texts and emails during that time. On our last date we had sex but she is the one who brought it up. I like this girl and although I still wanted to see her again, being fresh out of a marriage, I still wanted to see who was out there too. A few days after our last date, she emails me several emails and is really mad about the fact that I continued to look at singles sites after having sex with her. We never talked about being "exclusive". She quickly came back and sent me an email apologizing over and over, saying she had no right to do that, etc. I told her I accepted her apology and forgave her, but didn't know what to think of her emails, and that being of out of this marriage, of course I'm going to see who is out there. I was honest about it. A few days later she texts saying she was trying to resist texting me, but wanted to know if it was still ok if she talked to me. I told her sure, but honestly the emails had me weirded out. She said she knew that and had been sick over the way she treated me. She said she could explain, but didn't want to try by text/email, and besides, she owed me an apology in person. I know that during the week that this happened, her married boss was coming onto her at work and she quit her job. I know it caused a lot of stress for her. I guess my question is, do I give her a 2nd chance and go out with her again, or do I just break things off? Am I supposed to think this was her normal reaction to things or could it really be stress?
Author IAintSayin Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 anyone? I'm getting views but no replies.
dazzle22 Posted May 2, 2010 Posted May 2, 2010 Most women, and I clarify as most, not all, bond a lot with sex. Men (unfortunately, in my opinion), can shag without attachment. I think this is what happened. She got carried away in the moment, had sex with you, felt very attached, and thus jealous, and is now trying to retreat from that place since you obviously did not see the 'event' in the same light.
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