ImThinkingWTF Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Abridged version: :-) I met this guy back at the beginning of March. I live 5 hours from him. He always alllllways either texts me first or responds to my text within 5 minutes. Or if we are texting he will call me instead. He has made plans for when I'm in town next week for us and for things months away. He calls every night. Except last night I called him first he answered and said he would call me back (and he did but I was already asleep ). Basically he's done everything to show he's interested. EXCEPT today. He texted me this morning and we exchanged a few, I said that he shroud call me later he said he would. A few hours pass and he texts asking how my event went that morning, I was still at it but when I left an hour later, I texted him back that it went well and gave a little detail. 5 hours later, I haven't heard a peep from him. My best friend that's a guy said that he probably just forgot to text back or didn't have anything to add. Is that likely? I never just forget to respond....and I know he always has his phone on him. I'm NOT sending another text but am slightly miffed that he didn't respond. I know I'm overreacting but my last relationship was horrible and I really like this guy......a lot. Anyone with some advice or words of encouragement?
D-Lish Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 No... No one "forgets" to text back. Would you if the situations were reversed given how you feel about him? People get busy and pre-occupied- and that's okay. It's only been a few hours. Don't stress about it, and whatever you do- don't let him know you stress about it.
Author ImThinkingWTF Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 (edited) Oh god no, id never let him know i stress! Haha, the beauty of anonymity. Also wanted to add that I'm moving there in a few weeks, met him while I was in town house hunting. So its not a ldr or even a relationship yet. Haha. Edited May 1, 2010 by ImThinkingWTF
amymarieca Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 To be honest, you sound very needy. You are completely overreacting to this situation. Is it really that big of a deal to you? If this sort of thing becomes a clear pattern, then you should worry.
Author ImThinkingWTF Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 Like I said before my last relationship was crap. He would say he was coming over and I wouldn't hear from him all day or even until the next day. We would be texting then he would just stop and I couldn't get a hold of him or if I called him he'd respond with a text. Its pretty clear to me NOW that he was cheating. I am just now getting back my confidence and I'm not going to lie, this last relationship beat me down mentally. I'm just afraid of choosing the wrong partner again and just really want to find someone that values me and respects me. Both things my ex didn't do. So maybe I'm overreacting...but I'm just super wary of little inconsistencies now. But I don't think I'm needy. Daily contact isn't necessary for me but I haven't seen him in a month so talking is all we have :-) He called me a little while ago...
Eeyore79 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I think the problem here is that you had a bad experience with your ex, so now you're a bit paranoid that this new guy is going to treat you the same way. I have the same problem myself; I've been treated like crap in the past so I find it difficult to trust my new bf, if he steps out of line even slightly I have a huge panic that he's just another player like my ex. I know it's difficult, but this new guy is not your ex, and you must try to remember that and treat him accordingly.
amymarieca Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Like I said before my last relationship was crap. He would say he was coming over and I wouldn't hear from him all day or even until the next day. We would be texting then he would just stop and I couldn't get a hold of him or if I called him he'd respond with a text. Its pretty clear to me NOW that he was cheating. I am just now getting back my confidence and I'm not going to lie, this last relationship beat me down mentally. I'm just afraid of choosing the wrong partner again and just really want to find someone that values me and respects me. Both things my ex didn't do. So maybe I'm overreacting...but I'm just super wary of little inconsistencies now. But I don't think I'm needy. Daily contact isn't necessary for me but I haven't seen him in a month so talking is all we have :-) He called me a little while ago... No offence, but if you actually looked at the situation logically rather than emotionally, you'd know that not every guy is going to screw you over. Every single person who dates will get screwed over at least a few times in their life. You just have to learn to deal with it, and be patient and wait for the nice ones to come along. In the words of Samantha Jones: "It's slim pickings out there. You can't swing a Fendi purse without knocking over five losers."
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