cmichael16 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Hey guys, some of you have seen my stories, and I had gone NC with my ex full on a week ago, I had blocked her feed in my FB but I was soo tempted to look at her posts I took a break from FB. that probably wasnt the right approach, so just now I signed in and removed my ex. I feel good for doing it, but I am sure I will regret it at some point. BUT I have to remain NC, and that was contact, even if it was one way, and now she cant see mine either. I am NC for 2 reasons: 1. to HEAL, and move on, even have someone I am interested in, its been 2.5 months since she left me this sunday, other than a few texts earlier in the week where I had to say NC there hasnt been any 2. to let her heal and think, if she realizes her huge mistake and comes crawling back begging me then she will have to prove shes worthy of my time, but I dont want her to. I am moving on and want to be rid of her. Other than her breaking my heart and then using me as a doormat for over a month after the breakup she was a good GF when she was my GF, no huge fights or anything, shes 21 im 27 (28 in may) for weeks after the breakup she would even give me contradicting answers on why she left me, claiming I didnt give her any space, then the next day claiming I gave her too much... it went back and fourth for a long time. I hope she notices I removed her but she probably wont. I did tell her that the minimum NC period is a month, that was almost a week ago. and I also told her no breadcrumbs. I do hope she realizes the mistake she made in months or years, but I wont be around when she calls me at that point and I am glad of that fact. Sorry to ramble, had to get that out, I have to cope, and its hard.
Ilovecake Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 The thing that stopped me from looking is that I realized whenever I looked and saw something new I would feel upset for the rest of the day. I was always walking around angry. No matter what there is nothing you will see on their page that will make your pain go away, only the opposite. I made the conscious effort to stop looking and since then I'm in a better mood than I've been since the break up. I did have a little bout of blocking my ex and having him make up fake facebook accounts just so he can post stuff on my friends’ pages that would upset me. I now have him and all his fake names blocked and he stopped trying to get to me via facebook and it's awesome. I feel so free. You might feel a little addictive pull to look at her page but you will not regret not doing so. If you want to get over your ex blocking her is the best thing you can do.
yume Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Sorry to hear about your pain. :/ I'd just thought I'd add that this makes everything a whole lot clearer as to why my ex immediately deleted me from facebook....it hurt me a little but I can understand, even though I have no "incriminating" information or pictures.. I remember he would tell me he used to sit and stare at my profile for ages, so I guess it's detrimental to the healing process.. It sucks that today there are so many ways to communicate with one another and we have to shut every single one of those down when you break up with someone....
sphx26 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 (edited) It sucks that today there are so many ways to communicate with one another and we have to shut every single one of those down when you break up with someone.... lol...true! Not only that, but I've also learned how to download those web protection program, ikr! haha to keep me from looking and basically to protect me from myself. sigh.. I become my worst enemy during these times.haha. But I agree, the sooner you go on NC, the sooner you'll start to really heal. Edited May 1, 2010 by sphx26
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