collegemommy Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I've spent a lot of time reading different posts on LS and I came to a realization today... I'm actually really lucky. I read all of these horrible stories about how these "dumpers" are incredibly cruel and heartless. I can see why certain people are so upset on here because it's one thing to be dumped but another to be kicked while you are down. It takes a real nasty person to say that they never loved you, hate you, or anything else. I don't have all of this. During the course of the whole break-up, my ex has not uttered a single negative word to me. We mutually decided to split but he started dating someone immediately after (so I'm assuming he was cheating on me) and I feel like he made this choice more so than I. Not once has he said he hated me, never said he didn't love me, never said he regretted anything. He still says that he loves me and cares for me. (Obviously not enough if he was cheating on me but whatever). The point is, I could have this so much worse. He could kick me while I'm down but he doesn't. He ignores me if I say something that could start a fight but if I'm calm and nice, he responds in the same way. Maybe it's because we have a child together so he wants to stay civil, or maybe he really just doesn't think of me with any negativity. Either way, he's been nice about the whole thing for the most part. Maybe I could stand to be a little nicer too...
mickleb Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I'm not sure how cheating on you is being, in any form, nice. And he still has the brass to tell you he f*cking LOVES you??! What an *******. I feel very bad for you, lady. x
Author collegemommy Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 I felt bad for me too for awhile because I wholeheartedly believed that this was my karma. My ex didn't cheat on the girl before me with me but he did jump into a relationship with me days after they split. I fought with his ex constantly and would argue about the kids being around me. I have already done the same things with this new girl. I truly felt this was me being paid back for all the bs I pulled previously. I don't look at this way much any more. My ex is the loser, my ex is the one who jumps from girl to girl because he has no respect for females. I feel sorry for the girl he is with because she will think he is the most wonderful person on the face of the planet. He will no doubt convince her that she is "the one." Things will be perfect... and then WHAM. He will get tired of answering to her, will expect her to be his maid, take care of his kids, and basically let him do whatever he wants. When she is overwhelmed with it all, she will stop sleeping with him. He'll get upset and decide to find it elsewhere, he will look for a way out long before he tosses her aside. She will be stupid and say that he made a mistake but take him back and all will be right with the world. Until the next time... What I was trying to say previously, was that I'm just glad that he's not adding insult to injury. He can be a complete idiot for acting like he has but I'm just very grateful not to have someone kicking me in the teeth at the moment...I'm sure it won't be long though because once this girl gets wind that he is talking with me about things not related to our daughter, she will no doubt demand that get rid of me entirely from his life. Including not seeing his child... Trust me on this, she has already tried.
RobM Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Wait a second, there is no proof he was cheating. Just because he started dating right after the breakup doesn't mean he cheated.
mickleb Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I can't see how his behaviour has been nice, then (if it's proof we're after, here). Bigger question being WHY are you talking to him about stuff other than your child, cm? What's in it for you? x
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