kittie s. Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 (please don't be offended by the symbols i post midway through this post) How far is too far? I asked him to please not talk to her because she is too flirty and nothing but bad news and he agreed not to. She has been in and out of jail, mixed up with drugs and cheating on her boyfriend. But she continues to join chats he happens to be in and they still converse. He tells me that he leaves when she shows up, which he doesn't, and that is not what I asked him to do anyways. I said just please stop carrying on these conversations with her. You can be in a chat with someone and not talk away with them. Yet he continues to go out of his way to talk with her occasionally (without knowing that I know). And he continues to act like they never talk at all. Today she joined them and after her name signed into chat, he posted up (please don't be offended), but he posted up (o v o) ....I am not sure if he meant that towards her, or if he was just being stupid. Anyways, is this fair for him to continue doing this? It's a bad thing, isn't it? What the hell do I do? I'm a mess. But this is stressing me out. I need advice from those of you in an LDR that may understand these messed up emotions I'm dealing with. Is this just the green-eyed monster distracting me from proper thinking?
Author kittie s. Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 That is a symbol for breasts. I wasn't signed into chat at the time, I had it loaded and came back to the computer and that happened. So I just got angry and left before ever signing in. Thanks so much for that link. I'm going to go read about your situation. I really hope I am freaking out over nothing. It makes life a lot more depressing when you start wondering like that. I have been having a couple of those really bad insecure days in a row
Author kittie s. Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 Okay, Rob does that and it isn't such a big deal. Rob, thank you. Lol. And sometimes the guys in chat start posting symbols acting gross, usually when they are just acting stupid. The girl never said anything, because she left a minute or two after signing in to chat. And I'm sure if she thought it was directed towards her, she would have replied with something.
RobM Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Depends on the chat room software, most of the ones I've used also let you send private messages. The general tone of chat also depends a lot on the room too. You should be at least a little worried about his conversations, it's easy for things to get out of hand when chatting, it's easier to say thing in chat that you would never say to a person face to face.
Author kittie s. Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 Yeah, that's true. I'll have to stay on him about it I guess,only when the situation arises though. I don't want to be a nag about it. It'd be easier to just kick her ass. But that isn't the right thing to do.
Deeblondie82 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I see what you are saying. my guy talks to his ex still who he was with before we starting talking and tells me when we are on the phone when he talks to her and she has a son so he tells me bout him too. It gets kinda annoying hearing about that. But he gets annoyed with me too. I would just ask him.....
Author kittie s. Posted May 2, 2010 Author Posted May 2, 2010 Yeah, I really think it's stupid to post stuff like that, HarshTruth. Your input is very helpful too. I need this kind of honesty. There was a guy that used to be a pretty good friend that started hitting on me pretty strongly awhile back and my b/f had a problem with it. I stopped talking to that guy because I felt pretty bad talking to him with my boyfriend being so upset. I'd expect the boyfriend to do the same for me.
Deeblondie82 Posted May 3, 2010 Posted May 3, 2010 Yeah, I really think it's stupid to post stuff like that, HarshTruth. Your input is very helpful too. I need this kind of honesty. There was a guy that used to be a pretty good friend that started hitting on me pretty strongly awhile back and my b/f had a problem with it. I stopped talking to that guy because I felt pretty bad talking to him with my boyfriend being so upset. I'd expect the boyfriend to do the same for me. Yes your boyfriend shouldnt expect you to stop talking to someone if he isnt.. Thats just wrong.
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