This Hurts Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I'm going to a small party (more like a get-together with close friends) tonight, and there will be alcohol and marijuana. I smoke about once or twice a week (well, at least recently) and I'm looking forward to that, but as for the drinking... Yeah, I'm not a big drinker, at all. I've been tipsy several times before, but not drunk. I want to drink tonight just to loosen up and have fun and forget about things for a while, but as I mentioned before—I'm not a big drinker. I apologize if I sound like a 12-year-old about to drink his first beer, but I just wanted some advice or tips on drinking. The last thing I want is to be sh*t-faced, throwing up, crying, depressed and feeling like the world is ending. And most of all, I do not want to drunk call/text my ex... that would be disastrous, because 1) I don't want to talk to her, and 2) she's most likely partying tonight and I know if I accidentally contact her, I will hear something I do not want to hear.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 well if you do not smoke OR drink much i would pick one or the other NOT both. and if you do not want to drink- don't. be the DD or something.
Art_Critic Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 You're looking for tips on how to mix drugs and alcohol ? How about just not drinking and just take the drugs ? Having fun shouldn't create drama.. Since you said you aren't a big drinker then my advice would be to just not drink.. Problem solved...
DontWorryBHappy Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Honestly dont aim to get drunk.... just drink enough to loosen up a bit if thats what you want. Last night i went out and had a pina colada with friends. That one drink was enough to make me a bit tipsy and loose, but not drunk. So I still had fun but without the hangover.
EricaH329 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I agree with what was already said, I do not recommend smoking and drinking. It'll take you to a completely different kind of 'messed up'. If you are going to drink, I suggest drinking beer. You can gauge yourself better with beer. Once you feel yourself getting tipsy, relax for a little bit. It's easy to be able to tell your limit, if you are paying attention to the way you are feeling.
CarrieT Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I just don't get the idea that because alcohol and drugs are available that they NEED to be consumed. If you are so insecure, than just mix yourself a little fizzy water with lemon and it will LOOK like you have a drink in your hand without getting out of control.
Author This Hurts Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 Thanks for the responses. I do want to drink, I'm just afraid of drinking too much. I'm not sure why I posted this now that I think about it, I guess I just wanted to give LS a warning that I might be here tonight if I'm tempted to contact her since I won't be sober. I'm most likely just worrying too much, though.
EthanH Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 the fact you are even posting this on here shows in my view that you have in mind that you will end up doing something stupid. Sometimes the human brain just wants to be destructive. Been there, done that...sure I will do it again (probably tonight)... the only thing you can be certain of is that you will regret it tomorrow. Escapism is fun but pointless in these situations...
Author This Hurts Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 I agree with what was already said, I do not recommend smoking and drinking. It'll take you to a completely different kind of 'messed up'. If you are going to drink, I suggest drinking beer. You can gauge yourself better with beer. Once you feel yourself getting tipsy, relax for a little bit. It's easy to be able to tell your limit, if you are paying attention to the way you are feeling. I'm not even sure if beer is going to be available, all I know is there's going to be jager bombs. I think that's all I'm nervous about since I'm not sure how you can drink a jager bomb 'carefully', y'know? Sorry if I'm confusing anyone, haha. I'm not alcohol-savvy. I just don't get the idea that because alcohol and drugs are available that they NEED to be consumed. If you are so insecure, than just mix yourself a little fizzy water with lemon and it will LOOK like you have a drink in your hand without getting out of control. You're right. It's not peer pressure, since I know these people very well and we smoke almost every weekend and I won't be afraid of saying no if i don't want it. Everybody is going to be either drunk or high AND drunk, and I guess I just don't want to be the only one that's just high cause then I'll feel like we're not on the same page and then I'll feel lonely. Ugh I'm so complicated.
Ronni_W Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 The last thing I want is to be sh*t-faced, ... I do not want to drunk call/text my ex If you don't want any of that, then don't do any of that! It's really that simple. It's sounding as if you have no confidence in your own power and ability to stay in control of your own drinking or of how you'll use your phone. But you do have both the power and the ability...the 'trick', really, is just to want to use what you already have. Not getting sh*t-faced drunk and/or high is a decision-choice that you get to make for yourself, which only you have the power to make. You can decide ahead of time to limit the number of alcoholic drinks you'll consume. In any case, drink like a normal person instead of just gulping them down. Don't drink on an empty stomach...eat a normal, healthy meal before you go out. You might also want to give your phone to a trusted friend and ask for a promise that it will not be returned to you until you are clearly sober and alert. For back-up, or instead of, temporarily delete her number so it'll make drunk-dials that much more difficult to do. It also seems that you've bought into the line you've fed yourself, that you do or are going to need some combination of drugs and alcohol just to be able to "loosen up and have fun". Your other option there is to just decide that you're going to be loose and have fun...without the use of stimulants/mind altering substances. You do have (much) more power and control than it sounds like you're giving yourself credit for -- the only thing lacking is your commitment to act powerful and to stay in control.
