secretlady76 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 This might be the first weekend that I am happy about the fact that it is the weekend (sounds odd I know). I am on NC with MM (I am a MW) but I have to see him in the week, although only very briefly. Therefore I don't see him at all at the weekends. When the EA was in full swing weekends were hard as I couldn't see him or speak to him for obvious reasons and it seemed to go on forever. However, now I am feeling positive that I'm not seeing him over the weekend, in fact I am looking forward to it as I won't have the emotion stirring the brief contact creates throughout the week. Here's to a good weekend full of fun and no thoughts of anything other than that. For those of you who know what I am talking about I wish you a good weekend too.
Hazyhead Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Have a fantastic one SL; plan something fun with those close to you. Enjoy being you again
joey66 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 This might be the first weekend that I am happy about the fact that it is the weekend (sounds odd I know). I am on NC with MM (I am a MW) but I have to see him in the week, although only very briefly. Therefore I don't see him at all at the weekends. When the EA was in full swing weekends were hard as I couldn't see him or speak to him for obvious reasons and it seemed to go on forever. However, now I am feeling positive that I'm not seeing him over the weekend, in fact I am looking forward to it as I won't have the emotion stirring the brief contact creates throughout the week. Here's to a good weekend full of fun and no thoughts of anything other than that. For those of you who know what I am talking about I wish you a good weekend too. You know I know what you are talking about. I particularly know about the emotion caused by brief contact during the week. I envy your strength. Thanks for the positive post! ETA: Are you going to be with your own H? How did you feel spending weekend time with your H and thinking about MM?
Hazyhead Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 You know I know what you are talking about. I particularly know about the emotion caused by brief contact during the week. I envy your strength. Thanks for the positive post! ETA: Are you going to be with your own H? How did you feel spending weekend time with your H and thinking about MM? Come on guys! We can do better than this - try NOT to think of them! I know it's hard but it is possible. Enjoy yourself!
Author secretlady76 Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 You know I know what you are talking about. I particularly know about the emotion caused by brief contact during the week. I envy your strength. Thanks for the positive post! ETA: Are you going to be with your own H? How did you feel spending weekend time with your H and thinking about MM? Hi Jo...."my own H"?....what, as opposed to anyone elses?!!!!! Yes I will be with 'my own H' and I'll try not to think about MM, I mean is he thinking about me?! Doubt it, so why should I give him that honour?!!!!
Just a stone's throw Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I know exactly what you mean, SL!! It's that work A. No one, and I mean NO ONE should look that forward to the work week!! It's just not healthy for so many reasons. I so look forward to the weekends now. I am in love with my husband again and it feels great!!
Author secretlady76 Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 I know exactly what you mean, SL!! It's that work A. No one, and I mean NO ONE should look that forward to the work week!! It's just not healthy for so many reasons. I so look forward to the weekends now. I am in love with my husband again and it feels great!! ....if only I knew him through work.........at least I could get a new job.....if only it was that simple....
Owl Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 What other 'way to know him' is there that you couldn't block him out of??? If it's in the gym, change gyms. If he's one of your kid's teacher or coach and you see him when you pick them up...make arrangements to have your child walk to the other end of the building to be picked up. If it's at a hobby/recreational event...find a new venue, or find a new hobby. The only other thing I could think of would be if he's a neighbor, but that doesn't make sense as you'd be more likely to see him there. What steps are you taking to remove him from the picture completely?
joey66 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 ....if only I knew him through work.........at least I could get a new job.....if only it was that simple.... SL, sometimes you frighten me. Your story is very similar to mine in many, many ways. Sorry about the " ... your own H ... " comment. It reads a lot worse than I meant it. I meant no disrespect. And I am genuinely happy that you are feeling good.
Author secretlady76 Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 What other 'way to know him' is there that you couldn't block him out of??? If it's in the gym, change gyms. If he's one of your kid's teacher or coach and you see him when you pick them up...make arrangements to have your child walk to the other end of the building to be picked up. If it's at a hobby/recreational event...find a new venue, or find a new hobby. The only other thing I could think of would be if he's a neighbor, but that doesn't make sense as you'd be more likely to see him there. What steps are you taking to remove him from the picture completely? Thank you for your suggestions. However, you can understand that I cannot say on here how I know him or why I can't avoid it but believe me when I say that I cannot avoid it. HOWEVER, there is an end to it so I am focusing on that. And I have to say that now when I see him I don't feel so much anymore and this site has a lot to say for that. In fact, in a way it's nice because when I do see him I think about all the people on here and I feel I am not standing there on my own, I have a team behind me that he knows nothing about, who are supporting me though this experience. It's great really. Thanks guys.
Author secretlady76 Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 SL, sometimes you frighten me. Your story is very similar to mine in many, many ways. Sorry about the " ... your own H ... " comment. It reads a lot worse than I meant it. I meant no disrespect. And I am genuinely happy that you are feeling good. How funny, I have thought exactly the same!
Author secretlady76 Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 What other 'way to know him' is there that you couldn't block him out of??? If it's in the gym, change gyms. If he's one of your kid's teacher or coach and you see him when you pick them up...make arrangements to have your child walk to the other end of the building to be picked up. If it's at a hobby/recreational event...find a new venue, or find a new hobby. The only other thing I could think of would be if he's a neighbor, but that doesn't make sense as you'd be more likely to see him there. What steps are you taking to remove him from the picture completely? Actually, I was thinking about what you had written here above and thinking about it, yes I could put in place a procedure where I could avoid him. However the problem I have here is that to do that would mean giving up something that it very very important to me, more important than him and actually more important than the emotional rollercoaster I am on when I see him.....so therefore I am not willing to give up the more important thing just so I don't have to see him. Hope this makes sense.
joey66 Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Actually, I was thinking about what you had written here above and thinking about it, yes I could put in place a procedure where I could avoid him. However the problem I have here is that to do that would mean giving up something that it very very important to me, more important than him and actually more important than the emotional rollercoaster I am on when I see him.....so therefore I am not willing to give up the more important thing just so I don't have to see him. Hope this makes sense. It makes sense to me. Below is something I posted a couple of weeks ago in a different thread. We do not work together and I do not know her spouse. (Thank goodness!) Beyond that, I'd prefer not to say. I absolutely COULD take action to ensure that I never see her again, but it would mean giving up something I love dearly. Something I love more than her.
Author secretlady76 Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 It makes sense to me. Below is something I posted a couple of weeks ago in a different thread. Now this is getting scary.......see the similarities in these two posts??!!
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