Author This Hurts Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 the fact you are even posting this on here shows in my view that you have in mind that you will end up doing something stupid. This is sad, because it's true. We'll see what happens. All I know is I'm NOT staying home tonight, 'cause then my thoughts will consume me and I WILL contact her.
Ronni_W Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 This is sad, because it's true. We'll see what happens. Another option (to those I mentioned), is to just leave your phone at home -- as difficult as that might be, it'll pro'ly still be better than drunk-dialing her. It's still, though, that it'd be okay to just make decisions (self-promises) about what you're gonna do and how you're gonna act...and then just keep your word -- prove to yourself that you can trust you. Why not?
Author This Hurts Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 Another option (to those I mentioned), is to just leave your phone at home -- as difficult as that might be, it'll pro'ly still be better than drunk-dialing her. It's still, though, that it'd be okay to just make decisions (self-promises) about what you're gonna do and how you're gonna act...and then just keep your word -- prove to yourself that you can trust you. Why not? This helped a lot, thank you. The phone idea actually sounds good. I think I'll just turn it off and tell a friend to hide it, haha. I'm excited for tonight, I'm just afraid I'll do something I'll regret.
Ronni_W Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I'm just afraid I'll do something I'll regret. CHANGE what you are thinking and telling yourself! Please and if you will. Start telling yourself that you are NOT going to do anything stupid or regretful; that you are going to have tons o' fun AND STILL be in control of your mental, emotional and physical faculties. And then just do it! Just have fun, stay in control, and have more fun And then tomorrow, you are gonna respect, admire, appreciate and love yourself so much that you're not even gonna believe it!
laRubiaBonita Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 This helped a lot, thank you. The phone idea actually sounds good. I think I'll just turn it off and tell a friend to hide it, haha. I'm excited for tonight, I'm just afraid I'll do something I'll regret. then don't go. maybe the feeling that you will do something you regret is cause you are having a sixth sense feeling that the party will get busted and everyone will get arrested.......
melodymatters Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 As you know jaeger bombs are a mix of one shot jaeger mixed with red bull and taken as a SHOT. Yes, this can get you f*cked up quickly ! I am an experienced drinker and I ALWAYS sip my shots. You DON'T need to shoot it, make it a cocktail and try to keep it to one every half and hour to an hour. Don't smoke right away, see how you are feeling because pot is going to kick in your drinking buzz big time. And I agree with hiding your phone. Also eat something before you go and make SURE you have a safe ride home or sleep there ! Otherwise have fun !
carhill Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I can't speak for your friends, but my social circle cuts people off (drinking) if we know they get unstable or are going through a tough time. I've been cut off at times while going through my divorce. Essentially, I get served the water and lemon, or coffee. If I was sincerely fearful of losing control, especially if the friends aren't a conscientious safety net, I wouldn't go. Reading the topic list of threads you've started, I'll stick with that advice...
make me believe Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 It sounds like the only reason you want to drink is so that you have an excuse to contact your ex - you can always blame it on the alcohol later. So because of that, I would recommend you don't drink at all. But if you insist on drinking, and the only option is jager bombs, I agree with Melody that you should make it into a cocktail and drink it slowly. Once you start to feel buzzed, take it easy for awhile before you have your next one. If shots are REALLY the only option, just take one and then chill out for like an hour before you have another.
Art_Critic Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 It sounds like the only reason you want to drink is so that you have an excuse to contact your ex - you can always blame it on the alcohol later. So because of that, I would recommend you don't drink at all. That is what it sounds like... Good thing you posted on LS.. it gave us time to talk you out of contacting your ex..
SadKitty78 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 The last thing I want is to be sh*t-faced, throwing up, crying, depressed and feeling like the world is ending. And most of all, I do not want to drunk call/text my ex... that would be disastrous, because 1) I don't want to talk to her, and 2) she's most likely partying tonight and I know if I accidentally contact her, I will hear something I do not want to hear. Be very careful! My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago but I've texted him at the 1 week mark, the 2 week mark, and then the other night I called and had a 35 min conversation with him! Do I remember what I said or why I texted/contacted him in those intervals?! I HAD ALCOHOL IN ME EACH AND EVERY TIME! AND WAS I DRUNK DRUNK? NO! EVEN BUZZED WILL MAKE ME CONTACT HIM! I even removed his info from my phone and I don't know his # by heart, but when I was drunk, somehow I knew it! Isn't that something! So please, just shut off your phone if you have to, but please be careful! You'll feel embarassed, ashamed, and feel even crappier when you drunk contact an ex!
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